One Sunday, 66-year-old Brian Benadom’s heart stops. It takes paramedics 25 minutes to get it beating again. He is unconscious, eyes closed, with a breathing tube taped to his mouth by the time his older brother, David Benadom, reaches the emergency department at Mercy San Juan Medical Center in Carmichael, California. After speaking with the doctor, David understands that Brian, who had lived with Parkinson’s disease for years, is gone.
But doctors can be wrong, he thinks.
By morning, however, an electroen-cephalogram reveals minimal electrical activity in Brian’s brain. He isn’t coming back. Brian had never wanted to talk about the end of his life and had no living will. But David, 74, wants for his brother what he wants for himself and his wife, Lisa Benadom, 69, if they…