Table of contents for 1/29/2020 in Move!

LIVING IN FEAR I’m scared of going to public restrooms by myself. I’m scared of being left alone in the house with my male relatives. I’m scared of going for a jog because on the way, I might come across a man who feels entitled to my body. I’m scared of asking for directions when I’m lost. I’m scared of my religious leaders and police officers. My husband is great, caring and loving, but is he the same man around other women out there? Are they scared of him? Does he make them feel safe when they walk past, or does he make them feel uncomfortable? ‘WHAT’S WORSE – I’M SCARED OF WOMEN TOO!’ I’m scared to let my daughter out of the gate to play with my neighbours’ kids.…

SHE was first introduced to South Africans when she was crowned Miss SA Teen a few years ago. She then moved out of the public eye for a bit – but now she’s back and making waves, playing feisty human rights lawyer Bulelwa Jafta on Generations: The Legacy. Celeste Khumalo (27) describes herself as a woman who’s still finding her voice, making her mark while navigating through life with faith. THE CALL THAT CHANGED EVERYTHING She’s been on Generations: The Legacy for a few months now and says it still feels surreal. “It was exciting getting a call from Generations, even more so when I found out it was a lead role. Wow! Working almost every day is important as an actor because constant work means you get better.” Learning…

HE CAN melt even the hardest of hearts. Every time he appears in Scandal!, viewers can’t help but gush over him. Litlhonolofatso Litlhakanyane (10) might be a fan favourite, but the acting gig is just a means to an end for the actor who plays Tibi. What Litlhonolofatso really wants to do is to grow up and be a lawyer who has multiple companies, each making R15 million per year, he says. When he makes that much money, he says, he promises to give his mother, Palesa Litlhakanyane, a monthly allowance of R25 000. We catch up with the Grade 5 pupil between scenes at the Scandal!’ studio in Johannesburg. He’s watching wrestling on TV when the Move! team arrive. He might be a busy actor, but he’s excited that…

THINK cellphones and your mind automatically jumps to big-name brands such as Huawei, Samsung and Apple. But local entrepreneur Lebogang Mokubela is aiming to change this perception and show South Africans that local is lekker. With its big screen, glossy body and minimalist design the new Libra smartphone can proudly hold its own alongside handsets made by its rivals. But, what sets it apart is that it was conceived and designed in Soshanguve near Pretoria. Sure, there are other proudly SA phones, like the Mara handsets that are made in Durban, but the Libra is being branded as the first township-based smartphone brand. IT’S IN THE DETAIL Boasting 128GB on-board storage; a six-inch screen; 10 megapixel rear camera; 4MB RAM; dual SIM biometric fingerprint authentication; and 2,6GHz Deco Core Processor,…

SHE’D always been resourceful. Growing up in Gugulethu, Cape Town, she didn’t like to play with dolls because she couldn’t relate to the fair-skinned blonde-haired variety found in toy stores. So she set about scouring flea markets in search of second-hand dolls to experiment on. “I tried to re-colour a Barbie doll brown, but I didn’t like the result,” Yolanda Yawa-Donkers says. Today the 42-year-old is the proud owner of Luvuthando Dolls, a black doll brand that promotes diversity and aims to instil confidence in little boys and girls. “I am passionate about the black child and wanted to create a product that will be fun and inspiring,” she tells Move!. THE BEGINNING She made her first doll collection, which celebrates African beauty, in the images of her children, Luvuyo…

1 Rapper Ludacris recently became a citizen of which African country? A Chad B Cameroon C Gabon D DRC 2 American film director Spike Lee made history when he was announced as the first black jury head of the . . . film festival? A Sundance B Cannes C Venice D Tribeca 3 How many years are in a score? A 2 B 10 C 20 D 100 4 What do you call a group of cats? A Pride B Clowder C School D Troop 5 How many stepsisters did Cinderella have? A 2 B 3 C 4 D 5 6 Kiwifruit are indigenous to which country? A New Zealand B Australia C China D Thailand 7 Police want to question the wife of which country’s head of state regarding…

