Indice dei contenuti per May/Jun 2023 in Fairlady

1 The Perfectionist ‘The perfectionist pays too much attention to detail, and you would think they don’t procrastinate, but that’s not true, because a perfectionist pays so much attention to detail that they often can’t finish a project,’ says Linda Sapadin, psychologist, success coach, motivational speaker and author of How to Beat Procrastination in the Digital Age. 2 The Dreamer The dreamer has the opposite problem: they don’t pay attention to details, so while they have big, ambitious goals, there are no actionable ways to achieve them. 3 The Worrier ‘The Worrier is so anxious they ask themselves “what if” a lot. They’re cautious,’ Sapadin says. They struggle to dive in and take action. 4 The Crisis Maker This type lives for the adrenaline rush of a deadline. So much so that they’ve convinced…

Born on 25 April 1969 in Katy, Texas, to Kjellfrid Irene Andreassen, a Norwegian-born former nurse and midwife, and Emil Erich Zellweger, a Swiss-born engineer, Renée grew up wanting to be a writer. In fact, she went to study English at the University of Texas, which is where, instead, she ‘fell’ into acting. Bit parts in ’90s hits Dazed and Confused (1993) and Reality Bites (1994) paved the way for bigger roles in Love and a .45, The Return of the Texas Chainsaw Massacre (co-starring fellow Texan and then unknown Matthew McConaughey) and Empire Records (1995). ‘Rather than continuing with my journalism degree, I finished up quickly with my lit degree so that I could just see where [acting] would go,’ she says. ‘I figured I could always go back…

The Local Edit CHRISTINE MEINTJES & BERDINE SWART START-UP COSTS: ‘Initially, the technology and the team working on The Local Edit were our key focus and our most significant investment to date.’ TURNOVER: ‘In our first year, we paid back more than R1 million to the brands we sell on our platform. We are extremely proud of this contribution to local small businesses.’ iN 2021, Christine and Berdine launched The Local Edit, an e-commerce platform that makes it easy to find and buy a wide variety of South African brands in one place. So, what is The Local Edit? In a nutshell, The Local Edit is the e-commerce platform with the widest variety of local brands all in one place. There are lots of great independent brands in South Africa,…

These awards recognise and celebrate outstanding achievements by women entrepreneurs, because we believe women who run their own businesses have a huge role to play in our country’s economy. That’s why we’re looking for the most impactful, resilient, inspiring women entrepreneurs in South Africa. Whether you recently started a new business or you’ve been running your own enterprise for a while, we want to hear from you. Winning one of the three Santam Women of the Future Awards will be a game-changer for you and your business. Not only will you benefit from cash prize money, mentorship from the judge of your choice, beauty products from our beauty partner Lancôme, and many other fabulous prizes, but your business will also get an enormous publicity boost from FAIRLADY and TRUELOVE magazines.…

Fifties circle skirt Wearing a circle skirt is all about proportions: make sure to balance out the volume at the bottom with a fitted top. For a modern (weather-appropriate) take, add an extra layer like a longer-length coat. Leather mules Mules are everywhere this year, and there are so many different styles and heels to pick from. For a feminine look, wear heeled mules with a slip dress or midi skirt, or pair androgynous flats with jeans and a trench. Shades of green This soothing shade can be worn head to toe: think of it as a neutral and play with textures by combining sequins, linen and knits. Trench dress You’ve heard of a shirt-dress… Well, this is its autumnal alter ego: the trench dress. We love the mustard rather…

DURBANVILLE DEBRIEF Durbanville wineries are producing some excellent wines, and the valley has long been popular with day-trippers eager to sample everything from its excellent array of food and wine to its popular hiking and cycling trails. Our wine panel sampled a selection of 10 wines from the area… and were left wanting more. NITÍDA WILD CHILD SAUVIGNON BLANC, R180 With grass and apple on the nose and apricots and pears on the palate, this is an unusual, very enjoyable wine. It would be perfect with a risotto. KLEIN ROOSBOOM JOHAN CABERNET SAUVIGNON 2021, R165 This Cab has initial coffee on the nose, which softens into light red berries. It’s a wine to share with best friends, enjoyed with a hearty stew. DE GRENDEL BRUT 2019, R259 One of the…

