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A LOT is often said about how women should behave, what they should wear and how they should speak. A woman is often raised to be a wife, mother and daughter-in law who also just happens to have a job. The boy, however, is just expected to become a man – on his own. There isn’t as much focus on making him a potential husband, father and son-in-law, etc. All he had to do was grow up, get a job and start his own family. And if he happened to get overwhelmed, tough luck. He’d be told to “man up” and deal with it. “Indoda ayikhali,” you’d often hear older men telling younger ones. On page 60, we look at how to raise a boy child in a world where…

Gospel artist Hlengiwe Mhlaba has started performing again after taking time off to recover from a car crash last month. She’s now fine, her manager says. Move! readers have their say. We thank God for His love, mercy and grace upon mama Hlengiwe Mhlaba’s life. All the best, Mama, and God will rise you more and more. Amen. FRACKSON CHILOANE God is good at all times. We thank His strong favour and love. We love you, mtakhwethu, stay strong and blessed. Can’t wait to listen to your golden voice. NOMONDE SEKANO Such a powerful woman. We thank God for her life. TSHIDI PHEKO Her song Sthandwa Sami [shows] indeed God uphathe Hlengiwe kahle by rescuing her from the accident. THABANG RAKWENA Wow, thank God, I love her so much. Her…

‘I’M BETTER NOW. I’M WORKING AND I HAVE MY OWN HOUSE’ SHE’S gone through many phases in her life. There was the bubbly presenter on Jam Alley. Then co-host on Mzansi Magic’s Pls Call Me. Now she’s getting fans excited as Kwinana in Giyani: Land of Blood. Kwinana is a dejected divorcée who leaves her rich husband after he tells her he intends to marry their maid. In between all her life’s phases, Vinolia “V-Mash” Mashego’s had to overcome obstacle after obstacle. She’s survived many years of unemployment, rumours of poverty and being tabloid fodder. But through it all, her bubbly personality has remained intact. MAKING A COMEBACK She’s hard to miss as she walks into our studios in Auckland Park. While it’s been decades since she burst onto the…

SHE saw herself as a South African Gladys Knight, telling love stories through music. Now she’s gone from a teen singing along to international artists, to having people singing along to her music! And it’s been surreal. Inga Hina (28) burst onto the scene in 2016 after her vocals on Mobi Dixon’s Trigger stole the hearts of many. The singer, born in Port Elizabeth, is now living the life she envisioned at 16, she tells Move!. ‘I KNOCKED ON SO MANY DOORS TO SECURE GIGS’ GETTING STARTED She had the strongest desire to be a soul singer like Gladys Knight, who an uncle introduced her to when she was young. “When I was around 10 my late uncle was part of a choir and they’d rehearse at home every weekend,”…

SHE’LL never forget that Friday as long as she lives. It’s the day her life changed forever and it haunts her every day. Veronique Makwena (23) is heartbroken. She stares off into the distance as she thinks back to the day she went from a woman living her life in quiet obscurity with her two children to being a news headline. It all started the day her little girl, Chantelle, was found dead in a toilet with a brick on her head, about 100m from their house. “We called her Pinkmeisie, that was her other name,” she says softly while looking at the old, deserted toilet. She buried her daughter in August and in September, Veronique, Chantelle’s aunt, Noxolo Maneli and a family friend, Siyabonga Phakathi were arrested after they…

THE pain caused by the tumour that has crawled over her face is excruciating – yet it pales in comparison to the hurt caused by strangers pointing, staring and jeering. Ntomboxolo Maqubela’s face is almost completely obscured by an enormous tumour that has robbed her of a normal life. Her dreams of a career, owning a home and a car and starting a family have been scuppered by the mass which refuses to go away, despite a string of surgeries. The electrical engineer has lost her sight in one eye and her speech is now almost inaudible, reduced to a mumble. It has been years since she’s enjoyed a normal meal. She is no longer able to eat solid food as the tumour has spread to cover part of her…