Round Shape When you look straight ahead the whites of your eyes are visible below your irises. Makeup Apply eyeshadow from the middle of your eyelid towards the outer corner, and just above the crease of the eye on the outer corner. Add a light colour on the inner corner of the eye and apply a thin winged line to the outer corner of the eye. Effect This frames the eyes, giving them a more prominent outline. Monolid Shape You don’t have creases, making the top of the eyelids droop slightly over your lashes. Makeup Using one colour, create a dark gradient from the lash line upwards. Do this by applying more product on your lash line for a darker effect and then fade it to a lighter colour as…

AQUARIUS 21 JAN – 18 FEB Mercury, the cosmic purse-carrier, moves into your financial horoscope this week. You may be fortunate and come across opportunities to fill your pockets through lucrative business deals, but you can be tricked out of money too. Either way, be on your toes. It’s also a great week to draw on your technological knowhow to earn a buck or two. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 8, 19, 16, 27, 32, 13 PISCES 19 Feb – 20 Mar Mercury, the cosmic networker, moves into your sign this week, which could be of benefit to many areas of your life. Mixing and mingling may yield desired results. Even if you’re a shy Pisces, rubbing shoulders with others might not be all that overwhelming. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 32, 2, 29,…

Dr Babalwa Funda kaMabhoza is an educational sexologist and businesswoman. She is a member of the Southern African Sexual Health Association (Sasha) and African Society for Sexual Medicine (ASSM). Q I WANT TO BE STRAIGHT I’m a 40-year-old gay man. I want to change my life and be a “full man”. I have never had sex with a woman but I would like to see how it is as I want to be a husband. ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A Bravo on being able to love across genders. You have been a “full man” and had proper relationships as a gay man and you will still be a full man with the choice you are making now. Deep love is not based on whether one lives in a body with a penis…

She’s become something of a poster child for conceiving despite living with endometriosis. American actress Tia Mowry (41) kicked off the New Year sharing a photo of herself with her two children – son Cree (8) and daughter Cairo (1) – with the hashtag #My happy place. In an interview with O Magazine, she spoke about her life with the condition. “I’d been experiencing extreme pelvic pain for years and went to several doctors. “Each one would brush me off. ‘Those are just really bad cramps, some women get them more severely’, one told me. ‘Just put heat on it’, one suggested. Another doctor simply said, ‘Get on the treadmill – working out helps’. “I ended up needing to have multiple surgeries because my symptoms got so bad. I will…

MOTSHIDISI MAROPE Sit down with your man and ask him what his plan is for the relationship and the child. And try to find psychological help – that pain won’t go away easily. I wish you all the best. MMA HLAHLA WAGA MMAPHIRI Tell him to go and support his baby and stay there. You will find yourself a good man. No woman should be forced to fall pregnant when they are not ready. BARBARA MATIKI You are going to be in baby-mama drama for the rest of your life, so you must keep this in mind when making future decisions. Be prepared to share your man’s love with the child.…

ARE you facing tough times? Have you been complaining about things that are hard, lonely and frustrating? Why not try praising and thanking God instead? For He knows about it and He cares for you. Without question, He has a purpose in every trial and tribulation. Start living a life of thanksgiving. I promise you on the authority of the Word of God, your attitude will change, the people around you will be blessed and Jesus Christ will be glorified. GOOD AND BAD TIMES It says in 1 Thessalonians 5:18, “In everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” Even in the worst situations, people can find new insights to praise and thank God. In Psalm 50:23, God says, “He who offers a sacrifice of…

SOMETHING SERIOUS I’m a 41-year-old woman from the North West. I’m employed and have two kids. I’m looking for a serious man, preferably around NW who’s working and who doesn’t have more than three kids. He must be 40-years or older. Call or WhatsApp 072-689-9219 LOOKING FOR A LOVING AND HONEST MAN I am a 47-year-old lady looking for a single, mature, independent, God-fearing, loving and honest man to start a serious relationship with. He must be between 46 and 50. WhatsApp me on 082-085-6118 READY TO COMMIT I am a 41-year-old HIVpositive man from Mafikeng. I am looking for a lady between the ages of 30 and 40 years old who is ready to commit. Call me on 060-994-8501 GOD-FEARING I am a 48-year-old single lady from KZN looking…

