Table of contents for 2/5/2020 in Move!

LET’S ALL HELP I BELIEVE leaders are born everywhere, and what makes them distinctly special is that they grow up to bring changes to communities. Since most of us are from poor backgrounds, what can we contribute to better our societies? I am a professional who was assisted by others to be where I am today. I have a job that enables me to take care of my family and myself. ‘LET US BE THE CHANGE WE WANT TO SEE IN OUR COMMUNITIES’ To make the world a better place, I always make time when I am at home to go to my former school, Dayimani High, to teach the learners – free of charge. And it is not because I am smart, but because I believe there is always…

‘I OPEN MY SPIRIT AND MYSELF TO DIFFERENT SITUATIONS’ SHE’S a little hard to book for a sit-down. It’s not because she doesn’t want to, she’s quick to assure us, but because she’s a little tight on time with back-to-back premieres and interviews. Clementine Mosimane (55) has had a busy year and it’s just started. She’s the lead in the movie Poppie Nongena and is also in BET Africa’s new series, Black Tax. “Don’t worry, take your time,” she assures us when we catch up. BECOMING POPPIE She’s been a regular on TV screens since the ’90s but she’s got over 30 years’ experience and shows no signs of slowing down. “When you are humble, you attract people, you attract work,” she says. She’s worked on almost all kinds of…

HER new role is far removed from her last. She’s best known for playing Palesa Mooki Letswalo, an HIVpositive character, in e.tv soap opera Scandal!. Now Refilwe Madumo has landed a role in Mzansi Magic’s new show, Omen. “It’s been crazy but it’s been awesome. It’s a crazy show,” she says. GETTING THE ROLE Her audition lasted only two minutes so she thought she didn’t get the part. “There were so many people at the audition and they were moving us in and out very quickly so I never thought I would get the role.” As an actress she didn’t worry about it. But it turned out, two minutes was enough to impress the producers. She plays the character Lizi, a pastor who grew up in a home where they…

IT SHOULD have been the start of a bright new chapter – their youngest child was off to a prestigious school where he’d build the foundation for a promising future. But for Enock Mpianzi, it was over before it even began. The tragic circumstances around the death of the 13-year-old Parktown Boys’High School learner have united South Africans in outrage. How could the school only realise he was missing the next day? The topic dominated the media – but for one family, the furore only added to their grief. A dark cloud hangs over the home in Malvern, Johannesburg, where the Mpianzi family live. His mom, Anto (45), is taking the tragedy especially hard. Her last-born was her be-all and end-all, she says. She nicknamed him her“handbag”because they went everywhere…

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THERE is an assumption that once you start your ARVs, everything is going to be a smooth ride. It is a fact that by taking ARVs, we are setting ourselves up to regain our wellbeing. However, to assume that we won’t face glitches is a bit unrealistic. And if we’re not prepared, we may end up being overwhelmed and in despair if we stumble. Acknowledging that we might encounter some health issues should not cause unnecessary anxiety or a negative outlook about the journey with HIV. Instead, it’s about preparing ourselves to manoeuvre through all eventualities. DEVELOP A PROACTIVE ATTITUDE TOWARDS HEALTH SCARES In all aspects of life, obstacles can arise. That’s why people take insurance and businesses do SWOT analyses to ensure they can face any difficulties and…

AQUARIUS 21 JAN – 18 FEB First impressions count, whether you want to have a successful job interview or catch the eye of the one who’s pulling at your heartstrings. You might want to change the style and colour of your hair, revamp your wardrobe or coin a style. If your physique is not up to your level, consider a lifestyle change or two. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 49, 33, 3, 13, 51, 21 PISCES 19 FEB – 20 MAR Venus, planet of attraction, moves into your financial horoscope, as good as it gets for money matters. Even if you’re not all that concerned with the material world, money can still make dreams come true. Make the most of opportunities. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 19, 4, 31, 44, 50, 22 ARIES 21…

“We have seen that some in-laws will not recognise girlfriends at all until they are officially married to their sons,” says Gladys Pule, a life coach and registered professional nurse based in Johannesburg. “Maybe that is the case with your boyfriend’s mother. You don’t have the power to change this. Your man is the only one who can resolve this by paying lobola and marrying you. Four years and a child is good enough to take the relationship to the next level. “He must respect you and not just enjoy the benefits of having a wife when he has not done the right thing. If he respects you, everyone else will follow suit. “Once this is done your man will have to slowly cut down on doing everything for his…

A COUPLE’S VIEW Power couple and co-authors Mo and Phindi Grootboom advise a woman whose man refuses to practise safe sex. My boyfriend of four years refuses to take my views on safe sex seriously. We have never used protection before, but after he cheated on me I realised that we needed to practise safe sex. He believes that as long as I’m using the pill and not at risk of conceiving, it’s fine. I prefer to use a condom all the time. I don’t even perform oral sex on him because of the potential risks. He also says he doesn’t need an HIV test as I am negative and this means he is too. I’ve tried in vain to explain that this is not how testing and safe sex…

