Table of contents for 6/4/2020 in Move!

IT HAS been a rough couple of months, to put it mildly. The world as we know it has changed, and not for the better. The coronavirus is rampaging through our communities, thousands have lost their jobs and it’s uncertain if things will ever go back to normal again. Even for the strongest person it has been a trying time. So don’t beat yourself up if you’re struggling to cope. You’re not the only one. We are all trying to find different ways to deal with the new normal. We’ve had to find innovative ways to do our shopping, to deal with kids being at home all the time and to deal with the unknown. You are not alone. Your neighbours, coworkers, friends and family are all going through the…

ABIDE BY THE STOKVEL RULES The women say stokvels are all about making life easy, so they would advise people to start looking at other ways to save and invest, something that will also generate a steady income. If a stokvel is for groceries and funerals, they can still look at other ways to make their lives easier and grow their money. They’ve noticed a lot of people can’t sustain themselves with their salaries, yet they’re not looking for any other ways to save, invest and sustain themselves in the long run. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to: move@media24.com…

HE’S not the kind of man people want to mess with. In fact, in some circles just the mention of Neo Mokhethi’s name is enough to send people running in the opposite direction. Yet his girlfriend Sheila, played by Matshepo Maleme, is doing the unthinkable. She is playing with fire and cheating on him with Ndumiso (Andile Sithole). The stakes are incredibly high for both Ndumiso and Sheila. Ndumiso has already taken enough from Bra Neo (Jerry Mofokeng wa Makhetha) when he acquired a business he’d wanted, and now he’s taking his woman. Sheila, on the other hand, is putting her life on the line. She’s already survived being kidnapped by Neo when he locked her up in his hotel room after they had a disagreement. CAUSING A STIR Neo…

SHE first burst onto the scene in season 14 of Idols SA. She made it to the top 6 and has continued to make a name for herself. Now, Nosipho Silinda (19) is back on the airwaves with her second single, Don’t Kill My Vibe. “It’s a feel-good song just like Thembalami [her debut track], but there we are still in a honeymoon phase. With Don’t Kill My Vibe, the realities of life kick in and people tend to get clingy and ruin a beautiful relationship. In this song I say, ‘Let loose, know that I love you and I will never leave you, let me breathe and let’s be happy, life is too short to be grumpy over little things’. It is all about being in a positive love…

PEA AND BACON SOUP You can add sugar beans and other green vegetables of your choice to this soup. SERVES 4-6 PREPARATION: 5 MIN COOKING: 13 MIN ■ 15ml (1T) olive oil ■ 2 cloves garlic, crushed ■ 4 leeks, sliced ■ 300g frozen peas, defrosted ■ 2 large handfuls of spinach leaves ■ 750ml (3c) vegetable stock ■ 200g bacon bits, cooked 1 In a saucepan over medium heat, heat the oil and add the garlic and leeks. Sauté gently until soft. 2 Add the peas, spinach and stock and simmer for 10 minutes. Set aside. Blend with a stick blender while still warm and spoon into serving bowls. 3 Add the bacon and serve warm. LENTIL AND CARROT SOUP You can use unsmoked pork hock for this soup,…

Q SEX WITH NO STRINGS ATTACHED I’ve been with my girlfriend for about 10 years. Recently, I told her I don’t love her anymore. She says that even if I say I don’t love her, if she wants to have sex she will call me and I must just perform. What must I do? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A As much as you would like to please your partner and deliver on her request, your own sexual foundation and your sexual boundaries should be your guide on what you feel is the right decision for you. Are you able to separate sex and love as per her suggestion? If you move on, will you need to keep the arrangement secret? Will you find peace with this arrangement? Will you be able to…

WRITING down how you feel, what you’re doing and what’s for dinner has been shown to help boost your happiness and wellbeing. But to get the best results you should tailor what you write to the goals you’re trying to achieve. WEIGHT-LOSS JOURNAL Recording in a journal what and how much you eat and drink – and checking kilojoules and nutrients accordingly – can help to keep you on track. In one study participants who kept a journal lost twice as much weight as those who didn’t. To make it really work you should: ■ CAPTURE BEFORE YOU EAT Writing down what you’re about to eat can help you make a better choice (if you need to) before damage is done. A food diary forces you to evaluate every choice…

