Table of contents for 12-Aug-2021 in Chat

We know Chat readers love pets, but do you love them as much as Lisa-Marie (p30)? She’s always been animal mad and, when her lovely dog passed on, she thought, ‘Why not get a monkey?’ As you do… Strangers taunt Kathrein, saying her fella should leave her because of her disability. She’s proving the doubters wrong, what an awesome woman (p34). Just a warning, you’ll need a strong stomach to read this week’s You’re the Judge. It’s a particularly gruesome case (p16). And you’ll find all the prize puzzles, food (p40), fashion (p12) and fun you love every week. Stay safe and well.…

In November 2017 Peter Frederiksen, 65, was convicted of 36 offences, including conspiracy to murder, rape of a minor and the production and possession of child pornography. He successfully had his sentencing delayed for several months by demanding a mental evaluation. In March 2018, Frederiksen faced Judge Johann Daffue, who said, ‘I have never felt so disgusted.’ The judge said Frederiksen was ‘manipulative’ and ‘lacking in remorse for his despicable crimes’. ‘You were the general and you orchestrated the murder,’ Judge Daffue said of the assassination of Anna Matseliso Molise, Frederiksen’s late wife. It emerged that Frederiksen had been convicted in 2006 of weapons crimes in Denmark. He’d then committed fraud in order to settle in South Africa. He was given two life sentences for rape and murder, and a…

Lisa-Marie Bearman, 53, Rochester Pottering around the garden, I heard a voice over the fence. ‘Hi, I’m Matt!’ shouted the handsome son of my next-door neighbours. It was February 2005 and I’d just moved to the street with my kids Indianna, then 13, and Caleb, 7. We hadn’t got round to meeting everybody yet. But as I chatted to Matt, then 22, I learnt he was an alarm engineer who loved animals, like me. We became mates, and despite our 15-year age gap, we realised we were falling for each other. I didn’t think it’d turn into anything too serious. And we took things slowly, because of my kids. But after three years we were spending most evenings together. Cosying up in front of the telly, or cooking dinner before…

I am my own worst enemy Q I’m edging towards 19st and on antidepressants. I have a 4-year-old daughter who is my world, but my self-esteem is low and my weight gets me down. I constantly have so many bad thoughts about the way I look and the way it makes me feel. I want to lose weight and get fit, but I’m so tired. It’s a vicious cycle. How do I get the motivation and what exercise do I do? I don’t have the money for a gym membership. Please help, Nelly! Emma, 27 A Oh pet, I can tell you’re unhappy, but you won’t be the only one, I promise... It’s easier said than done, but you do need to put an end to the negative thoughts. When…

I was so proud of my first-ever wild weave on a day out at Silverburn Park that I even bought the T-shirt…and the hat! Duncan Mitchell, Glenrothes Just a little hint! My gorgeous daughter Taya 6, chose her own outfit for a day at the park as she ‘needed’ to visit the ice cream van. Andrea Rose, Hull This clever cat likes to dive into my postman son’s trolley to check the mail before he delivers it through the litterbox. Iris Jones, Kewstoke Don’t waste your money on baby walkers or gardeners! Here’s my 15-month-old son Jackson multitasking by learning to walk and ‘mow’ my lawn at the same time. Don’t worry, it wasn’t actually plugged in! Mark Colerangle, Bramcote I took my friend’s 5-month-old dachshund Fudge out for the…

THE BIGGIE What connects fashion designer Stella McCartney and actor Kate Winslet? To find out, solve the crossword then read down the shaded squares to find the two-word prize answer. ACROSS 1 BBC sitcom, _ & Stacey (5) 4 Military land force (4) 6 Puts back (8) 13 Crazy person (7) 14 Alan _, former England footballer (7) 15 Desert traveller (5) 16 Smooth, flat (4) 17 One of a kind (6) 18 Long journey (6) 20 Vanished (4) 21 Attempted (5) 22 Kidnap (6) 25 Giving medical care to (8) 28 Capital of Germany (6) 30 Edible fish (5) 32 Large city in Turkey (8) 34 A season (6) 35 Assist (4) 38 Lump of gold (6) 39 Clear or simple (5) 40 Car shed (6) 43 Money lent at…

My ears keep popping Q My ears are uncomfortable and keep popping, and it affects my hearing. So what’s wrong? Breda, Tralee A Could be that your Eustachian tubes are faulty. These are the narrow tubes that connect your middle ear, the section behind your eardrum that’s filled with air, to the back of your throat. Blocked or faulty tubes mean that the pressure inside your middle ear becomes too high or low and this also allows fluid to build up, leading to pressure sensations inside your ear, popping and partial deafness. Infections such as colds and flu, allergy, or damage from sudden pressure changes such as after flying can all be to blame. Usually symptoms clear in a few weeks and steroid nose sprays might help if allergy is…