WHEN we hear stories of women being turned away at clinics, there’s always the initial reaction of shock. Then we move on to outrage and before long, we’ve moved on to the next big story, hoping that’s the last time we hear about a woman being forced to give birth on the side of the road. Ntombenhle Mthethwa felt labour pains in a taxi and was driven to the closest clinic. But she was allegedly turned away and forced to give birth in the taxi. This scared, first-time mom worried that the experience would kill both her and her baby. Luckily, she had a kind taxi driver who caught the baby and then drove them to the nearest hospital. While her story had a happy ending, many don’t. While the…

RULES AND REGULATIONS When a new member wants to join the stokvel club it is advisable to make it clear that they want to be committed. They must be aware of their financial standing and ensure that it does not get in the way of meeting their monthly obligation to the stokvel. A club should have rules and regulations which help the club work smoothly. It does not necessarily have to be an official document, it could be a book that all members can have access to, and they should sign to show that they understand how the stokvel functions. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to: move@media24.com…

SHE has a fiery temper. Wild, friendly and a ride-or-die friend, The Queen’s Shaqeesha, or Shaq, has quickly added some extra spice to the show. And Nambitha Ben-Mazwi (31) loves bringing the African-American girl from New York to life. She’s come a long way from playing 16-year-old Tswana-speaking Bontle Lesolle in Grassroots and a defence attorney in Diamond City. SASSY SHAQ She got the job a day after auditioning, Nambitha shares. She’s since made herself comfortable in Jerry Maake’s (played by Shona Ferguson) home. Shaq has no sense of belonging, Nambitha says, so she latches on to anything that feels like family. “She’s low-key obsessed with Amo [Natasha Thahane], basically anyone she has a connection to. She has a lot of baggage with a troubling past.” Playing Shaq has allowed…

A POWERFUL right hook slams into the punching bag, followed swiftly by a left hook. The bag takes a beating, and sweat pours off the brow of boxer Adesanya “Tony Torch” Adebayo as he shifts and moves around it, delivering a flurry of jabs, then uppercuts that would certainly destroy any opponent. Adesanya’s training routine would be a familiar sight in any gym offering boxing training, and while his movements personify Muhammad Ali’s famous quote, “Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee,” this boxer’s movements are with the aid of his wheelchair, rather than his footwork. KEEPING ACTIVE The Nigerian-born athlete has spent most of his life in a wheelchair, but he firmly believes nothing is impossible, and no dreams are too big to achieve. He tells Move! that…

1. CRISPY COLESLAW AND PORK SALAD SERVES 12 AS A SIDE PREPARATION: 15 MIN CHILLING: 1 HR ■ 300g coleslaw mix ■ 240g fresh OR canned pineapple cubes ■ 500g pork neck OR rump, seasoned, cooked and cubed DRESSING ■ 250ml (1c) mayonnaise ■ 125ml (½c) barbecue sauce ■ 60ml (¼c) mustard sauce ■ 30ml (2T) Worcestershire sauce ■ 30ml (2T) lime juice TO SERVE ■ handful of tortilla chips ■ 30g sliced almonds 1 In a large bowl, mix the coleslaw, pineapple and pork. 2 Dressing In small bowl, mix all the ingredients and whisk until smooth. 3 Add the dressing to the coleslaw mixture and toss to coat. 4 Refrigerate for at least 1 hour to help the flavours develop. 5 To serve Toss the salad and top…

Mama Madikgetla is a registered social worker in private practice. She provides counselling to individuals, couples and families. She holds a Bachelor of Social Work, an honours degree in psychology and is currently pursuing a master’s degree in social work. Q WE’RE NO LONGER IN LOVE I’ve been married for 12 years, but in the past two years my wife and I haven’t touched each other. I’m seeing another woman and I’m in love with her. I think my wife is also seeing someone because she hasn’t complained about our situation. My only worry is our children. How can we explain to our teens that we are no longer in love? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A You and your wife need to agree that neither of you loves each other any longer.…

