Table of contents for 3/4/2020 in Move!

IT TAKES a village to raise a child, we are often told. But as I grow older, I’ve realised that we need that village through different stages of our lives. I was raised by a village. I grew up in a family home with my grandmother, mother, aunts and uncles, and all of them had a say in my upbringing. That village taught me values, love and doing the best with what little you have. Now, as a grown-up, I have a whole new kind of village I rely on. My family is one, and my friends are another. This village is the one that will give you confidence when you start doubting yourself at work. They are the ones who will pick your child up from school if you…

NAME: Sinoxolo Burial Society LOCATION: Katlehong, Joburg FORMED: 1998 MEMBERS: 1200 MEETINGS: Monthly CONTRIBUTION: R170 FORMATION Sinoxolo Burial Society decided to create a stokvel to help with burial costs because they realised that often, death happens so suddenly and it is something many of them struggled to plan or budget for. The group is made up of a mix of young and old members, male and female. MEETINGS & MONEY They meet on the first Sunday of every month and each member contributes R170. They have to meet at a hall as they are such a large group. Each member deposits the money into the group’s bank account and brings the proof of payment to the meeting. The money is deposited to ensure that they keep clean records and so…

WHEN she found out she was pregnant, she wanted to savour the news. She took a bit of time to embrace her new journey and allow her blessing to grow inside her before letting the rest of the world in. Actress Zola Nombona posted a photo of her baby bump on Valentine’s Day with a love letter to her unborn child written in isiXhosa. “Your eyes will remove all the mist that’s been covering mine. Your smile will wipe away all tears. Your hand will forever strengthen me,” she wrote. “You’ve shown me how much strength I have, strength I never thought I had. You’ve turned my body around, now two hearts beat in one body. Arrive, my hope.” Since then congratulatory messages have filled her pages. THE DISCOVERY She…

HE’S always been the funny guy. Friends and colleagues often told him that he makes them laugh, and he recalls an ex-girlfriend repeatedly telling him to consider a career in comedy. “I never took it seriously,” says actor and musician Kabomo Vilakazi (41). But when he strolled into his forties he decided he needed a new challenge – and added comedy to his CV. GETTING STARTED Kabomo says family and friends egged him on to become a comedian. “They’re my biggest critics.” They’re the first to tell him when something isn’t funny and that he can do better. “I want to be really good at it, so having honest people around who are equally excited about it helps.” He began to write material after a comedian friend, Mthunzi Ntoyi, told…

THERE’S an old saying that goes, “When China sneezes, the world catches a cold.” But these days the sneeze is rather serious – and the cold almost crippling in more ways than one. Thanks to the deadly coronavirus, image after image of Chinese cities beamed around the globe look as if they’re from an apocalyptic movie. Streets and transport systems, usually packed and bustling with millions of people, are eerily empty and quiet. Factories, shops, schools, restaurants and theme parks have been shut down. And all over the world’s most populous nation, citizens are hunkering down in their homes – many forced to do so by the authoritarian Chinese government. Hubei, a landlocked province in central China – once a crowded hub of activity with connections to every part of…

SCULPTORS often use clay or stone to create art, but a woman from the Ivory Coast is using her hair to make masterpieces. Laetitia Ky (22) has been braiding hair since she was five years old and now spends hours in front of the mirror to produce her artwork. MEANS OF EXPRESSION “I use hair extensions, wire, wool and thread. To hold it in place I must do a very tight ponytail as a foundation for the hairstyle. I don’t use any product, it’s all about braiding,” she says. Laetitia has gained some 270 000 Instagram followers who can’t get enough of her art. “I came across an album of hairstyles women used to wear in some African tribes prior to colonisation. These were impressive and made me want to…

Q MY RIGHTS I want to know my rights as a person living with HIV. My partner knows my status and knows I take ARVs. He is HIV-negative. When we have an argument, he humiliates me in front of my friends and colleagues. He discloses my status to them and even shows them my medication. I’ve asked him to stop but he hasn’t. Is there a legal way to prevent this? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A I strongly empathise with you for the humiliation you have endured. A person who truly loves you would not expose you. ‘AN UNDETECTABLE VIRAL LOAD DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE CURED’ The National Health Act stipulates that any health condition of an individual must not be disclosed to any other person without consent. Our constitution…