SUCCESS does not happen by default. There are always steps to take to ensure we reach our goals. Whatever your plan is, put God at the very centre. If you have never given your life to Christ, may this be the year when you do. If you have drifted away, make a U-turn and recommit. Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways submit to Him and He will make your paths straight.” INVEST IN YOUR HEALTH You cannot accomplish much with poor health. Make a decision to take care of your mind and your body. Be mindful of the food you eat and be mindful of how much stress you allow to affect you. 3 John…

BETWEEN 0-10 It seems that you have forgotten that you go on holiday for a good time. You need to make sure that you enjoy yourself. Don’t be such a loner. Try to get more involved in organised activities. Meeting people and making new friends is all part of the fun. BETWEEN 11-20 You are determined to have a great time on holiday, but don’t always succeed, mostly due to trying too hard. The trouble is you attempt to cram in too much. Check out the activities available before leaving home so that you can spend your time in a structured way. BETWEEN 21-30 It is obvious that you could give other people lessons on how to have a fantastic time on holiday. You certainly know how to get the…

I USED to be part of a learnership programme at a particular mine where I earned R2 500 every month. I would spend R1 500 on my basic needs and saved R1 000 because I wanted to learn to drive once I was done with the programme. I wasn’t very far into my savings when I was cheated out of my money by someone I thought I could trust. CALL FOR HELP It was a Sunday afternoon when one of the young men who was also in the programme called me. He asked me to lend him money. He told me that his sister is very sick and that he needed R1 000 urgently to hire a vehicle to transport her to hospital. Looking back, I think he called me…

WHEN you make your kids’ lunch today, spare a thought for the parents of whose kids died barely a week into the school year. Spare a thought for the parents of Parktown Boys’ High School’s Enock Mpianzi, who drowned during a school orientation outing in January. Think about the parents of the two children who died when they were crushed by a wall at the Lekgolo Primary School at GaMamaila village in Sekgosese and the parents of an eight-year-old who was killed in QwaqQwa while fetching water for her family. These parents will have to face the empty beds. Once the officials have finished their investigations, and they’ve moved on to the next case, the loneliness will hit the families. It’s only a few weeks into 2020 and some families…

RESPECT AND ORDER As the members each have different personalities, the club’s priority has always been to be accommodative. The members each have their own opinion on what they would like the stokvel to do for them so they share their ideas and goals with each other and discuss ways to achieve them. Showing respect for fellow members and abiding by the stokvel’s constitution also helps to manage conflict. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to: move@media24.com…

HE’S a man in a lot of pain right now. The cops keep knocking on his door, his brother-in-law was recently shot and his diamonds are missing. There’s a lot going on in his life, but the one thing that remains constant is his English, which he throws out in spades, whether he’s drinking at a tavern or spending time with his family. That’s Cobra aka Cobreezy for you. The man who plays him, Presley Chweneyagae, thankfully has none of that kind of drama in real life. He’s sipping on a Red Bull and psyching himself up for a full day of shooting for the hit telenovela The River when we catch up with him. Not long after the interview starts, he pauses to greet one of the cleaning staff…

Human rights attorney Richard Spoor says while parents signed indemnity forms, it’s the duty of the person who seeks the indemnity to spell out precisely what the nature of the danger is.“If this child died as a result of the negligence of people in whose care he was, those people could be held criminally liable as well.” He says the parents can launch a civil claim for damages and for any costs such as the cost of the funeral. “There’re the damages for emotional shock suffered by the parents. There’s possibly a claim for constitutional damages for violating the child’s right to life and the family’s dignity. There can be instances where there’s no individual liable but where the entity itself – such as the school or the resort –…

Nthabiseng Monareng holds LLB and LLM degrees from Wits University. Nthabi has more than 10 years’ experience in the legal field, specialising in family law. She’s written books on family law and is a family law mediator. Q BALLOON PAYMENT In 2018, my parents sold a car. My father is still paying the instalments and the new owner agreed to pay R3 100 each month until the car is paid off. He recently stopped paying and asked us about the balloon payment, which we don’t understand. My father is a pensioner and needs this money. What legal action can we take for him to bring back the car or pay my father the remaining balance? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A When a car is under car finance and is still owned by…

Mama Madikgetla is a registered social worker in private practice. She provides counselling to individuals, couples and families. She holds a Bachelor of Social Work, an honours degree in psychology and is currently pursuing a master’s degree in social work. Q FAMILY FEUD I’m a 32-year-old woman married to a 49-year-old man. His children from his previous marriage constantly disrespect me and he doesn’t do anything about it. The last time I had a big fight with his son he just forced him to say sorry. When my child does something, he always shouts at him but when his children do something, he lets it slide. DISRESPECTED, EMAIL A Building a blended family comes with its challenges and your problem in particular is one of the more common ones. It…

