Table of contents for 6/18/2020 in Move!

THE country has just moved to level 3 of lockdown. Many South Africans have gone back to their jobs, some have sent their children back to school and life is going back to normal – except it isn’t. We are still in the midst of a pandemic, and the numbers are scary. When the president said it is now up to us, he was calling on all South Africans to take charge of their health. We can’t let our guards down. Just because the economy is open, it does not mean it’s now a free-for-all. Now is the time to take responsibility. Keep making sure you don’t go outside unnecessarily, that you observe the rules when you go back to church and only shop when you need to. It is…

ABIDE BY THE RULES Great Expectations Social Club emphasises being understanding and tolerant of one another as well as the importance of record-keeping. Everything that is done in the group must be documented and signed. Members are also required to understand the rules of the group and the consequences of not complying with the laws of the club. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to: move@media24.com…

SHE’S gone international: her new Netflix series is No.1 in many countries and her name is now on everyone’s lips. But she’s not new to the spotlight. Amamkele Qamata shot to fame when Gomora hit local TV screens a few months ago. She’s always loved attention, she tells us. Because when most girls her age were happy to play dress up with their dolls, she enjoyed playing dress up onstage. As a child, Ama loved the spotlight and when she received astanding ovation as Snow White in a school play, she knew she wanted to be a star. Not too long ago very few people had heard of her but since Gomora took the country by storm, the actress has become the talk of the town. Ama, who plays Buhle…

NESTLED in the creative hub of Maboneng in downtown Johannesburg, it’s no surprise he’s inspired by culture. Xhosa trap musician Sinethemba “Snymaan” Bibi recently released his first single since signing with Ambitiouz Entertainment. “When I’m writing I do prefer to be in my own space. I like to write then play the song out to myself.” The new track, Umvulo, is part of his own genre of music, qabanation, which is about being true to yourself. The single is all about starting something new. “Just like Monday is the start of a new week, so Umvulo signifies the chance to start afresh, the anticipation of knowing that something great is coming and that even though things might seem difficult, one should have the courage to keep going through all the…

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Q CAN’T HIDE MY FEELINGS My son is dating a girl and they plan to marry. The problem is I don’t like her or her family. There are many reasons. I told my son to carefully choose who he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Now he is upset with me and doesn’t visit me. What can I do? Ican’t hide my feelings about her. UPSET, EMAIL You are unnecessarily putting your son in a very painful and unfair position by having to choose between you and his girlfriend. Allow your son to choose the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with. As a parent, you can share your concerns with him and advise him, but that is it. Allow him to consider…

‘YOUR NEED TO MASTURBATE SHOULDN’T INTERFERE WITH EVERYDAY TASKS’ Dr Babalwa Funda kaMabhoza is an educational sexologist and businesswoman. She is a member of the Southern African Sexual Health Association (Sasha) and African Society for Sexual Medicine (ASSM). Q FEMALE-CONDOM FEAR I read about the female condom in your magazine. I’m considering getting one since my boyfriend doesn’t want to use a condom. I’m a bit nervous about using it but I want to have protected sex. STAYING SAFE, EMAIL A A female condom is inserted into the vagina before sex. It can be inserted eight hours before intercourse, which allows it time to settle in the vagina and decreases the chance of displacement and breakage. To insert it, get comfortable and insert it as if you’re putting in a…

ORATILE RATI SEKOBOANE Being a full-time mother and a wife is not easy. Talk to your husband and reach an agreement on how to solve this issue. Sex plays a huge role in relationships, whether you are married or not. AUBREY AYOBA MNISI Consult a professional and be honest about how you feel about each other. Find a way to work it out and remember that in marriage, there are two parties. LANGELIHLE GREY The woman has three kids. I’m sure she is the primary caregiver, cleans the whole house, does laundry and even cooks. At the end of the day, I’m sure all she wants to do is rest.…

■ “An authoritative parenting style that’s warm and supportive but sets consistent limits in a loving way is proved to be beneficial in instilling resilience,” says Jodi Lord, a Cape Town counsellor specialising in play therapy. ■ If you hear your child say something negative about themselves or their abilities, switch their comment to a positive one. They might say, “I can’t do this!” Counter with, “You mean you can’t do it yet. That’s okay – you’re still figuring it out.” ■ Help kids – especially teens – to keep things in perspective and understand that negative experiences are simply part of life and don’t mean everything is negative, says Claire Kingwill, an educational psychologist from Cape Town.…

IT’S easy to become depressed about things happening in the world today, especially with the outbreak of Covid-19 and the economic pressure it has brought. But always remember that there is no situation that lasts forever. Every problem has its expiry date written with invisible ink. Ask God to help you not to make ill-informed decisions due to these pressures that life’s challenges bring. POVERTY & SIN Many decisions taken under the pressure of poverty bring undesirable consequences. In Genesis 27, Esau sells his birthright to his brother for a stew. In Genesis 12:10, Esau’s grandfather, Abraham, almost sold his wife because of famine in the land. Poverty can push you to sell your birthright and what belongs to you if you are not grounded in the Word of the…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