LE CREUSET 1.6 L R1999; @Home BEST BUY! This kettle has a timeless design and the craftsmanship is exceptional. We were impressed with the speed of heating – it was the fastest in our tests to come up to temperature at full capacity (14 minutes on a medium gas flame) and when we boiled smaller quantities. It retained the heat very well after it was removed from the heat source. It’s a little on the heavy side, but we considered the weight manageable. The exterior got hot but the handle and spout lever remained cool, making it easy to pour the water. The narrow spout is great for precise pouring; we didn’t need to tilt the kettle much. The maximum water level line on the outside is a handy feature.…

The solution to Brainteaser 184 is on the opposite page. Turn to page 176 for entry details and winners’ names. ACROSS 1. Gabble 4. Sundry 7. Mess 10. Spangle 13. Brands (5,5) 15. South Pole continent 17. Cow sounds 19. Bakery treat 21. Facts 23. Internet pages 25. Skilfully 28. Quayside labourer 29. Injure 30. Illegal drug (1,1,1) 32. High-speed (train) 36. Request 37. Impostor 38. Scope 40. Grinding tooth 42. Gumtree marsupial 44. Uses frugally, … out 45. Comprehend 46. Bathroom-wall square 47. Father 49. Emirate, Abu … 51. Untruthful people 53. Radar screen spot 54. Eagerly expectant 55. Dappled 56. Well-dressed 57. Wizards 60. Thickness 65. Stag horn 66. Publication 68. Fuss 69. Incites (4,2) 71. Set (table) 72. Festive occasion 73. Go together 76. Gosh! 78. Display…

What’s the point? Antenna Antler Argument Beak Compass Dart Decimal Finger Icicle Javelin Needle Pyramid Scalpel Spike Star Sword Talon Thorn Triangle Solution on page 175 Ends with-ary Aviary Biliary Binary Bleary Boundary Diary Dreary Judiciary Library Military Notary Salary Scary Secondary Teary Vinegary Weary Solution on page 175 Chinese provinces Anhui Fujian Gansu Guizhou Hainan Hebei Henan Hubei Hunan Jiangsu Jilin Shanxi Sichuan Tianjin Yunnan Solution on page 175 Movie night S Saw Scream See No Evil Seven Shrek Skyfall Snatch Some Like It Hot Spider-Man Spy Kids Star Wars Stripes Stuart Little Solution on page 175…

WINNING LETTER CROSSING THE LINE Your article on gender identity in the March/April 2023 issue is so disingenuous it’s borderline criminal. I find it morally repugnant to even suggest that pumping a perfectly healthy child full of puberty blockers and synthetic cross-sex hormones is going to help their situation. In your article you ‘neglected’ to add the following information about the drugs you mention so nonchalantly. The puberty blocker known as Lupron is a chemical castration drug. Lupron causes permanent, irreversible damage. In 2003, the makers of Lupron were sued by the US government and deemed a criminal enterprise. The company paid $875 million to the government as settlement and just continued prescribing it. Synthetic cross-sex hormones cause permanent, irreversible damage. Patients are left with permanent sexual dysfunction. Surgeries have…

Holding a dead child in your arms is something imprinted indelibly on the psyche. There are days I still wake to feel my heart stutter and leap, as his no longer can, cells quiver at a frantic new frequency, mind shut down then abruptly reboot, flickering from overload, struggling to compute. For a moment I again think I have joined my boy. I long to join him. To not be. Then the world flows back, as it did that September Sunday in 2019 when police arrived, peeled me from him, zipped his beautiful, unblemished, six-foot body into a mortuary bag and drove away. Leaving him forever 25. And us, like all survivors, forever changed, invisibly but intrinsically, as we move on through life. Watermarked. My book Waterboy, Making Sense of…

