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CALLING ALL MEN For the past two years, social media has been abuzz with an imaginary gathering called a “men’s conference”, which is apparently organised by men to avoid spoiling their partners on Valentine’s Day. While I commend the sense of humour, I think there is actually a serious need for a real men’s conference in the country. Given the high levels of femicide incidents, domestic violence, women and child abuse, and many other social ills where men are predominantly perpetrators, a conference to tackle the scourge should be established. Imagine hundreds of men under one roof discussing how they can contribute towards ending violence, alcoholism, murder and abuse? ‘THERE IS A SERIOUS NEED FOR A REAL MEN’S CONFERENCE’ Gender-based violence continues to be a thorn in the flesh of…

Natural She kept her natural hair, even when she was under pressure to change her looks to fit into the Miss Universe competition.“I was like,‘No, you know what, I’m going to do it the way I am, because I’ve been with my natural hair for the past three years,”’ she told Insider. She’s confident She’s all about filling spaces that were previously closed to people from disadvantaged backgrounds. “My biggest job as Miss Universe is to spread awareness and I’m hoping to use my position to be my true self,” she says. She never gives up She entered Miss SA twice – the first time in 2017, when she made it to the semi-finals. She tried again and this time won and took the Miss Universe crown. What’s…

HE’S enjoyed over three decades performing across the continent and Sipho “Big Fish” Makhabane (55) is still standing strong. The musician and producer’s latest professional undertaking is the Mpumalanga Pre-Easter Prayer and Gospel Festival at the Mbombela Stadium in Mpumalanga, which will be held on 4 April. He says the idea came about after a near-fatal car crash in 2014. “A lot of people thought I wouldn’t come back because I was in a coma. When I look back at the horrible accident I was in, I saw the grace of God. I wanted to create awareness for road safety, to say we are tired of counting lifeless bodies from accidents that could have been prevented.” The first event was held last year and it was a huge success. Sipho…

GET this thing afloat again,” he was told when he took over a sinking ship 18 months ago. Randall Carolissen knew he had his work cut out for him. The National Student Financial Aid Scheme (NSFAS) – established as a lifeline to thousands of young people as they embark on their futures – had been placed under administration after years of chaos and mismanagement. Naledi Pandor, then minister of higher education and training, told him it was his job to turn things around, so he rolled up his sleeves and got stuck in straightaway. It was a daunting task: he had to ensure students were paid their outstanding allowances, oversee new applications and manage operational challenges. “People ask me how I felt walking in here, whether I was scared or…

t – teaspoon/s T – tablespoon/s c – cup/s FISH IN AMASI BATTER WITH CHIPS SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 30 MIN RESTING: 30 MIN COOKING: 30 MIN BATTER ■ 250ml (1c) flour ■ 5ml (1t) baking powder ■ 2,5ml (½t) salt ■ 250ml (1c) amasi ■ 2 eggs, whisked ■ 125ml (½c) soda water CHIPS ■ oil for deep-frying ■ 4-6 large potatoes, cooked ■ sea salt FISH ■ 4 hake fillets ■ salt and freshly ground pepper ■ 2,5ml (½t) paprika ■ 2,5ml (½t) cayenne pepper ■ 5ml (1t) dried mixed herbs ■ 250ml (1c) flour TO SERVE ■ fresh parsley, chopped ■ lemon wedges 1 Batter Mix the flour, baking powder and salt. In a separate bowl, whisk the amasi and eggs together, then add to the flour mixture.…

Busisiwe Malangwane, a registered counsellor from Midrand, says it’s best to seek help from a professional marriage counsellor if a couple can’t see eye to eye on issues discussed before marriage. She suggests tackling these important questions before getting hitched: ■ Have you been married before? If yes, how has that shaped your view of marriage? ■ How was conflict handled in your household growing up? Do you wish to use the same method? If not, how do you wish to handle it? ■ Do you have any debt? If yes, how much? How is your credit record? ■ Where do you want to live? ■ How should household chores be divided? ■ What is your cultural and religious belief system? And if one party’s is different, how will the…