Shona Ferguson’s character, Jerry “Robocop” Maake, is exiting The Queen. Move! readers share what they’ll miss the most about him. The way he is so strict and the way he opens his briefcase. THAMSANQA KA KHUMALO Bye, Mr Maake. I was going to cry and fast the whole week if it was Shona, unfortunately it’s you. Fare thee well. BONGIWE CLEOPATRA NGOWAPI Nothing. We know he’s gonna come back mos. SIBONGILE DHLAMINI The way he speaks. SLUJA MENDU I’ll miss his robotic walk. XOLISWA MAXOLZA NKABINI Bye-bye, Robocop. You will not be missed by me. NKOSIYABO DICKSY…

WHILE salons in South Africa remain closed to curb the spread of the killer coronavirus, people have been tearing their hair out wondering what to do with their crowns. Some have taken matters into their own hands, trimming their relaxed ends, braiding their hair or shaving it off completely. In Kenya, where salons can operate under strict conditions, hairdresser Sharon Refa has erected a makeshift shop beside a busy road in the township of Kibera, Nairobi. Sharon’s salon recently came under the spotlight when she started braiding children’s hair in a ’do dubbed the coronavirus hairstyle. The hairdo has taken the country by storm because of its similarity to the Covid-19’s crown of club-shaped spikes. The coronavirus has killed more than 50 people in the east African country with more…

SHE’S got a lot to be grateful for. Even though the country has been plunged into chaos by a pandemic, she’s counting her blessings. Mmatema Gavu (formerly Moremi) is keeping the faith and trusting God for better days and an end to the pandemic. The presenter and actress has been worshiping and praying hard at home with her producer husband, Tshepo Gavu. “It’s a difficult time for everyone and we’re all just trying to keep positive, hopeful and trust God,” she says. They’ve been working on a single, Yahweh, that’s set to drop this month. “Worship and reading the Word of God is a big part of what keeps us motivated and encouraged. It also fills us with wisdom,” she adds. Mmatema (28) made her start in showbiz in Idols…

FOR many of our local stars, lockdown has led to a lot more time spent in the kitchen. From delicious dishes to beautiful bakes, celebs’ Instagram snaps have left our mouths watering! Take a look at what some of them have been cooking up – they’ve definitely given us food for thought.…

TOAD-IN-THE-HOLE Cut this easy-to-make dish of sausages in a pudding batter into chunky slices and serve it with gravy spooned over. SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 15 MIN COOKING: 30 MIN ■ oil ■ 8 pork sausages ■ 4 rosemary sprigs BATTER ■ 250ml (1c) milk ■ 125ml (½c) flour ■ a pinch of salt ■ 3 eggs GRAVY ■ 30g butter ■ 1 onion, sliced ■ 125ml (½c) red wine ■ 125ml (½c) beef stock ■ 5ml (1t) Dijon mustard ■ salt and pepper SALAD ■ 225g green beans, blanched ■ a handful of cherry tomatoes, halved ■ 1 red pepper, chopped ■ a handful of parsley, chopped ■ 4 garlic cloves, minced ■ 60ml (¼c) Greek dressing ■ 60g feta, crumbled Preheat the oven to 220°C. 1 Batter Mix the…

1 Former Idols SA contestants Viggy and Virginia Qwabe recently showed off their new . . .? A Audi B Jeep C Mercedes-Benz D BMW 2 Which province has the most confirmed cases of Covid-19? A Gauteng B Eastern Cape C Western Cape D Limpopo 3 Which symbol is associated with the Ancient Egyptian god Ra? A Ibis B Scarab C Cat D Hippo 4 Leaders of the Gabola Church were recently arrested for . . .? A Breaking lockdown rules B Drunk driving C Embezzlement D Public indecency 5 The era in the United States when it was illegal to sell alcoholic beverages was known as . . .? A Lockdown B Prohibition C The Great Depression D The Purge 6 During peak production, how many eggs can a…

SHE whirls into the principal’s office in expensive heels, ready to mow down anyone who stands in her way. Like a mama bear protecting her young, she fights anyone who gets in the way of her daughter’s happiness, whether it be a teacher or a student. She uses her sharp wit and family money to make sure things go her way. Xolile Tshabalala plays Fikile’s mother in the new Netflix original series, Blood & Water. It seems like the perfect role as she’s played a villain mother before. She was the popular Julia Motene in Generations for a few years. She’s always drawn to motherhood roles, she says. “I do not have children of my own, and it is no secret that I have had a miscarriage in the past,”…