Love him or hate him, daytime TV shrink Dr Phil is a master of pithy aphorisms regarding modern relationships. One of my favourites is, ‘If you have a good sexual connection, it’s about 10% of your relationship. If you have an unhealthy sexual connection, it’s 90%.’ Which is to say, in a long-term relationship, when you’re both on the same page about sex, it’s not something that occupies a lot of your relationship ‘bandwidth’. Is it possible that having no sex can live in this category? The sexless long-term relationship is almost always portrayed as a sad, neglected, even shameful state of affairs. The internet is awash with articles, YouTube videos and listicles on how to fix or survive this painful condition, how to ‘keep loneliness at bay’ and ‘save…

Change happens by chance, by choice or by crisis. Sometimes we are sent life tremors… warnings or bumps in the road; and sometimes we’re sent a lifequake that knocks us completely off our centre. My family and I were sent such a lifequake on 18 November 2017 at 3 am. Roxy, our dog, was barking like crazy at the bottom of the garden, which woke me up. My husband, Simon, was not in bed. Unable to sleep, he had been watching TV in the family room. Wide awake but not overly alarmed, I walked up the passage to make myself some tea, and casually mentioned that Roxy was really making a noise, which he hadn’t heard over the sound of the TV. I then closed the passage door and went…

WHAT NONKULULEKO WILL BE LOOKING FOR ‘I am looking for a woman who has clarity of vision for her business and has shown resilience through challenging times.’ BEAUTY PARTNER NONKULULEKO GOBODO, Founder and CEO of Awakened Global We’re honoured to welcome Nonkululeko, a woman who knows all about breaking the proverbial glass ceiling, to the Women of the Future judging panel. Today, she is the CEO of Awakened Global and she serves on the boards of PPC and Shoprite Holdings. In 1987, when she was just starting out, she charted the way for thousands of young women coming after her when she became the first black African woman to qualify as a chartered accountant in South Africa. Nonkululeko went on to establish her own successful accounting and auditing firm during…

Danya Potgieter and her husband, Shandor, were trying for their second child when she got some shocking news. At just 34, she discovered she was in perimenopause: her chances of falling pregnant had plummeted to a mere 0.001%. ‘I was broken,’ she says. ‘I’d never even heard of perimenopause. I thought menopause was something that happened to older women. Looking back, however, I did have a lot of the symptoms.’ Danya had ascribed her irregular periods to the Mirena, a hormone-releasing intra-uterine device, which she’d had for five years. The Mirena is known for causing light periods or sometimes even stopping menstruation altogether. She went to her gynaecologist for a check-up because she wasn’t getting pregnant as easily as she had expected, and was told something didn’t look right: her…

Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow BY GABRIELLE ZEVIN Sadie Green and Sam Masur first become friends as 12-year-olds, when Sam is in hospital with a smashed foot and a broken life, and Sadie is visiting her sister. This intricate, delicate book spans 30 years of their relationship, although they are not always friends. Sam is a gifted mathematician, Sadie a brilliant programmer, and together they design complex and beautiful online games along with Marx, Sam’s roommate, who becomes their producer. Their games create immersive and coherent worlds, unlike the one they themselves increasingly inhabit. Also unlike the real world, the thing about online games is that every time you die, you can just restart (hence the title). There is no restarting here. This book is about love in its many…

ACROSS 1. Involved ale in number of changes that can’t be counted (11) 8. A giant bird with an additional part (5) 9. Although almost unnecessary, they have their point (7) 10. It is a setback that’s concerned with poetic writing (7) 11. With no starter to main meal, it’s still on-target (5) 12. Girl I’m returning service book to (6) 14. They are extortioners and voracious, in the main (6) 18. Billy, about fifty, will look wickedly exultant (5) 19. Man with a dog could land in her embrace (7) 21. Bob errs about them being criminals (7) 23. Don’t take a service vacation (5) 24. Minds recent development with which one discriminates (11) DOWN 1. There’s an intervening period of merit in adapting to it (7) 2. Going…