MONEY is one of the leading causes of friction in relationships but the good news is there are ways of tackling this thorny issue and getting your finances – and your romance – back on track. IF YOU’RE IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP If your new partner often asks you to help pay their debts, think seriously before you agree. If you’re constantly bailing them out, they won’t learn how to be responsible with their money, warns Kenosi Magosha of Sanlam Personal Finance. It’s a good idea to consult a financial planner together to devise a practical debt plan. IF YOU’RE MARRIED IN COMMUNITY OF PROPERTY You could be held responsible for debt incurred by your spouse. Community of property means you and your partner’s separate estates become one – so…

DO YOU ever feel like life is testing you? Every time you fix one thing, something else breaks? Then welcome to my life. It’s been a trying two months of the New Year, and I have to say, it can be exhausting trying to keep things together. Recently I woke up to a house full of water after a plumbing mishap, which seemed to be the last straw in an already sucky year. I was having a little trouble seeing the bright side for a while, then I remembered I have a roof over my head. It might be wet at present, but it’s still a roof. I have food at home and super-supportive family and friends. And I have a job I love. So whatever life throws at me…

YOUR CREDIT SCORE Paying off your debt is a great (although not instantly gratifying) way of spending your stokvel payout. You could put this money into your bond repayments, pay off credit debt or settle a loan. By paying off debt, you will save on interest being added every month. Pay the account you are closest to settling first or the one with the highest interest rate. This will lower your financial burden and improve your credit score. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to: move@media24.com…

AS A fitness instructor and choreographer, she has the luxury of being able to work anywhere in the world – so Takkies Dinwiddy was excited at the prospect of making her international mark. The Puma SA ambassador thought living abroad would help boost the brand. Even so, she knew it wouldn’t be easy to relocate. Finding a home, getting to know the area and making new friends would be stressful enough without the extra pressure of being pregnant. But she knew she needed to support her husband, Chris, who’d been offered a job in London. It’s been three months since Takkies, Chris and their daughter Sana (2) left Mzansi – and they’re still adjusting to their new life. MISSING HOME “It’s cold and grey here. I can’t believe I miss…

THE singer and songwriter with the gentle voice took isiZulu choral music around the globe and made Ladysmith Black Mambazo a household name. And even on his deathbed, Joseph Shabalala never stopped singing. The legendary musician and founder of the famous group died, age 78, in Pretoria on 11 February, surrounded by his loved ones. “My brother is at perfect peace, and it is well with my soul,” says his sister, Nomusa Mkhabela (58). His final moments were with his wife, Thoko, eldest son Nkosinathi Shabalala and his siblings. Before her brother’s passing, Nomusa says, the family had gotten together on Christmas Day, at her house. “At that time he’d become seriously ill, and he’d lost his speech. However, he’d sing, even on his deathbed.” HIS LAST DAYS Nkosinathi (59),…

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Clement Fana Ntuli is a motivational speaker and author of the book Turning Trials Into Triumph. Do you have any HIV-related questions? Email your question to Clement at clemntuli@yahoo.com DRUG resistance is related to your medication intake and its effectiveness. We often hear about it when we are being encouraged to stick to our ARVs. Sadly, some of us only come across this term when it’s too late and we are told we have become drug-resistant, leaving us puzzled and clueless as to what it really means. WHAT IS DRUG RESISTANCE? It is when the medication administered for a particular condition becomes less effective or futile in remedying the medical condition. Almost all medication has the potential to become ineffective, depending on many factors. For example, multi-drug-resistant tuberculosis (MDR-TB) shows…