HE’S used to putting himself in other’s people’s shoes. The TV presenter and social media personality is known for his funny videos and impersonations, giving fans a glimpse into various celebrities’ lives with his videos. Now Inno Matijane (22) is giving viewers a closer look into his life. His reality TV show, The Way Ngingakhona, reveals the pain and sadness in the life of one of SA’s funniest entertainers. He tells Move! about the pain that’s made him who is. REAL LIFE “Being gay is not a disease, society is,” Inno says in the show’s intro. His co-stars are Tholang Motsumi, who is transgender, and MJ Maponya, who is bisexual. During the first season, the trio come out to their families and zoom into the lives of the LGBTQ+ community…

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‘WHEN A PERSON DIES, THEIR DEBT STILL NEEDS TO BE PAID’ Q ACCESS TO FAMILY HOME DENIED My parents were married in community of property. My mother passed away and now my father is living with my stepmom in the house. She is denying us access to the home. They were married in a traditional ceremony. What can we do about it? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A Firstly, it must be determined who the owner of the house is. If the house belonged to your parents and your father inherited it upon the death of your mother, your stepmother acquired 50% ownership of the house when they married. This is by virtue of being in a customary marriage, which is automatically in community of property. As owners of the house, they have…

GEMINI 21 MAY –20 JUN Mercury is going retrograde this week, which could have bearing on different aspects of your life. You may find your gift of the gab letting you down, glitches breaking your speed or changing schedules causing disruption. It’s, however, the perfect time to slow down somewhat, rethink and replan, revise and reconsider. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 8, 18, 12, 23, 35, 43 CANCER 21 JUN – 21 JUL The sun is moving into your sign this week, meaning it will soon be time to celebrate your birthday and sail off into a new personal year. Whether you want to spend your special day with family or have fun with friends, it should be a memorable occasion. While it will probably be natural for you to reminisce, take…

Power couple and co-authors Mo and Phindi Grootboom advise a woman who has a very different sex drive to her husband. My husband and I have been married for 13 years and we have three kids. The biggest problem in our relationship is how different our sex drives are. If it were up to him, we would have sex twice a day. I’m fine with once every month or two months. During lockdown, we have sex more often but he gets frustrated when I’m not excited about doing it and I feel like we do it too much! Is there a middle ground? I’ve been sceptical about scheduling sex, but is this a strategy you recommend? WIFE…

The term“growth mindset”was coined by Carol Dweck, aprofessor of psychology at Stanford University in the US, after she became interested in students’attitudes about failure. In one of her many studies, Dweck offered four-year-olds a choice of either redoing an easy puzzle or trying a different, challenging one. Most children with fixed mindsets (a belief that character, intelligence and creative ability can’t be changed) chose the easy puzzle to affirm their abilities. Those with growth mindsets (the belief you can get the desired result with the right attitude, strategy and practise) chose the challenge of something new. Here are examples of how the internal dialogue differs between a fixed and agrowth mindset. Fixed mindset When I fail, I’m no good. Growth mindset When I fail, I learn. Fixed mindset I compare…

GET ME OUT OF HERE! A worker at a package-processing centre is trapped in a toilet stall that has a faulty lock. When he’s finally found, two other workers manage to open the door with some difficulty. The lock is still jammed, so they keep the door open with a doorstop while a maintenance worker is called. A bit later, one of the workers notices the door is closed again. He jiggles the doorknob and a voice from inside calls, “Get me out!” “Don’t worry,” the worker replies, “maintenance should be sending somebody soon.” “They did,” the voice replies. “I am the maintenance!” SWEET POTATOES Every morning during their coffee break, a group of office workers listen to the culinary disasters of a newlywed colleague. They then try to share…

LOOKING FOR LOVE I’m a 31-year-old lady from North West. I have two kids and I’m looking for a single, working man who also has kids. He must be between the ages of 34 and 39, tall and ready to love and be loved. SMS or call me on 079-722-4366 I’m a 22-year-old single gay guy from Rustenburg and I’m looking for a partner between the ages of 22 and 35. Remember, age is just a number, what is important is maturity and love. If you are interested, contact me on 065-862-2602 I’m a 33-year-old male from Pretoria. I’m looking for an independent mature lady between the ages of 28 and 31 with no more than two children. Email me on sibisimduduzi1@gmail. com I am 29-year-old man from Limpopo looking…

I WAS abandoned by my paternal family. I was kicked out of the house – not for anything I did, but for the personal vendettas held against my mother. It still felt like it was my fault. How do I explain this without wishing to have been birthed to another family? DEPTHS OF DESPAIR I’d cry myself to sleep wondering if I’d be in a different situation if I had parents who were stable. I had to answer people’s questions:“Where do you stay now?” or “Why don’t you go back home?” When you go through major setbacks and everything feels like it’s tumbling down on you, it’s easy to slip into depression, and that’s what happened to me. I faced devastating emotional abuse which resulted in depression and anxiety. I…