PISCES (19 FEB – 20 MAR) It’s a week to be aware and awake. Compassion is balm to the soul of those in need, imagination a wonderful gift for artistic endeavours and sensitivity a trait that makes the world a better place. You’re also a soft target for those who prey on the kindness of others. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 22, 43, 37, 27, 4, 13 ARIES (21 MAR – 19 APR) It’s a week to make work of hidden strengths and weaknesses. You may want to contemplate the advantages of cooperation. It may yield better results. It’s also time to explore and/or develop any hidden talents. Whether you have an eye for photography, an aptitude for sport or a feel for the arts. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 50, 32, 10, 29,…

“It must be heartbreaking to be rejected by your girlfriend,” says Kgadi Thobejane, a clinical psychologist from Pretoria. “Over and above being in love and attracted to each other, every relationship requires trust and open communication as its cornerstones. “It appears that your girlfriend took you for granted and lived a double life, which left you feeling cheated on. Unfortunately, it seems that your girlfriend has moved on, albeit in a distasteful manner. “All you can do currently is to mourn the loss of your beloved girlfriend and relationship. Let you ex know how she hurt you, but then move on. “This can be a long, daunting process and there are no time specifications as to when you will finally feel healed. If you feel overwhelmed, seek the help of…

WHAT’S YOUR TYPICAL MEAL? Grilled lean meat, a baked potato and fresh salad. This meal is quick and easy to prepare, so it’s perfect for my weekday suppers. It’s also nutritionally balanced. I prepare chicken without the skin and I trim the fat from red meat. WHAT’S YOUR FAVOURITE DRINK? Chamomile tea. It’s rich in antioxidants, so it’s a great detox after a long day at work. I have a cup every evening. AND YOUR FAVOURITE DISH? Mediterranean beef stir-fry served with brown rice. I love this dish because it includes my daily serving of vegetables, protein and carbohydrates – all in one delicious meal. I prefer brown rice to white as it’s higher in fibre. WHAT’S YOUR BEST HEALTHY SNACK? Low-fat yoghurt. It’s rich in calcium and vitamin D…

1 You’re going to the shops to find a new top for work. What do you return home with? A The top you wanted. B Nothing, you couldn’t find anything you liked. C The top and matching accessories. 2 Would you buy a dress from a shop without first having tried it on? A No, you’d always make sure it fits you first. B Yes, you have a good idea of size and how it would look. C Yes, but you’d probably have to exchange it when you find it doesn’t fit. 3 Your cellphone has been stolen so you need to get a new one. Do you buy the first, affordable one you see? A No, you’d study each one’s various features then make a price comparison. B No,…

KILLING OF CHILDREN It was heartbreaking to read the story of the Limpopo man who senselessly killed his four children after a fallout with their mother. What adds salt to the wound is the “justification” he appears to be making – that he killed the kids to keep them safe from their “cheating and irresponsible” mother. When he kidnapped the kids, no one immediately reported the matter to the police despite it being known that the suspect is a violent man. I have no time to empathise with a killer because no matter what his reasons were, no explanation can support the brutal murder of these innocent souls. What kind of a father resorts to using his own flesh and blood as a scapegoat for whatever problems he’s going through…

PAYMENT PLANS Sinoxolo Burial Society understands that sometimes there are situations beyond their members’ control that might cause them not to make their monthly contributions on time, such as job losses. They encourage their members to come forward and explain their situation. Once they know what is going on, they keep that person on their books and do not terminate their membership. When a member can afford to pay again, they have to start paying from the month they stopped contributing until they catch up. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to: move@media24.com…

AS THANDEKA, she had Isibaya fans eating out of her hand. They were invested in her love story, cried with her when her onscreen husband died and celebrated when he came back to life. They supported her when her child was kidnapped and praised her when she fought for his return. Now they will have to mourn again when her character is killed off in the popular Mzansi Magic soapie. SA darling Nomzamo Mbatha is leaving the soap once her character is killed off during an armed robbery. She will be pursuing other interests, Isibaya has said. We look at the journeys of Nomzamo and Thandeka Ndlovu. JANE-OF-ALL-TRADES She wears many hats, including that of a United Nations Goodwill ambassador and a media darling. Nomzamo is an ambassador for quite…

A KNOT formed in the pit of the young mother’s belly as she looked around the post office. She tried to tell herself everything was okay – surely the polite social worker who was with her baby boy must be here somewhere. Asanda Tiwani had one of her three-month-old twins, Akahlulwa, cradled in one arm and her two-year-old son, Ebonga, clutched at her free hand as they went in search of Kwahlelwa. THE FATEFUL DAY After one last look around the drab beige post office and with her heart pounding faster and faster, she quickly walked outside. Voortrekker Road in Parow, Cape Town, was busy, filled with cars and taxis and people. Asanda (29) looked up and down the street before hurrying back towards the bustling taxi rank. Perhaps she…