ACROSS 1. Conch 6. Runway strips 12. Resettled 17. Gains 18. Positive replies 19. Pessimist or … 20. Large hairy spider 21. Frozen masses 22. Brown pigment 24. Stadium 26. Diminish, … off 29. Commotion (5-2) 33. Flavoursome 36. Family title 39. Conspired 41. Seizure 42. Climbed 43. Hothouse plant 44. Tibet’s … Lama 46. Guru 48. Leftover 50. Vagrant 52. Disfigure 54. Flying by jumbo 56. Smidgen 58. Pays court to 60. Molecule particle 61. Restaurant bill 62. Staff dining hall 66. Remove (screw cap) 67. Books custodian 70. Weapons store 71. One-sided 72. Magnates 73. Feel unwell 75. Prison guard 76. Dietary necessity 77. Pencil rubbers 78. Summoned up 80. Methane or butane 81. Scallywag 82. Fries lightly 85. Singer, Whitney … 88. Disinfected 90. Biblical sea 93.…

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Write what you know, they say. Well, this is a topic I am well-versed in. As my browser history, the perfectly organised cupboards in my kitchen, the three loads of washing I did today and the 17 cups of tea next to my desk will attest: I’m a procrastinator. Always have been. I’ve been putting off writing this article for weeks. And sure, you could write it off to laziness, self-sabotage or a deeply flawed time management system, (those are all probably in the mix), but experts say there’s more to it. ‘It’s like going into a very cold lake when you’ve decided you’re going to go swimming in it. You put your foot in, you take it out. You put it in again… It’s still too cold. You think,…

Widaad Albertus is in the middle of a fitting for the David Kramer musical Ver Innie Wêreld Kittie. There’s a lot on the go; I try to catch her between dressing actors. After school, Widaad decided to study textile and surface design. She loved drama but never thought she could make a career out of it. ‘My older sister was studying drama at the time, and I lurked around her a lot. I really fell in love with theatre, and that’s how I found myself working at The Fugard Theatre.’ She was working part-time as an usher while studying when a production manager said they were looking for someone who knew costumes. ‘I raised my hand and said, “I can sew!” They took me backstage and introduced me to costume…

A bad night’s sleep, load-shedding, inflation, traffic… Hey, just running out of coffee puts us in a tailspin! We can’t do much about most of it, but we can help you lift your spirits – in just a few minutes. We asked a few experts ato share their quick-fix tips. 1 Get some sunshine Being outdoors for even a few minutes can help you gain perspective, clear your head and feel calmer. ‘Just 5–15 minutes of sunshine a few times a week can improve your vitamin D levels and increase your serotonin,’ says Megan Hosking, crisis line and marketing manager at Netcare Akeso. ‘This means better sleep, reduced inflammation and lower blood pressure.’ So walk away from your desk and enjoy a cup of coffee outside in the sun. 2 The 5,…

I should have listened to my father when he told me to pay more attention in geography class. Perhaps then I wouldn’t have had to peek surreptitiously at Google when my husband suggested we visit Slovenia. This tiny European country lies just below Austria, sandwiched between Italy, Croatia and Hungary. But its location wasn’t the only thing I was hazy about. Slovenia, in fact, delivered surprises at every turn – but for brevity’s sake, I’ve narrowed its main selling points down to seven. 1 PRISTINE NATURAL BEAUTY We Mzansi locals like to think that when it comes to all things nature, our country has it covered. But Slovenia’s natural beauty is pristine. From the Insta-worthy emerald waters of Lake Bled (created by glacier run-off) to the fairy-tale mountain peaks of Vogel…

IF you’ve spent any time in a bookshop recently, you’ll no doubt recognise the brightly coloured cover of Bonnie Garmus’s debut novel. Set in the 1950s and 1960s, Lessons in Chemistry is about a brilliant chemist, Elizabeth Zott, who very reluctantly becomes the host of a daytime TV cooking show when her scientific career is put on hold by workplace misogyny. The producers had a plan: Elizabeth was supposed to don a tight dress, smile and read the cue cards while she demonstrated recipes in her doilied, dolled-up TV kitchen. But instead of teaching run-of-the-mill cooking, Elizabeth teaches chemistry, weaving in messages of personal empowerment and giving the ‘average Jane’ housewives at home more credit than they are used to getting. ‘It is my experience that far too many people…