PISCES 19 FEB – 20 MAR You may be gullible and easily influenced and this week is no exception. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 16, 39, 6, 40, 17, 42 ARIES 21 MAR – 19 APR It’s a time to rest, restore and repair the wellbeing of body, mind and soul. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 32, 26, 50, 15, 4, 49 TAURUS 20 APR – 20 MAY It’s a week to focus on your dreams, hopes and wishes. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 29, 52, 3, 28, 17, 38 GEMINI 21 MAY – 20 JUN You’re in the limelight and catching the attention of all around you, for better and for worse. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 26, 50, 45, 11, 21, 37 CANCER 21 JUN – 21 JUL It’s a time of sharing intense feelings. YOUR…

“I have heard of many high school sweethearts who have lost touch,” says Gladys Pule, a registered nurse specialising in nursing science, midwifery, community health and psychiatry. “Some have moved on with their lives, got married to other people, went through a divorce, and then they found each other and were happily married. “But I am not sure if this could be the case with you and your high school sweetheart. “What brings a dilemma in this situation is that you are married and he is not. “If you visit him for the weekend and find yourself in bed with him, you would have been unfaithful to your husband. He is single and not committing adultery. “You stand a chance of destroying your happy-enough marriage for something you are not…

WHAT’S YOUR TYPICAL MEAL? Chicken salad. It’s a quick meal packed with antioxidants and protein, and the small amount of calories is great for weight loss or maintenance. WHAT’S YOUR FAVOURITE DRINK? Water. It has zero calories with many health benefits, including weight loss. I drink a glass before every meal – it helps me with portion control because it makes me feel fuller. WHAT’S YOUR FAVOURITE DISH? Pasta, lean mince and veggies. I like quick, healthy meals. I use wholewheat pasta to increase my daily fibre intake, the veggies provide me with my daily vitamin and mineral requirements, and the lean mince is easy and quick to prepare and a good protein option. YOUR FAVOURITE HEALTHY SNACK? A handful (30g) of raw almonds. They fill me up because they’re…

HEBREWS 4:12 states, “The Word of God is alive and powerful. It’s sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.” Yet there’s a dangerous, satanic veil over the church. Lives are no longer being changed from the pulpit, because the pulpit is no longer emitting the fire it’s meant to emit. The pulpit has become cold and powerless. Preachers have become psychoanalysts using the guesses of Sigmund Freud to handle sensitive spiritual issues. Today, the church and the secular world preach the same thing because the church no longer wants to be divinely correct – it wants to be politically correct. POLITICALLY CORRECT This term can be defined as “language, ideas, policies and behaviour seen as…

1 Can you completely trust your guy to never again do the thing that caused you to split up? A No, you’re sure he’ll do wrong again. B You think so, but you’re not 100% certain. C Yes, you believe he’s learnt his lesson. 2 What would be the main reason for you taking your ex back? A He asked you to do so and you’re too soft-hearted to say no. B You hate the idea of being single. C You miss him so much! 3 Before you took him back, would you insist that he apologised for what he did to cause the break-up? A No, you fear asking in case he refuses to apologise. B Yes, otherwise you’d never give him a second chance. C No, if you…

Rapper Cassper Nyovest has been having a hard time hiding his feelings for Miss Universe, Zozibini Tunzi. In just about every one of the beauty queen’s social-media posts, he responds, and fans have outright asked him if he has a crush on her. Move! readers have their say. I have no problem with this guy but he’s beginning to annoy me where Zozi is concerned. He’s only interested in Zozi for relevance and his ego. He wants to be the guy who’s dating Miss Universe. NTANDOKATHIXO ZULU Cassper is still a small boy for our Miss Universe. BETHUEL KGOPA Mr Attention Lover – get the heck out of here. Zozi has got class. If she dates this clown she will be ruining her image. COLLEN COSPA MAKGOPA What if Zozibini…