People in China not only have to cope with the fear of infection – living conditions are terrible. The experience is like being “stuck in a bad dream”, a Somalian living in Wuhan told the New York Times. Like many others, he spends up to 20 hours a day under unofficial “house arrest”. In some cities, passes allow citizens to leave their homes only every two or three days to get basic necessities. But stores are battling to restock – transport of goods into the area has been shut down to try to control the spread of the virus. Meanwhile, hazmat-wearing technicians stop people in the streets and even pull resistant residents out of their homes to screen for the infection. Breaking a quarantine breach could result in a six-month…

MICROWAVE TV An old rural woman comes to the city to visit her daughter. When she arrives safely the daughter is happy to see her and says, “I’m so glad you’re here. You must be starving. I’ll quickly microwave us some dinner. Welcome to the city, Mama.” The daughter pops a whole chicken and some veggies into the microwave, tells her mom to sit down and watch some TV and that she’ll be right back after she has arranged the guest bedroom. When the daughter returns, the mother asks with a confused look, “Does your TV only display spinning chicken?” BLIND LOVE Beggar to a lady Kind and beautiful angel, please spare some change for this blind beggar. Wife Look how he’s trying to pretend he is blind just so…

ALPHA HYDROXY ACIDS These include glycolic, citric and lactic acids. They exfoliate the skin deeply to reveal a more radiant complexion and leave the skin looking and feeling great. These ingredients are often included in chemical exfoliators. HYALURONIC ACID Hyaluronic acid is used to boost moisture levels in the skin by drawing moisture from the body and retaining it in the skin. This ingredient can be used by all skin types including oily skin because it encourages moisture levels to normalise, meaning sebum production will not be excessive. Hyaluronic acid can be found in cleansers, serums and moisturisers. When skin has enough moisture, the size of the pores appears smaller. SALICYLIC ACID It’s also known as beta hydroxy acid (BHA) and is great for acne-prone oily skin. It ex-foliates while…

Q SUPPORT DURING OUR SEPARATION This is my second month of being separated from my wife. She cheated on me. She is working and I am not. She was paying for both our cars’ insurance and also supported me. Now she has stopped payment since we separated. How can I get her to continue to support me as we are still married? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A You need to go to the maintenance court, which can be found at your nearest magistrate’s court. There, you can sue for spousal maintenance. You must calculate the amount you need to pay for the car, accommodation, food and other basic needs. As the two of you are still legally married, your wife has a legal obligation to financially support you. Q CAR OWNERSHIP CHANGE…

Q SHOULD I LEAVE HIM? I met this guy through a friend and we have been dating for a few months. He then told me his ex-girlfriend is pregnant. Should I leave him to focus on his family even though he is no longer in a relationship with his baby mama? The baby will be living with him and his family. When I give him space, he reaches out to me. But then he says he doesn’t want a serious relationship. He only wants me to message, not call him. I love him but don’t feel good about the way he is treating me. ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A Communication is the key in every relationship. You and your boyfriend need to sit down and talk about your relationship. You both need…

Q HIS PENIS IS CURVED I recently got married and I love my husband. We have great intimacy, but he has a curve in his penis that makes sex difficult. What can we do? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A Some men have a curved penis and the curve can either be to one side, upwards or downwards. This can occur as a result of an injury or develop over time, which is usually a result of gradual injury during sex. This damage can then lead to the formation of scar tissue, which can cause curving. It shouldn’t cause pain for him during sex, but it becomes a problem if there is pain for either of you during penetration. A doctor can assess the cause and treat your husband accordingly. Q VAGINAL ORGASMS…

Power couple and co-authors Mo and Phindi advise a woman on what to look for in a man that makes him marriage material I’m a single lady and ready for marriage. I have a stable job, no child, my own car and property, and I’m at a happy place in my life. I’ve held out on being in a relationship because I believe in dating to marry, rather than just being with someone open-endedly. I don’t want anyone wasting my time and I don’t want to waste anyone’s time. I have men approaching me for love on a regular basis. How can I choose the right man to settle down with? MARRIAGE MATERIAL…