SENSELESS VIOLENCE The night before his 18th birthday, in September 2005, Lloyd Fouracre was walking home from a party. On Gipsy Lane, in Taunton, he crossed paths with Andrew Betty and Jay Wall, both 19. Unprovoked, Betty swung a parking sign at Lloyd’s head. Lloyd was knocked to the floor and Wall repeatedly kicked him. Lloyd was pronounced dead at hospital. Betty and Wall were convicted of murder and jailed for life, to serve a minimum of 13 and 12 years respectively. Adam, Lloyd’s brother, has since launched the charity Stand Against Violence. 25-YEAR MYSTERY On a summer’s night in June 1996, Melanie Hall, 25, was enjoying herself at Bath’s Cadillacs nightclub. She was last seen inside the club at 1.45am. Then she vanished... Her remains were found 13 years…

Which animals are most difficult to care for? Though the monkeys are expensive, costing £12 a week each, and need lots of specialist care, surprisingly the dogs are behaviourally much harder to deal with. They constantly bicker and fight for the alpha position! What’s the most surprising thing about having a pet monkey? They grow and mature like us, so each day is learning something new. They grow from infants, to adolescence, to maturity, and each stage requires different care. They also bite, for no reason at all. Hard! And then expect love and fuss two minutes later! Do you plan more furry family members? I’d love more dogs, and I’d have a whole sanctuary of monkeys if I could. Unfortunately, though we have a spacious garden, we’re at capacity…

That week, after getting myself a size 24 nurse’s uniform, I signed up for WW – formerly Weight Watchers. Of course, I’d tried diets before, but this time, as I settled into a routine at work, I determinedly stuck to healthy food. No trips to the cafe for sandwiches and cookies. Taking in salads and fruit to snack on instead. Only, even after losing 9lb in a few weeks, my back ached and my feet hurt. ‘I just fancy our usual Chinese takeaway,’ I sighed to Mark one evening. But I stuck to my meal plan, making a beef stew from scratch. I still felt exhausted, confidence low. I avoided looking in the mirror, wishing I could just magic the fat away. Working on a cancer ward, I felt racked…

Surprise sausage Bolognese Who’d have guessed that this Bolognese was made using leftover hidden veg? Ideal for fussy eaters! SERVES 4 PREP TIME 10 MINS COOK TIME 25 MINS •Leftover veggies, we used carrots and leeks •1 celery stick •2 garlic cloves, peeled •400g sausages •1tbsp olive oil • 400g can tomatoes • 4tbsp balsamic vinegar •350g pappardelle or spaghetti • 2tbsp freshly grated Parmesan • Basil leaves, to serve 1 Put the leftover vegetables, along with the celery and garlic, into a food processor. Blitzto finely chop. Add the sausages and blend to a mince texture. 2 Heat the oil in a frying pan over a medium heat. Tip in the sausage mix and cook for 15 mins, stirring, until it breaks up. Add the tomatoes and vinegar, and…

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Q Whenever I try a bouncy b low-dry at home, it falls flat. What can I do to get the same lift as I do from the salon? Diane Saunders, 62, Great Yarmouth A The key to a salon-style b low-dry is in the prep – this means using the right products for the job. After you’ve washed hair, apply Color Wow Extra Large Bombshell Volumizer, £23, colorwowhair.com, into the roots. It’s pricey but it really works, and you only need a couple of pumps with each wash, so one bottle will last months – then blast dry hair upside down. When hair is still a little damp, use a large round vented brush to lift and pull small sections taut. Then, while you’re doing your make-up, pop a couple…

Maybelline Sky High Mascara, £9.99 The flexibrush head gets right into the roots of the lashes, then draws the fibre formula up to the tip for a full-on flutter. Apply coat after coat - it won’t clump - until your lashes start to tickle your brows - that’s how good it is! L’Oreal Paris Volume Million Lashes Balm Noir, £10.99 This mascara puts lash health first without compromising on volume. Made with caring oils, it’s suitable for sensitive eyes, and the 320 teeny bristles mean you can expect long, silky and clump-free lashes. Rimmel Wonder’ Extension Mascara, £9.99 Want lash extensions without the price tag? This is your ticket. The grabby brush extends the stretchy formula beyond the tips of your lashes for a long flutter with great separation.…