“Depression is more common than we imagine and what you describe indicates a need for intervention,” says Noxolo Khoza, a Joburg-based psychologist. “I hope that you have come to terms with your diagnosis and that you have educated yourself about depression. I also hope those around you have a decent understanding of your condition in order to provide effective support. “Your desire to keep it to yourself is understandable. However, it might affect how well you cope in the long run in your social circle. It appears that you may be a little unwilling to engage, which is consistent with your diagnosis, whether with your seemingly happier colleagues or with your ‘mean’ boss. Seeing happy people when you feel the opposite can be unpleasant. “Have you thought about small coping…

FOR years, Joyous Celebration was her home as a singer. The gospel choir was where she was comfortable, happy and reached audiences across the country and the world. But Puleng March’s fans kept telling her that she had what it takes to make it on her own. In 2018, after seven years with Joy ous Celebration, she took the leap and released the single Ke Maketse Fela. She went solo despite not being sure if things would work out. “Joyous Celebration is like an institution – you come in and learn and build yourself. They encourage us to take what we learn and go out there.” In the end, she says she decided to put all her trust in God. “He brought me to Joyous and now carries me as…

We wanted to know who’s your favourite Mzansi leading lady on TV. Move! readers have their say. Skeem Saam’s Rachel Kunutu (played by Lesego Marakalla). She’s a fighter; she fights for what she wants and no one, including her mom, can stand in her way. She’s a go-getter and a risk-taker. That’s what I adore about her. PATTY NYANDU Connie Ferguson is the master mafia. She’s in her own league. Don’t even try to compare her. NANDI SELEPE My fave leading lady is Rachel. She’s such an underdog. I stan. NHLANHLA TROYBEE ZWANE MaNgcobo (Thandeka Dawn King in Uzalo) is more of a role model to me. AVENATHI MENDU I go with Rachel. She’s young and still growing stronger. The rest are already known. The young ones must be given…

SHE describes herself as a shy woman who just happens to enjoy talking. In e.tv’s Scandal! she plays a dramatic, unfiltered character who’s always up to no good – five days a week! But at home, actress Mapaseka Koetle-Nyokong (30) definitely is a bit on the shy side. She’s had a busy five years in the spotlight – she’s been a regular on Scandal!, got involved in the food business, married and had a child, yet she’s still the same down-to-earth woman she was when she first entered the TV industry. BEING AN ACTRESS Mapaseka – better known as Pasi – grew up in Rocklands, Bloemfontein. “By the time I got to high school I knew I wanted to be an actress,” she says. “I had no ‘plan B’’.” There…

IT’S one of the creepiest shows on TV screens right now. It has everything from death to witchcraft and a fight for the throne. And actor Lesley Musina says it’s just the beginning for Omen, a new drama on Mzansi Magic. He’s back doing what he loves the most, acting, after taking time out to host SABC2’s Speak Out. LEADING MAN Growing up in Musina, Limpopo, he used his grandmother’s radio to record himself. “I would take what we called ‘wireless’ and use a cassette to record myself. I would mimic some of my favourite people I saw on TV or heard on radio.” Lesley says this is the time he had an idea of what he wanted to do with his life. He admits it feels really good to…

‘EVEN THOUGH IT IS NOT ABOUT US, THEY ARE TELLING OUR STORY’ THEIR new show has been lauded for making people believe in love and marriage again. It shows couples how to effectively deal with inevitable challenges and how to grow as a team. It’s the content they’ve been waiting for, fans say. Power couple Monwabisi and Phindile Grootboom, aka Mo and Phindi, have been relationship coaches for almost 10 years. Now they are doing it on TV. They are the presenters of Mzansi Magic’s For Better or Worse with Mo and Phindi, a show where various celebrities and ordinary people share their love stories. LIGHTS, CAMERA, ACTION They’ve been pitching the idea for three years, Phindi says. Initially, they had no idea how the local audience would receive it.…