Investing offshore may sound complex, but all it really means is that you’re investing in a country other than where you live. Because our economy is so tiny, there are literally thousands of investment opportunities in other countries and currencies, providing access to high-growth sectors not available locally. These include technology, like Facebook or Alphabet (which owns Google); e-commerce, like Amazon; and biotechnology, such as Gilead. SPREAD YOUR RISK A golden rule for successful investing is diversification – not putting all your eggs in one basket. It’s like eating a healthy diet: just as different foodstuffs provide your body with different nutrients to stay healthy, spreading your money across various types of investments (called asset classes) creates a healthier portfolio by reducing your risk. This is because each asset class…

BAKED POLENTA WITH FETA, BÉCHAMEL AND ZA’ATAR TOMATOES SERVES 4–6 PREP + COOKING TIME: 1 hour 45 minutes FOR THE ZA’ATAR TOMATOES • 400 g cherry tomatoes• 120 ml olive oil• 25ml (1½ tbsp) balsamic vinegar• 2 garlic cloves, peeled and crushed• 30 ml (2 tbsp) za’atar spice mix• 2.5ml (½ tsp) caster sugar• 5g parsley, chopped roughly• 5g oregano leaves, chopped roughly• salt and black pepper FOR THE BAKED POLENTA • 80 g unsalted butter• 50 g cake wheat flour• 750 ml (3 cups) full-cream milk• 4 garlic cloves, peeled and crushed• 200 g polenta• 65g pecorino Romano, grated roughly• 180 g feta, crumbled roughly• 5g sprigs of oregano (try to use the softer sprigs) 1. Preheat the oven to 150°C. 2. TO MAKE THE ZA’ATAR TOMATOES: Put the…

COLLECTIBLES Earthy jewels Down to Earth is, well, earthy and whimsical: each piece comes with its own energy and significance. There’s a collection with gemstones set in copper, a birthstone collection, charm jewellery and more. downtoearthjewellery.co.za DESIGNER COOKWARE Italian brand Smeg, much loved for its retro designs, has now branched into cookware, launching pieces like frying pans (24cm, 26cm, 28 cm and 30 cm), a deep pan (28 cm), a wok (30 cm), a casserole (24 and 26cm) and a saucepan (20 cm). The range is available in three colours: classic black, red for a pop of colour, or cream if you prefer a more minimal aesthetic. Prices range from R2299 to R3599. smeg.com/za The home edit SUSTAINABLE FUNCTIONAL ART Christine Goosens, the founder of the furniture design company Jacobs…

ACROSS 1. Sense of fun (6) 4. A madman (6) 9. Recess receiving tenon (7) 10. Inexperienced (5) 11. Ark constructor (4) 12. Placid (4) 13. In addition (3) 15. Long, heroic tale (4) 16. Break (4) 19. To immerse (3) 21. Canvas shelter (4) 22. Single-person performance (4) 24. Something additional (5) 25. William Tell composer (7) 26. A spirit, elf-like person (6) 27. Of late origin (6) DOWN 1. The milk of … …: compassionate nature (5,8) 2. A Kent coast resort (7) 3. Single number (4) 5. A quarrel, row (8) 6. Inactive, chemically (5) 7. One twisting his body into unusual shapes (13) 8. Return a loan (5) 14. Take away one’s attention (8) 17. Vow (7) 18. Breathe noisily when asleep (5) 20. Father (Latin)…

ACROSS 1. Stealing compulsion 9. Dietary (information) 15. East African country 16. Grain husks 17. Scandinavians 19. Nibble between meals 21. Chopping 22. Flotilla 23. Delight 24. Of the nose 25. Distribute 27. Filmed 29. Chatters 31. Just right 33. Small house reptile 35. From Japan or Laos 38. Actor, Spencer … 40. Imprison 42. Car crash 43. Hollers 44. Prying 46. Ancient Andes Indian 48. Altogether (2,3) 49. Salty white cheese 50. UK princess 51. Types 53. Stolen 55. Complain 56. Lowers dignity of 58. Fate 61. Gun (engine) 63. Restaurant bill 65. Falls asleep (4,3) 69. Was in charge of 71. Amateur 72. Passenger carrier 74. I have (1’2) 75. Wounded with knife 76. Prospered 77. Carnivorous fish 78. Transylvania is there 79. Born as 80. Disbeliever 81.…