LEBOHANG LIVHUWANI MIKA Maybe it’s not what you’re saying but how you’re saying it – your tone and attitude. Approach your husband with respect instead of just pointing out stuff that will make him feel defensive. Show him love and care. AUBREY AYOBA MNISI You must both sit down and try to come up with a solution. Maybe go away, just you two, with no disturbances. Enjoy yourselves and be honest about what you love about your relationship and what you don’t like. REMBU RAY SEMATA Write down all the good things he has done and then the bad things. Compare the two and find out which ones are taking the top spot. Also ask him what he thinks went wrong. Remind yourselves of how you fell in love with…

FROM your work colleague who seems to have her boundaries firmly drawn and can say “no” so easily to the woman in high heels you pass every day who never so much as wobbles, some of us have all the confidence and some of us just don’t, right? Wrong! According to Paul McKenna, author of Instant Confidence: The Power to Go for Anything You Want, you can become more confident if you spend just 10 minutes a day working on it. “If you lack self-esteem, you go through life criticising yourself, thinking of all the times you’ve failed, and focusing on all the things that can go wrong,” he says. “But you can change that. The brain is like a computer and you can reprogram it to work differently.” Here,…

A MAN is his words. In the same manner that the smallest unit of life is a cell, similarly in spirit, man is made up of words. Before man existed, God spoke him into existence. Now, what one turns out to be in this life is largely dependent on the words one says or doesn’t say, hears or hasn’t heard. WORDS ARE SEEDS If you speak carelessly, your life will turn out likewise, and vise-versa when you speak wisely and put a premium on your words. Words are seeds and produce their own kind. If you drop a seed in the ground and rain comes, that seed will germinate and grow irrespective of whether the initial intent was to plant it or not to plant it. Because it is a…

Musician Dr Malinga and his wife, Boitumelo, recently welcomed twin boys, Lingo and Legend, into the world. Move! readers have their say. A warm welcome to the corona world. FORTUNATE MTHIMKHULU Was it not yesterday we were told they were expecting and today the babies are born! CHARLIE CHAR How about Corona and Covid? ABONGILE LAMMIE QAWUKENI Congratulations, Dr Malinga. The twins are welcomed into this corona world. Wish you all the best. MATHEMBEKA KAMO Congatulations Dr Mangila and to your soul mate. PHILI MBAVA…

SHE’S been called a gold-digging slay queen. But there’s more to Skeem Saam’s Rachel Kunutu than that, actress Lesego Marakalla believes. She has a brain and she’s not afraid to use it, she says. Lesego has just gone back to set after a prolonged absence due to the lockdown. She had been back for a month or so when the coronavirus pandemic forced the country into a total shutdown. NOT AN AIRHEAD “They usually give us a break after shooting a draining storyline. So after the wedding, I was given some time out. “I think a lot of people misunderstand Rachel because she is a slay queen, but she has a brain underneath all that. That is why she does not like it when Marothi [her onscreen husband played by…

IF EVER there was a time the world needed love, it’s now – and Berita (28) has served up an album of love songs just when we could do with some feel-good vibes. Her new offering, Songs in the Key of Love, was inspired by Stevie Wonder’s 1976 record, Songs in the Keys of Life. “I loved the concept and interpreted it my way,” she tells us. “All the songs express love in different ways, genres and stories. I want people to believe in love again and know it begins with you and spreads to the rest of the world.” CREATIVE PROCESS The songbird burst onto the scene in 2012 with her debut single Thandolwethu, which became a fan favourite. Eight years later, Berita’s latest album has been released under…

Q HE LIED ABOUT PAYMENTS My brother lived at my house for three years. He told me he had been paying the rates. But after he moved out, I found out there is an R11 000 bill. I’m not working and I’m scared I will lose my house. How do I make him pay this bill? ANONYMOUS, SMS A As a homeowner it is your responsibility to make sure rates and taxes are paid each month. The homeowner gets, or can request, monthly statements so they can track if these are paid or not. Because the rates were not paid and the services were used by your brother, you can take him to the small claims court and request an order that he pay you the R11 000. You should…