SHE’S put our country on the world map. Regal, beautiful and natural, she’s become a role model for girls and women everywhere. Miss Universe, Zozibini Tunzi returned home for the first time this month after being crowned – and brought the world with her. The star visited the Eastern Cape, Johannesburg and Cape Town, showing off her new crown and leaving a trail of inspired girls who now want to be like her. It hasn’t been easy being Miss Universe, she told City Press, but she wakes up and does it every day. “This is the reason I’ve decided that actually Idon’t have to do that convincingly. I just wake up and acknowledge that I’m here. The obvious initial obstacles were around the colourism and the racism I faced stepping…

SHE’s known as one of the first South African professional fashion models living with albinism. Now Refilwe Modiselle (34) plays a lead role in an international film, White Gold, that’s been selected for the Pan African Film Festival in Los Angeles in the US. “That means the film qualifies for the Oscars,” Refilwe says. GETTING THE ROLE Refilwe auditioned for the role in the short film (it’s a little over 17 minutes long) which was shot by UK-based filmmaker Luke Bradford in a week in Walkerville, south of Joburg. South Africans will be able to watch it at next month’s RapidLion Film Festival in Jozi. Refilwe says she was excited and teary when she heard she got the role. “The story has many dynamics that opened conversations about albinism. “When…

‘MY FAMILY ALWAYS REMINDS ME WHO I AM’ SHE’S known for playing Pabi, a young lady who is accustomed to the fancy life provided by blessers, in the popular SABC2 Sesotho telenovela Lithapo. But in real life, Lorraine Moropa (23), is a woman who enjoys the simple life. BEHIND THE CHARACTER Lorraine, who was born and raised in Daveyton, Ekurhuleni, has always been intrigued by the art of acting. She just didn’t know if it was possible for her to become a professional actress. She always thought the idea was far-fetched. However, when she told her mom about what she wanted to do after high school, her mother was supportive and even got her a life coach to help her prepare for the new journey. After matric, Lorraine went to…

ONE MORE DRINK Thabo and his friend are sitting in a shebeen having their daily catch-up session after work. “Why do you look so miserable tonight, what’s happened? Are things going badly at work?”Thabo asks. Before his friend answers, Thabo turns to the barman and orders another round of drinks for his obviously depressed friend. The teary friend confesses: “It’s worse than that idiot boss and his shenanigans. My wife says that if I have one more drink she’s going to leave me . . .” “Oh,” says Thabo as the barman serves the fresh drinks. “And I’m really going to miss her!” his friend cries out as he reaches for the full glass. COMPARISONS An American father is speaking to his lazy son and says, “I’m ashamed of your…

Causes & prevention ■ Stub out that cigarette Smoking can do real damage to your skin. It’s dehydrating, causes early wrinkles and tissue damage. Nicotine constricts blood vessels, inhibiting blood flow and oxygen to the cells and causing skin to lose its healthy glow. It also causes collagen to break down, making skin wrinkle and blemish. ■ Pollution Living in an environment where there’s a lot of dust can irritate the skin. ■ Don’t stay in the sun too long Excessive exposure to the sun can damage your skin, causing premature ageing and cancer. ■ Be careful around household detergents The chemicals in items like air fresheners and bleach can irritate the skin. ■ The effect of meds Certain medications can cause acne as a side effect. ■ Eat the…

Nthabiseng Monareng holds LLB and LLM degrees from Wits University. Nthabi has more than 10 years’ experience in the legal field, specialising in family law. She’s written books on family law and is a family law mediator. Q I WANT MY OWN HOUSE I have been married for 13 years to my abusive husband. I had a protection order against him because he was abusing me and our kids. He even kicked us out of our rental house. We are now staying in a small room. He was recently arrested for violating the protection order. Now I want to take out a home loan. I want the house to be under some kind of children’s trust in case he files for divorce. How do I go about doing this? ANONYMOUS,…

Q I CAN’T ACCEPT HIS KIDS I’m 33 years old, have a four-year-old son and I’m expecting another boy. I’ve been married for five years. My husband has two children from two affairs and I’m struggling to accept them. When they come round I get so angry and think of divorce. How do I accept them? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A Your husband betrayed your trust – not once, but twice. This must have had a psychological and emotional effect on you. The fact there are children who are always a reminder of what your husband did may derail your healing from the betrayal. It’s important you identify what is really causing you to struggle to accept the children now, if you were initially prepared to accept them. Consider focusing on your…