When Maria Korp failed to collect her son Damien, then 11, from school on the afternoon of 9 February 2005, there was panic. The school called his dad Joe Korp, 47, to come and get him. Maria, 50, had never missed pick-up before. In fact, her alarmed family claimed she’d ‘crawl over broken glass’, to collect her son. Maria’s car was missing. And she hadn’t turned up for work that morning. Joe had last seen his wife at their home in Mickleham, a suburb of Melbourne, Australia, at 6.30am that morning. Detectives feared the worst, especially when Joe admitted that the couple had been having marital problems. In fact, in December 2004, Maria had taken out an intervention order against Joe, preventing him ‘assaulting, harassing, molesting, threatening or intimidating’ her.…

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Lauren Holmes, 36, from Corby, Northamptonshire Stamping my feet, I gave my mum Karen, then 36, my best scowl. ‘It’s not fair!’ I wailed. Mum wouldn’t budge. Whenever I asked if I could play out after school, she said no. It was summer 1993, and I was 8. While my mates ran about outside, I was kept in the perimeters of our garden. Told to watch TV or play with my little sister Claire, then 2. A year later, aged 9, I sneaked to the woods with friends. I didn’t go far, but when an older boy jumped out of nowhere and shouted, we all got scared. I sprinted back to a friend’s house, shaken. Waiting for Mum, I thought she’d shout at me, only, she turned up stony-faced, silent.…

Meg Oliver, 21, Bolton Rubbing their hands over my swollen belly, my friends beamed in delight. ‘Boy or girl?’ they quizzed. ‘As long as they’re healthy, I don’t mind,’ I smiled. It was early 2020 and I was excited to be expecting. Eagerly converted the spare room into a nursery, painted the walls white and filled it with cuddly toys. I was nervous, too. As a first-time mum, I’d never cared for something so precious before. Arlo arrived that October. And as I took in his soft, rosy cheeks and big, blue eyes, my nerves slipped away. ‘He’s perfect,’ I cooed. After a few days in hospital, we were allowed home, and to my own surprise, I took motherhood in my stride. Night feeds, making bottles, changing his nappies. I…

OVER TO YOU Can you set a puzzle in this format? Send it, with a photo of yourself, to the address on p3. There’s £20 for every one we use! This week’s puzzle was compiled by Christine Young, Bawtry, Doncaster ACROSS 1 Flower, initial I 2 Kaftan 3 Island in Essex 4 Adjacent DOWN 1 A lack causes anaemia 2 12 red ones for Valentine’s Day 3 Mountain goat 4 Chair or stool WIN 5 x £25 Puzzle 6 Your answer: HALF & HALF The 6’10” Nigerian Bolaji Badejo’s only acting role was as the title character in which 1979 film? Cross out a letter in each square to get a grid filled with words. The uncrossed-out letters in the shaded squares give the prize answer. WIN £100 Puzzle 7 Your…

ARROW WORD Which is the second-largest of Uranus’ moons? Solve the puzzle by following the arrows and writing in your answers. Then read down the letters in the shaded squares to find the prize answer. WIN £1,000 Puzzle 10 Your answer: SUDOKU To solve the puzzle, each 3 x 3 box, each row and each column must contain the numbers 1 to 9. Solve the puzzle and the numbers in the highlighted squares will give you the prize puzzle answer WIN £60 Puzzle 11 Your answer: WORDSEARCH A shrine containing the middle finger of which scientist’s right hand is on display in a museum dedicated to them in their home city? The answer is the one missing from the grid. CRICK CURIE DARWIN EDISON EINSTEIN FLEMING FREUD GALILEO HAWKING LOVELACE…

FILL ME IN WIN £100 Puzzle 14 The Angostura Bridge in Ciudad Bolívar, Venezuela, was the first bridge built over which river? Solve the puzzle by following the arrows and writing in your answers. Then read down the letters in the shaded squares to find the prize answer. Your answer: CIRCLE TIME In Oaxaca, Mexico, 23 December is treated as a celebration of which vegetable? Fit the words into the grid, then read down the letters in the shaded circles. 3 letters ALE ALL ASH ELM EMU PIN PIT RIG SAG USE 4 letters DELI EPIC HALF ITEM MEND SCAB SCAR 5 letters FORUM MELON UMAMI 6 letters CINEMA FAMOUS NUTMEG PEPPER RULING SCHISM 8 letters FURLOUGH WIN 100 Puzzle 15 Your answer: TO ENTER Turn to page 56 for…

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