PLAYING with your food is considered bad manners – but for one artist, it’s literally become his bread and butter. Welsh artist Nathan Wyburn (29) became the toast of the town when he started creating portraits of famous personalities by using well, just that – toast – with a dash of Marmite. YOU ART WHAT YOU EAT Nathan’s delicious pop art portraits feature Queen Elizabeth II, actress Jennifer Lawrence and artist Vincent van Gogh among many others. And when the creative juices start to flow, he doesn’t stop at toast and Marmite. He uses other grocery cupboard staples such as baked beans, coffee, tomato sauce, pizza bases, spaghetti and biscuits. And his edible endeavours are paying off. Several big companies including pen company Bic and coffee conglomerate Starbucks have commissioned…

THE STRUCTURED BAG Combine two classics – astructured bag with a floral dress – for a polished, chic look. A bag in a solid colour, like this blue one, works well with a patterned dress. TIP Vibrant prints are all the rage. Pair them with solid-coloured accessories in the same palette. SNAKESKIN SHOES It’s the must-have print of the season! A pair of these makes a statement, so choose clothing in solid colours, like this rust dress, and keep your accessories to a minimum. TIP Add colour and printed accessories to neutral tones. PATTERNED BLOCK HEELS In summer, you can never go wrong with an open-toe, strappy sling-back heel. This season, choose a pair with an interesting print or pattern. You can wear printed sandals with a floral dress if…

t – teaspoon/s T – tablespoon/s c – cup/s CHIP ROLL This isn’t an everyday meal but it’s so good to sink your teeth into. We make potato slices instead of slap chips. SERVES 2 PREPARATION: 10 MIN CHILLING: 30 MIN BAKING: 30 MIN SAUCE ■ 5ml (1t) Dijon mustard ■ 45ml (3T) mayonnaise ■ 1 clove garlic, minced ■ 45ml (3T) sweet chilli sauce CHIPS ■ 3 large potatoes, thinly sliced lengthwise ■ 15ml (1T) olive oil ■ 2,5ml (½t) paprika ■ salt and black pepper ■ 2 rolls, sliced ■ 1 small red onion, thinly sliced ■ 1 ripe avocado, sliced ■ micro greens, to serve (optional) Preheat oven to 180 °C. Line a baking tray with baking paper. Set aside. 1 SauceWhisk all the ingredients together in…

‘I OFTEN FANTASISE ABOUT WOMEN WHEN HAVING SEX. DOES THIS MEAN I’M GAY?’ Q NO SEX ALLOWED I recently lost my husband in a car accident. I was told that I shouldn’t have sex for 12 months as part of a mourning period. This is driving me crazy as we were newlyweds and were having sex every second day and I was really enjoying it. ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A I am sorry to hear about your loss and the fact that it also led to cutting short your sexual journey. There are a lot of beliefs and practices around the cleansing of one’s sexual life after the loss of a partner. A loss is very difficult, and you will be going through the different stages of grief. For most people, it…

ESCALATING incidences of rape and violence against women inspired Saud Anderson to start offering self-defence classes in addition to the traditional aikido martial arts classes he gave. Anderson started aikido at the age of 10. A few years later he took over the reins of the Mushindo Aikido School of Samurai Martial Arts In Cape Town when he was only 17. He initially ran the self-defence classes as a community project free of charge to women in Cape Town to help them become stronger and more self-confident. IF ATTACKED Anderson’s motto is to consider your safety first – then defence. “Aikido is about controlling the situation to the best of your ability,” he explains. “First, try your best to get out of the way if you can. You don’t want…

MITTAH REFILWE MOTAU You can’t force a man to marry you. He'll do it when he's ready. You have the right to ask him about his intentions. You should both be spiritually and emotionally ready. Don't let people pressure you – enjoy life. CHARITY CHAROE What if he's willing but not financially stable? You know the situation and the life you're living. We can say he's relaxed because you're giving him wife benefits or he doesn’t see you as wife material, but you know him. Why worry about what people say? SYLVIA LINDI LUTCHMAN You can’t get him to propose. Either he’s not ready for marriage or he does not see you as wife material. Speak to him about the future of your relationship. If you're not on the same…