“It has become common to date someone a few years younger or older than you and often it’s said that age is but a number,” says Busisiwe Malangwane, a registered counsellor at BI Malangwane Counselling in Midrand. “One sometimes finds that maturity levels match, even when ages don’t. Age isn’t the only factor affecting how a relationship operates – gender, race and economic background can also play a role in relationship dynamics. “But when the age difference is big, there are important things to consider. When dating an older person, it is important to keep an open mind. Age difference may not seem like an issue, but it is important to understand that things such as expectations, priorities and interests can quickly change as one gets older. As the younger…

Without anyone knowing you’re shaking inside! ■ Say it once, twice at most Repeating what you need to say over and over makes you look unsure. You’ll look more confident if you say it once with conviction then keep quiet. ■ Explain what you want Just listing your grievances is one thing, but you need to round it off with what you want them to do – Change? Apologise? Stop? ■ Keep it short After saying your piece, don’t enter into an endless discussion over it. The other person will try to change your mind.…

1 Actress Nomzamo Mbatha is the face of which skincare brand? A Nimue B Pond’s C Neutrogena D Placecol 2 About . . . of the body’s calcium is stored in the bones and teeth? A 84% B 99% C 71% D 89% 3 Actor and producer . . . is taking his passion for wine from the cellar to cyberspace with a new YouTube channel exploring wine culture? A Vusi Kunene B Jamie Bartlett C Kay Sibiya D Thapelo Mokoena 4 Anti-apartheid activist and Nelson Mandela’s fellow Rivonia treason triallist . . . passed away in April at the age of 87? A Denis Goldberg B Ahmed Kathrada C Govan Mbeki D Andrew Mlangeni 5 Singer Ciara and her footballer husband Russell Wilson are having their . . .…

LOOKING FOR LOVE I’m a 41-year-old single father of two who’s looking for a matured, independent woman. She must have children and be between the ages of 38 and 50. Call me or WhatsApp me on 060-338-1061 I’m a 31-year-old man from Bronkhorstspruit, Gauteng. I am looking for a woman to love between the ages of 31 and 50. She must have a source of income. I just prefer older women because they are matured. WhatsApp me on 060-875-0924 I am a 34-year-old lady living with HIV and a mother of one. I am looking for a man who is HIV-positive. He must be between 35 and 40, working and not have more than two kids. He can be from Gauteng, Limpopo or Mpumalanga. Call me on 064-511-7604 I am…

NAME Movers, Shakers and Instigators LOCATION Gauteng MEMBERS Four CONTRIBUTION R300 MEETINGS Quarterly FORMED 2018 THE FORMATION The Movers, Shakers and Instigators group is made up of four women who were introduced to one another by one of their members. Since then, they have all become good friends and formed a strong sisterhood. They started the stokvel to save and wanting to earn extra income, they also decided to look at the investment market and see what they could afford. They’re looking at options and hope to invest in different avenues to grow their money. OPERATIONS The women are based in different parts of Gauteng and meet every quarter but they make monthly contributions. They each deposit R300 into the stokvel account, keeping records of their payments. As they are…

‘I GET GOOSE BUMPS JUST THINKING ABOUT THE RIVER’ SHE’S feisty and stares death in the face every episode. Her do-or-die attitude has quickly made her a fan favourite. And her constant battle with one of SA’s top villains has fans glued to the edges of their seats, with some cheering her on while others call for her downfall. It’s been a rollercoaster ride for Lunathi Mampofu, who plays Emma in Mzansi Magic’s hit show, The River. When she first came into Zolani’s life, played by Lawrence Maleka, no one thought she’d last long, especially once Lindiwe (Sindi Dlathu) got wind of things. But she’s proven herself hard to get rid of and has gone toe to toe with Lindiwe – won some rounds and lost only a few. She’s…