Dr Babalwa Funda kaMabhoza is an educational sexologist and businesswoman. She is a member of the Southern African Sexual Health Association (Sasha) and African Society for Sexual Medicine (ASSM). Q REIGNITING THE SPARK I don’t feel sexually excited about my boyfriend anymore. Sex with him has become boring. But I love him and don’t want to lose him. What can I do to get our spark back? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A If your sexual journey is not nurtured, it dies a natural death. Romance involves being able to be vulnerable and communicate everything about the relationship to each other, without being destructive. You both should think about your sexual journeys and what you’d like to change. Don’t feel bad about talking about it and putting your plan into action. It can…

1 How many kilojoules in half a kilogram of body fat? A 200 B 2 000 C 350 D 14 700 2 How many kilojoules do you need to cut down on or burn each day if you want to lose half a kilogram in one week? A 2 100 B 500 C 5 000 D 21 3 How many kilojoules in a chicken salad sandwich? A 500 B 1 000 C 1 500 D 2 000 4 How many kilojoules in a burger? A 1 005 B 2 005 C 3 005 D 4 005 5 How many kilojoules in a standard glass of wine? A 50 B 5 000 C 500 D 100 6 How many kilojoules in a can of beer? A 5 000 B 50 C…

ONE of the risks you take by continuing a relationship with someone who cheated on you includes dealing with the possibility of STDs (sexually transmitted diseases). He may have ended his affairs but if he had unprotected sex with his lovers, then you are exposed to untold danger. He may look down on the possibility of him having contracted some STD because he’s foolishly judging the situation based on the fact that all his limbs seem to be working just fine. But STDs take time to show up on the exterior. You can’t tell whether someone has an infection by looking at them. Just because he can’t see any obvious sores or warts, that does not mean he’s free of STDs. HIS RESPONSIBILITY Getting tested after an affair is not…

Occupational therapy (OT) can help to improve a child’s motor, cognitive and sensory skills. An occupational therapist evaluates a child’s playing skills, their performance at school and their daily activities, and compares them with what’s developmentally appropriate for their age group. Children might need OT if they show any of these signs: ■ Clumsiness or uncoordinated movements when running, hopping and skipping. ■ Extreme difficulty fastening buttons, doing up zips, tying shoelaces, and manipulating other small items. ■ Inability to cross their midline. A quick test: tell your child to stand with their arms in the air then march on the spot by lifting their left knee and at the same time bringing their right hand down to touch that knee, alternating with the opposite hand and knee. ■ Incorrect…

■ Plant in tyres Potatoes grow well in tyres. Place some mulch as deep as a length of an adult hand, lay potato seeds with the “eyes” or shoots facing up. Cover with mulch. As the potatoes grow, keep adding mulch, making sure a few leaves stick out the top. ■ Use bottles for hanging plants Cut three or four bottles and paint them in bright colours. Make two holes in the top of the bottle on both sides, then thread a string through the holes to join the bottles in a vertical row. Fill the cut bottles with a soil and compost mix, remembering to make holes for drainage at the bottom of the bottles. ■ Grow veggies in a box Use an old wooden crate as a planter.…

AFTER spending years as a supporting artist, he’s now promoting his own album, You Are My Everything – the CD and live recording DVD are set to be released in May. It was previously released last year but only for downloads. Zimbabwe-born gospel singer Justice Sunduza (34) tells us that his debut record is based on his favourite Bible scripture, Psalm 23, “The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not be in want. He restores my soul. He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” He says the songs on his album tell a story of what…

SOMETHINGSERIOUS I’m a 24-year-old single lady from Pretoria. I’m looking for a serious relationship. The guy must be from Pretoria; between the ages of 26 and 35; must not smoke; only drink occasionally; and have no more than one child. WhatsApp me on 067-943-9377 I’m a 36-year-old, HIVpositive mother of one. I’m looking for a partner between the ages of 36 and 47 who is ready to settle down. He must be honest, humble and reliable and from Joburg, Pretoria, Witbank or surrounding areas. Mail me on cebisalanga02@gmail.com I am a 40-year-old God-fearing man from Mamelodi, Pretoria. I am looking for a devout Christian lady who is ready to settle down. She must be aged between 28 and 40 and not have more than two children. Call or WhatsApp me…