Tshepo isn’t the only local entrepreneur feeling a lack of support from local buyers. Eustace Mashimbye, CEO of the buy-local advocacy campaign Proudly South Africa, urges the government, businesses and consumers to support local businesses as a way of boosting the economy. “If we buy locally grown and produced items, we create jobs,” he says. He describes how one of the vendors on the Proudly SA online shopping store has come in for flak for the price of his T-shirts and sweatshirts. He’s had to lower his prices, despite his products being exclusive and designer-made. This perpetuates the belief that local products are more expensive than imported ones. “It’s true that for many South Africans price is a primary consideration, but if you pay very low prices you may get…

‘GOD HAS PROVIDED FOR ME EVEN THOUGH I’VE NOT WORKED ALL THE TIME’ IT HASN’T been the best year for former child star Rorisang Thandekiso, as she’s spent a major part of 2019 in hospital following a health scare. But she stays true to the Apostle Paul’s words in the book of Romans, “What can separate us from the love of God.” Rorisang has her faith and feels renewed and restored. MY SEASON TO BE PRUNED “This year’s been the most physically draining and taxing year for me because I’ve spent so much time in hospital recovering from operations,” she says. “I’ve claimed all these wonderful verses about trusting God with our health. I had to believe Him to be my healer and I had to exercise my faith a…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

Students have to make a lot of sacrifices to pass with flying colours. That is a hard thing to do, considering the times we live in. End-of-year examinations are just around the corner. Only those who prioritise their studies and are determined to do well will succeed at the end of the year. Any student who wants to obtain excellent results will have to set aside boozing, partying and bad friends. Realising your dream will not be a walk in the park. ‘WE MUST STRIVE TOWARDS LONG-LASTING ACHIEVEMENTS’ To some, it will be the hardest thing they’ve ever had to do. But the reward is far greater than the effort. However, if a person wants to gain something, they must be prepared to lose something else. That is a universal…

WHAT happens when two sisters fall in love with the same man? All kinds of drama and suspense, and viewers now have a front-row seat as the new love triangle in Uzalo detangles. Zekhethelo and Nosipho might not have had a great relationship as stepsisters, but now they’ll be tested as a man threatens to come between them – and they might never find peace. The sisters in the SABC1 drama are having fun keeping everyone on their toes as they vie for Njeza’s affections. Is Njeza going to end up with one of them or move on? Will Zekhethelo and Nosipho’s “sisterhood” survive? The trio let us in on some of the drama. LOYALTY OVER A MAN “How could you take your sister’s man?”“Give Njeza a chance,” are some…

‘I’M LOOKING FORWARD TO MEETING NEW PEOPLE AND BRINGING WHAT I LEARN BACK TO MY COMMUNITY’ HE could easily have been a gangster by now. Or dead, he says. But Lee-Shane Booysen (26) has managed to dance his way out of poverty and will be showcasing his talent in Paris soon after being crowned South Africa’s Red Bull Dance Your Style champion. The street dancer from Mitchells Plain says his story could have been so different – something which he is fully aware of and grateful for. IN THE BEGINNING Growing up in Mitchells Plain wasn’t easy, he tells Move!. “I could so have easily become a gangster or been killed. This year I witnessed about 30 deaths. It’s sad to see young people with dreams and something to offer…

Ntombi Saleni is a public relations director at Project Inmate. They are a local NPO working with social justice on rehabilitation, reintegration and restorative justice. She says vigilantism is a big challenge in local communities. “We are fighting the battle of revenge by victims of violence every day. “It’s so unfortunate that more people have lost the will to trust in the police and our courts. “We have painfully discovered that communities feel defeated by the time it takes to investigate and prosecute perpetrators of violence – so they opt to take the law into their own hands,” she says. “We are working very hard to educate people on the implications.”…

YOU’VE read the stories and sympathised with loved ones’ pain. You might’ve added your voice to the outrage on social media or joined a mass march calling for an end to the scourge. Yet you may still feel helpless. Gender-based violence in South Africa is happening on such a large scale that it can seem like there’s nothing you can do, no matter how strongly you feel about it. But don’t despair: there are ways you can do your bit. The smallest act can go a long way to help people in need. VOLUNTEER YOUR TIME AND GOODS There are many organisations around the country offering help to women in need. We rounded up a few in SA’s major cities. To find one in your area, ask at your local…