HE’S had a rough few months. After Prince Kaybee took TNS under his wing, the struggling musician accused him of not paying him royalties for their chart-topping collaborations. In December, their beef escalated when Prince Kaybee revealed TNS was so broke he didn’t have underwear when they met. The two have since smoked the peace pipe but TNS just can’t seem to catch a break. Just when he’d put the humiliation behind him, a video of guys bullying him went viral. In it, the producer is verbally attacked by men who accuse him of buying a new car while his family home is “falling apart”. It was the last straw for the 19-year-old. BOTTLING UP EMOTIONS Being in the cut-throat showbiz industry combined with the pressures of being a new…

Q DEPENDENT ON A CHEATER I’ve been married for two years. My husband is cheating on me. I know this because his friends have told me, but I don’t bother him about it. When I became pregnant, he started treating me like trash. He never had time for me. I gave birth a few months ago and he has become worse, sometimes not even coming home to us. Now we’re fighting a lot. I don’t know what to do since he is my husband and I love and depend on him. WIFE, EMAIL A The behaviour of a cheating spouse affects you emotionally, psychologically and physically. This will then affect your behaviour and quality of life. Yet it’s never easy to know what to do because of other factors –…

GEMINI 21 MAY – 20 JUN With the sun currently in your sign, you should feel quite at ease expressing yourself, especially creatively. It’s an ideal time to try out new artistic projects or get back to ones that have fallen by the wayside. Let your creative juices flow and have fun. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 43, 25, 45, 5, 21, 47 CANCER 21 JUN – 21 JUL Actions are driven by innate traits, something that’s currently emphasised. At best your strengths will have positive spin-offs, but you’ll have to guard against the odd weakness shining through. Your tenacity will stand you in good stead and your caring nature, sensitivity and sympathetic understanding will make the world a better place. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 10, 31, 28, 51, 15, 7 LEO 22…

Power couple and co-authors Mo and Phindi Grootboom advise a woman who feels she and her man are killing their marriage. My husband and I have been married for close to 10 years. We no longer act in a loving way towards each other. He accuses me of always criticising him when I point out how his behaviour negatively affects our relationship. Because of this, we’ve grown cold and uncaring towards each another. It feels like we are killing our marriage. What should I do? WORRIED WIFE…

LISTEN Be patient and try to avoid correcting your learner, or coming across as if you know what is best for them, regardless of how you feel about a matter (although you probably do know them really well). Do not rush into solutions, allow the learner to lead the conversations and try not to impose your opinion – enable the learner to arrive at their own conclusions. You are allowed to question the learner when you feel the need to, especially if you feel there is more to explore or think about on a particular issue. GUIDE Make suggestions and offer advice but don’t force the learner into anything, as this may push them away. They may potentially not buy into a conclusion/decision that they feel is not their own.…

‘IF YOU’RE STILL PAYING OFF A STUDENT LOAN, RESIST GETTING INTO MORE DEBT’ Q WE RECEIVED THIS QUESTION FROM A YOUNG GRADUATE I was retrenched from my first job during lockdown but am starting my second job in two months time. I will join the company’s retirement fund and medical-aid scheme. What else should I be doing to plan for my future, bearing in mind I’m not earning much yet and I have student loans to repay? A The younger you start planning for your financial future, the better. We asked Charné van der Walt from Lemons into Lemonade Financial Planners how to lay a strong foundation for future financial freedom. 1 MAKE SURE YOU’RE CONTRIBUTING ENOUGH Your monthly contribution to your company retirement should be equal to at least…

THE BIG WAVE A young boy and his doting grandmother are walking along the seashore when a huge wave appears out of nowhere, sweeping the child out to sea. The horrified woman falls to her knees, raises her eyes to the heavens and begs the Lord to return her beloved grandson. And, lo, another wave rears up and deposits the stunned child on the sand before her. The grandmother looks the boy over carefully. He is fine. But still she stares up angrily towards the heavens. “When we came,” she snaps indignantly, “he had a cap on!” IF . . . If lawyers are disbarred and clergymen defrocked, doesn’t it follow that electricians can be delighted, musicians denoted, cowboys deranged, models deposed and dry cleaners depressed? Laundry workers could decrease,…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…