Q EMBARRASSED BY MY LOPSIDED BREASTS I’m a 22-year-old woman. I am very conscious not to show my breasts when having sex because I’m so embarrassed by them. They are different sizes and one hangs lower than the other. Why do mine look like this, and how can I be more confident? EMBARRASSED, EMAIL A Any part of the human anatomy that comes in pairs is never exactly the same. So your breasts are normal and I hope you can find peace with them. As long as you have been for a breast exam with a doctor and you are healthy, there’s no need to worry about it. You could also see a psychologist who can help you find acceptance and talk you through options, such as surgery, if you…

LEBOGANG MAKAMA There is something wrong. Seek professional help and try to be more supportive and patient with him. Don’t lose hope, keep building your happy home and pray for guidance. REMBU RAY SEMATA It’s not simple for a man to open up about sexual problems. There are lot of things you can do to keep that candle burning. Just don’t think of going out of your marriage for sex – regret will come later. KOENA MOABELOMBODI Maybe he is going through a stressful time in his career or maybe he is just tired. Try to book a couple’s getaway and recoup as a couple. Make sure he is relaxed as much possible.…

It’s important to get support and counselling to tackle the habits and patterns that have led to burnout, Manga stresses. “Treatment needs to address the restoration of physical health through diet and good-quality prescribed nutritional supplements. Restoring sleep patterns and deep rest is imperative. “Healthcare schemes need to create awareness of the problem of burnout and work on methods to support more conscious and energised lives.” Manga adds that businesses need to move away from the old models of “workplace wellness” that focus on workers’ physical activity and health assessments, and look at what causes stress at work – factors such as excessive workloads, unrelenting long hours and managers’ unrealistic expectations. “We must cultivate a way of living that’s more conscious, integrated and supportive of the whole person,” she adds.…

SHE’S always had two major passions – her love of God and her love of the entertainment industry. So presenter Millicent Mashile counts herself blessed to be able to live a life dedicated to both. She presents DStv’s One Gospel show Out and About and also co-presented the channel’s Alpha Youth show with her twin sister, Skeem Saam actress Innocent Sadiki. The sisters also have a successful YouTube channel, centTWINZ, about their lives. “It is our passion to tell stories that are informative, inspirational and entertaining,” Millicent says. The online channel has allowed her to reach audiences in a way that wasn’t possible before, she adds. “Through the years we’ve knocked on many doors and went to a lot of auditions, all for an opportunity to do what we love.…

1 a.0 b.1 c.3 2 a.1 b.2 c.3 3 a.1 b.3 c.2 4 a.1 b.2 c.3 5 a.3 b.2 c.1 6 a.0 b.1 c.3 7 a.1 b.2 c.3 8 a.1 b.3 c.2 9 a.3 b.2 c.1 10 a.3 b.2 c.1 BETWEEN 0-10 You seem to have forgotten why you split up in the first place. If you take him back you could easily find yourself breaking up again in six months or maybe earlier. It’s time to let this guy go and move on with your life. BETWEEN 11-20 You obviously want to give your relationship another go, but there’s still some doubt in your mind. If you can find it in your heart to forgive him, then giving him a second chance should be easy. If not, you’ll have…

I WAS seven years old when my biological parents broke up. I was an only child and had to live with my mother, according to their custody agreement. I remember every time I asked my mom about her relationship with my father, she would say my dad found a new woman. I was still young but felt the pain of my father leaving and the pain of him starting a new family with someone else. Our lives were difficult. My mother was employed as a domestic worker but didn’t earn much. We received child maintenance from my father, but that too never felt like enough. THE GOOD LIFE A few years on, my mother met a new man. They were both single and ready to settle down. Soon, they were…