Boxing is not a Paralympic sport despite its growing popularity. It needs to meet certain criteria, says the International Paralympic Committee (IPC).“They [disabled boxing organisations] need to give us a clear plan of how they’re going to take the sport forward. It must be practiced in at least 32 countries on four continents before it can be considered,”the IPC’s Craig Spence told the BBC. Colin Wood, founder of the UKbased Adaptive Boxing Organization, says his organisation is“in talks with 18 countries which are interested. Our ambitions for the Paralympics won’t happen until 2024 at the earliest”.…

Q HOW CAN I WEAR SHORTS TO WORK AND LOOK PROFESSIONAL? A Wearing shorts to work is not a problem at all, as long as you pick a longer-length cut – one that ends right at (or at most 2cm above) the knees. Our recommendation is to wear darker colours – they are so much easier to style with your outfit. Keep those bright colours for the picnic or braai party. When buying shorts for work, look for ones that have clean sewing lines. Also opt for chic extras, like pleated or fob pocket details, and high-waisted ones that look classier than low cuts.…

THE holiday season has come and gone. I trust you all had a wonderful break full of festivity and that you spent quality time with your loved ones. But now you may feel that your energy levels are down, you may feel bloated or perhaps you gained unwanted weight or developed some complications due to overindulging and the break from routine. Both happy and sad times tend to make us lose our grip on our obligations. Know that just as much as we have the potential to cause ourselves harm, we are also capable of making amends. It starts with acknowledging our mistakes, owning up to them and coming up with a good strategy for getting ourselves back on track. ‘OUR BODIES HAVE A NATURAL WAY OF GETTING RID OF…

Nthabiseng Monareng holds LLB and LLM degrees from Wits University. Nthabi has more than 10 years’ experience in the legal field, specialising in family law. She’s written books on family law and is a family law mediator. Q NOT BUSINESS AS USUAL I’m in a relationship with a married man and we have a business together. Now he’s sick and his phone is off but we need to update our business. I called his mother to ask for copies of his ID and his signature for a document, but she refuses to help. What can I do? WORRIED, EMAIL A His mother acted correctly by refusing to hand over the documents to protect her child and to make sure nothing is being done without his consent. Although the two of…

I’ve been seeing my man for three years and we live together. We don’t have a child together but he has been nagging that he wants one. However, it recently came to light that he has a one-year-old child. What makes me furious is that he cheated, and he is only coming clean because he has no choice. I am trying to forgive him, but I’m having a tough time looking past this. A part of me says if he has done it once, he will do it again. How do I move on from this – a man I trusted with my life, cheating and impregnating another woman and keeping quiet for so long? He claims he was scared to tell me and I suspect he was not going…

South Africa is home to nearly 400 technical and vocational education and training (TVET) colleges, and they offer a wide range of options, courses and programmes that have been developed to respond to scarce skills needed by employers. TVET colleges are a great option for: Learners over the age of 16 who have passed Grade 9, have left school and wish to study further Students who have passed matric and want to learn a trade Adults who weren’t able to complete their schooling, or who want to further their education and skill set. Be aware that although there are many legitimate colleges, there are also fly-by-night operators All learning institutions need to be registered with the department of education, so it’s crucial to check the list on tvetcolleges.co.za to find…

WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE? A man scolds his son for being unruly and the child rebels against his father. He gets some of his clothes, his teddy bear and his piggy bank and proudly announces, “I’m running away from home!” The father calmly decides to make his son look at the matter logically. “What if you get hungry?” he asks. “Then I’ll come home and eat,” the child declares bravely. “And what if you run out of money?” “I will come home and get some!” his son replies. The father then makes a final attempt, “What if your clothes get dirty?” “Then I’ll come home and let Mommy wash them,” is the reply. The man shakes his head and exclaims, “This kid isn’t running away from home, he’s going off to…

BABO Ngcobo’s fans who came to watch him perform got more than they bargained for at the Gingindlovu Worship Night (GWN). A wax statue of the multi-award-winning gospel star was unveiled at the gathering held in the Gingindlovu Town Hall in KwaZulu-Natal. He also celebrated 25 years as a musician and a producer. The statue was donated by sculptor Lungelo Gumede of Lungelo Wax Museum, who is a die-hard fan of Babo’s.…