Comedian Ashifashabba has promised his long-time fans that he’ll soon make a comeback to TV. Move! readers have their say. He made my childhood good. I even have his videos on my laptop, he is very funny. PHINDILE THERESA MATHEBULA No, please. Stay where you are. MANDISI TSHINGANA Shabba, we missed you and your jokes. LUCRECIA MASEGO SECHELE Come back, man, we have been waiting so long. VICTO BAOTLWAENG VICTOREY He was boring, though. LWANDILE MENZI NONDUDULE Very funny man indeed. CHARLOTTE MBIYO Nooo, stay wherever you are. Re sharp ka comedy ya gao. DINEO MAKHAMBENI Oh, I thought shabba died long time ago. ELIAS MALATJA Come back Ashifashaba you’re so talented man. THIVHAKONI COLBERT…

SHE’S not one to let grass grow under her feet. It was not that long ago that she shocked Mzansi with her Generations: The Legacy exit. Fast-forward a couple of months and Candice Modiselle is now the presenter of Style Squad – the Mzansi Magic programme showcasing the talent of budding local designers. LOOKING AHEAD Her positive outlook on life rubs off on those around her and she tells us it’s what has gotten her this far in life. Candice (25) is the youngest of the Modiselle sisters who are all in showbiz. “I just knew that I loved to entertain my family and from a very young age I started performing in theatre productions. All of it was preparing me for a greater purpose and platform,” she says. Her…

BEING an adult comes with its fair share of ups and downs, but it also means independence. Yet things turn out slightly different in BET Africa’s new comedy series, Black Tax. Single mom Thuli (played by Jo-Anne Reyneke) is faced with having to house her parents (played by Clementine Mosimane and Mandla Jwara) after they’re scammed out of their pension money. The series’ launch was held on Viacom’s rooftop in Bryanston, Johannesburg, and the star-studded event was attended by some familiar faces, including comedian Sne Dladla and comedian and actress Celeste Ntuli.…

NEW DAD The first-time father, beside himself with excitement over the birth of his son, is determined to do everything right. As his new family heads out the hospital door, he turns to the nurse and asks, “So tell me, what time should we wake the little guy in the morning?” THE PERFECT PARTNER “How is it you never married?” “I just never met the right woman. I guess I’ve been looking for the perfect girl.” “Oh, come on now, surely you have met at least one girl you wanted to marry.” “Yes, there was one once. I guess she was the one perfect girl, the only perfect girl I really ever met. She was just the right – everything! I think she was the perfect girl for me.” “Well,…

t – teaspoon/s T – tablespoon/s c – cup/s PERFECT CHICKEN LIVER PÂTÉ MAKES 375ML (1½C) PÂTÉ PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: 20 MIN ■ 15ml (1T) oil ■ 200g bacon rashers, chopped ■ 250g chicken livers, rinsed ■ 15ml (1T) brandy ■ 60ml (¼c) milk ■ 15ml (1T) dried mixed Italian herbs ■ handful of fresh parsley, chopped ■ grated zest of 1 lemon ■ salt and freshly ground pepper ■ 60ml (¼c) butter, melted ■ fresh parsley sprigs TO SERVE ■ toasted ciabatta slices 1 Heat the oil in a large pan and fry the bacon until done but not crisp. Add the livers and stir-fry until just done but still a little pink in the middle. 2 Add the brandy and stir-fry for 5 minutes. Transfer the liver…

FACE flushed? Out of breath? Feeling all tingly and satisfied? Whether you’ve had a good session in the gym or the bedroom, your body’s reaction is the same. This is because sex and exercise are linked – the more you exercise, the better your sex life will be. But just as certain workouts boost certain body parts, there are some exercises you can do to set fire to your bedroom skills. Here’s how to choose the right ones. HOW TO . . . Feel like a goddess The sexiest attribute in a woman is body confidence, according to a survey by Men’s Health magazine.“When you feel comfortable about your body, you’re far more likely to be experimental in the bedroom because you’re not worrying about how you look,”explains sex expert…

PEGGY MOKOENA Stand your ground. You are putting your life at risk by sleeping with him without protection. Tell him that taking a pill doesn’t prevent him from infecting you with a disease. NINIS MOPEDI I prefer a condom too, but most men don’t want to use one. It scares the hell out of me if a man doesn’t want to use a condom. You don’t know what he does behind your back! MMATHOLO GLORIA Love yourself and trust your instincts. He is very selfish and unrealistic, so try knocking some sense into his head. If he doesn’t change, start thinking about a future without him.…

The good news is you can help your children with simple activities at home. This will help them acquire the skills they need at school. ■ Kicking a ball around It helps them to gauge speed, space and distance. ■ Drawing Give them a big piece of paper and encourage them to stretch across the page and use all of it. ■ Movement songs Any song that gets your child to count or sing along while moving promotes coordination. ■ Hanging up washing Use pretend clothes or even just socks, Cape Town-based occupational therapist, René Lynch-Clifford suggests. Make a washing line with string between two chairs and let your child use pegs to hang the “washing”. It’s even better if you get them to kneel on an unstable surface –…