LAST week I apologised to my daughter for sometimes not fulfilling my promises to her. She said, “Don’t worry mama, I forgave you long ago and I know that you love me.” My jaw dropped. She’d forgiven me already. If it had been me, I’d have been sulking until she came to me to say she was sorry. It’s easy to ask for forgiveness, yet difficult to forgive. FORGIVING MY EX-HUSBAND Mark 11:25: “And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”Often, we ignore what God says in this text and seek to demand that God forgive us while we withhold forgiveness from one another. I remember times when my ex-husband and I would have…

CHURCHGOERS WELCOME I am 38 years old and I have one child. I am a loving person who’s looking for a woman who is ready to settle down. She must not have more than two children, must be churchgoing and live in Gauteng, Free-State, Mpumalanga or KZN. Please call, not WhatsApp me on 063-455-0214 SEARCHING FOR MY SOULMATE I’m 40 and from Gauteng. I’m looking for a serious woman between the ages of 30 and 45. I’m loving and caring and hoping I’ll find my soulmate. WhatsApp me on 067-686-1275 or email me at dikgomo9 @gmail.com HONEST & LOVING I’m a 28-year-old lady from the North West. I’m looking for an honest man who is ready to commit. He must be loving, between 29 and 41 years old and not…

Gospel singer Hlengiwe Mhlaba was awarded an honorary doctorate in theology by the Immanuel University of Theology International. Move! readers have their say. Wow, congratulations maHlengiwe Mhlaba! You deserve it. Hallelujah. Amen. SISLINDI MADLOMO Congrats, Mam’Hlengiwe. She deserves it after the work she’s done for music in South Africa. Halala, shine, Dr Hlengiwe, shine. Glory to the King of kings, the Lord of lords. OWETHU NOPHALE Congratulations! Hope the honorary [title] will remind her to compose new songs. ZAKHELE PRAISEGOD MSWELI God’s timing is always the best. MASETE MORONGWE REFILWE ROFHIWA Congratulations, my favourite person! Gosh, I love this woman. TSHEGOFATSO RAMPURU Congratulations, mama! MAMA’TSHOLO LETSHWITI…

THE multi-award-winning, globally acclaimed Ndebele visual artist and SA national treasure, Dr Esther Mahlangu (84) has put Mzansi on the map once again. Gogo Esther, as she’s affectionately known, has become the first local artist to have her famous artwork displayed on a custom-made Rolls-Royce Phantom, which was unveiled recently at The Melrose Gallery. A STAR IS BORN Born in Middelburg Mpumalanga, in 1935, Gogo Esther began painting at the age of 10, learning the Ndebele cultural tradition of painting and decorating houses. “I was taught to paint by my mother and grandmother, they used their hands and I was taught to paint with the chicken feather,” Gogo Esther said in an interview with the Sunday Times. “From as far as I can remember, I followed traditions passed down from…

SHE’S not afraid anymore. She’s learnt to be bolder and speak up on issues she believes in. TMI co-presenter Gabisile Tshabalala, who’s pregnant with her second child, says she’s become a new person. During her first pregnancy the star was allegedly fired from a soapie because of it. This time she’s enjoying her growing bump – and wants to make sure the same thing doesn’t happen to other women. “I’ve noticed that once you start speaking up, you’re seen as a diva or a horrible person so they need to get rid of you,” she says. But adds that speaking your mind is important. “If I’m not happy about something, I’ll approach you.” #SOWHATIAMPREGNANT With so many women crying in silence, she says it feels right to speak up for…

TWO boys aimlessly wander the streets of Cape Town. By day they beg for food and get themselves into all kinds of trouble, and at night they sleep on a pavement because they have nowhere else to go. Their future seems totally hopeless. But then one day, they’re given a chance to escape their desperate circumstances – and they grab it with both hands. Soon after, they’re jetting around the world as the stars of a travelling circus, performing for the likes of former US president Barack Obama and tennis ace Roger Federer. Jacobus “Trompie” Claassen (27) and Phelelani “Ree” Ndakrokra (25) are living proof that lucky breaks do happen. Joining the world-renowned Zip Zap Circus, a non-profit organisation that helps disadvantaged kids find purpose in life through big-top disciplines,…

On 14 February, a coronavirus infection was confirmed in Egypt. But the patient recently tested negative for the virus after spending weeks in quarantine. Earlier in February, 301 Egyptians were evacuated from Wuhan and remained in quarantine in Egypt for 14 days. Egypt’s health minister, Hala Zayed (ABOVE), was criticised for sending the evacuees to Al-Nujaila Central Hospital, which is in a residential area, without consulting local citizens. What’s more, doctors agreed to work there without being told about the possible infections, the Middle East Monitor reported.…

