Olivia Buxton, 49, is mum to Ella, 15, Amalie, 11, and Jude, 13 months. She says, “My partner, Perry, 60, and I didn’t set out to have a baby together. Between us, we already had five daughters, and adding to our brood was never high on our agenda.
“When Perry, a music producer, and I started dating, I decided that in my late 40s, I could be carefree about contraception. I’d previously been on the pill, which had caused depression, weight gain and terrible mood swings, and friends’ horror stories about the coil put me off that, too. So we were being careful and assumed that would be enough.
“But in May 2019, I learned I was pregnant. We were thrilled despite the shock, but when I was around 12…