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PORK TROTTER STEW SERVES 4-6 PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: 1-2 HR ■ 500g pork trotters, sliced ■ 250-300g pork stewing meat OR shanks ■ salt and freshly ground pepper ■ 15ml (1T) oil ■ 1 onion, chopped ■ 4 garlic cloves, crushed ■ 2 bay leaves ■ 1L (4c) chicken OR vegetable stock ■ 250g butternut, cubed ■ 1 can (410g) brown lentils, drained ■ 2 chillies, chopped (optional) ■ handful of fresh coriander, chopped TO SERVE ■ 4-6 rotis ■ extra coriander (optional) 1 Season all the meat well with the salt and pepper. 2 Heat the oil in a pressure cooker and brown the meat. Add the onion, garlic, bay leaves and stock and bring to the boil. Secure the lid of the cooker and cook under pressure…

HE’S found a new way to make the country laugh. After becoming popular for his funny videos and stand-up comedy, Skhumba is now also a firm fan favourite with the success of his new TV show. In the Showmax original series Trippin with Skhumba he takes viewers on a journey across the country, exploring the lives of Mzansi’s favourite jokers as they chat about their milestones and finding the middle ground in the entertainment industry, while also celebrating their successes. In each episode, Skhumba and six of his comedian friends go back to their roots, journeying to their hometowns on authentic South African road trips. HOW IT CAME ABOUT The show was inspired by a feature that Skhumba does in his show Blom Blom, in which he invites prominent people…

Like cutting down on the wrong kind of food to lose a few kilos, cutting down on info can give you a new lease of life. ■ Be selective Start cutting down by taking a minute to think about how much of the content you consumed today was actually useful or entertaining. ■ Switch off! Don’t charge your phone on the bedside table. Leave it in another room, close enough to hear calls. “If something is important or urgent enough a person will call you,” says Jared Carneson, a Joburgbased social and digital innovation expert. He suggests making device-free hours in your home and creating off-limit areas (such as the dinner table) and times for devices. ■ The notification diet If you absolutely can’t handle the idea of missing notifications,…

JOHANNES PUTSWETSI LEKGOTHO Leave the material things aside and get involved with someone who loves you for who you are and not what you have. It is good to be independent. Choose someone who will match your personality. MALAKE NGWANA WA KGALAKE Look at what it is that you’re bringing to the table. Are you an honest person? What will and won’t you tolerate? Also think about the type of man you want. Even then, you’re not guaranteed a perfect person or marriage. REMBU RAY SEMATA I may be right for my partner, but the qualities you want may be the opposite to what my woman wants. Choosing a partner doesn’t come on a silver platter. You spend time getting to know each other and working on things.…

If you are passive at work, you may avoid conflict and be so shy or easy-going that people take advantage of you. This way, you may never get what you want. It tells people that your needs and feelings aren’t as important as other peoples. Consider this example: You say yes when a colleague asks you to take over a project, even though you have so much on your plate already. This extra job means you’re working overtime and you’ll miss out on important things in your personal life. You said yes to keep the peace but other areas of your life that are important to you will suffer. This can eventually lead to stress, resentment, anger and feeling victimised. If you’re aggressive at work, you likely come across as…

WHEN we walk into her studio, we can see it’s been set up to be a sociable place. “I wanted a space where people are able to talk about anything and sing together,” gospel singer Mahalia Buchanan tells Move!. And talk we do. She tells us about her ONE Gospel TV show, Destiny – which she founded and co-produces – as well as her new music. NEW SINGLE The former Joyous Celebration star has just released a single called You Fight for Me on her record label, Hali’s Faith. The song’s lyrics are based on one of her favourite scriptures, Deuteronomy 1:30: “The Lord your God, who is going before you, will fight for you, as He did for you in Egypt, before your very eyes.” The 28 year old…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

I GREW up around a big family in a very small village. I was always a hard-working learner, from the time I was in primary school. I always wanted to make a name for myself because I didn’t want to end up like some of the people in our village. Poverty had a home in our village. It is all about survival of the fittest. You look around and see a lot of teenage pregnancy and unemployment and that leads to crime. There’s nothing to do, no entertainment and to go into town, you have to pay R35 for a taxi. In my home, no one works besides my brother. He can only help us here and there because he does not earn much. All of this motivated me to…