1 Actress Vatiswa Ndara will not return for the third season of which Mzansi Magic soapie? A The Queen B Isipho: The Gift C Igazi D Generations: The Legacy 2 Former Old Mutual CEO Peter Moyo is suing the insurance giant for . . . ? A R30 million B R250 million C R300 million D R1 billion 3 . . . is the smallest country in mainland Africa? A Lesotho B The Gambia C Swaziland D Djibouti 4 Which veteran action star is known for the catchphrase, “Hasta la vista, baby”? A Chuck Norris B Sylvester Stallone C Arnold Schwarzenegger D Steven Seagal 5 The Pyrenees mountain range separates which two European countries? A Italy and France B Sweden and Norway C Serbia and Bulgaria D France and Spain…

IT DOESN'T seem to make sense, right? Putting oil on your hair will surely make it look greasy and, well, oily. Not so, say experts who are increasingly turning to hair oil to give tresses that extra gloss. Oils are versatile and can be applied to wet or dry hair before or after styling. If you’re still nervous about everyday application, opt for occasional spoil-yourself hot-oil treatments to strengthen and hydrate your crowning glory. FRIZZ Hannon Argan Oil 60ml R180 This leave-in treatment makes hair feel smooth and soft, and it eliminates frizz and dryness. Apply a few drops to the palms of your hands and smooth over your hair. Apply before or after styling on wet or dry hair. COLOUR-TREATED HAIR Tresemmé Oil Elixir for Colour Treated Hair 100ml…

THERE is an old saying that goes, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.” While this may be the case in some spheres of life, when it comes to living positively and being victorious over HIV, it needs to be challenged. Prior to being diagnosed as HIVpositive, there were likely some negative actions and behaviours that we normalised and that became entrenched in our daily lives. But it’s our responsibility to adopt new behaviours because being on ARVs alone isn’t enough to see us living many years with the virus. Without paying attention to positive living, you are affecting yourself and delaying seeing positive results in your journey with HIV. Positive living requires you to learn and master new tricks aligned to being healthy and strong. ‘ONE OF THE…

SCORPIO 23 OCT –21 NOV The sun moves into your sign, signalling time to think about birthday celebrations and a new personal year. Have aparty or keep it private and escape the crowds for time by yourself. It’s also time to plot the next year. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 2, 11, 33, 41, 29, 48 SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV –20 DEC You’re probably a restless soul, ready for adventure. You may find your energy levels not up for it and rather than fight it, take time to rest. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 19, 10, 51, 35, 8, 29 CAPRICORN 21 DEC – 20 JAN You likely play by the rules, but could be enticed to break free. Pushing out of your comfort zone could be worthwhile. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 25, 3, 31, 16,…

Mandisa Muruge, a counsellor at The Family Life Centre’s Lenasia South Office says: “Having sex with different people for money becomes a bad habit in the long run. It's not easy to stop because you see it as the easiest way to make money. This can cause you to get deeper and deeper into the industry and by the time you want out, it can seem impossible to do it on your own. You need help to stop doing what you're doing, especially since it's affecting you badly. You didn't say whether it's affecting you physically, psychologically or when you're having “real” meaningful sex with your partner. Or it is affecting your studies? Whichever way it affects you, you need to stop. You can only stop when you seek help…

IT STARTED with small drops of blood on his shirts. “Imagine a piece of white paper and you took a red pen and just put a dot on it,” Mathew Knowles says. “That’s what it looked like on my T-shirt.” Mathew, father of superstar singer Beyoncé and singer Solange, was baffled. Then his wife, Gena Avery, also noticed spots of blood on their bedsheets every morning. So they decided to take a closer look. “I squeezed my nipple and sure enough, a little discharge came out, bloody discharge,” Mathew told The New York Times. “I immediately called my doctor.” It was bad news. The 67-year-old grandfather has breast cancer, a disease that affects fewer than 1% of men in the world. THE DIAGNOSIS First doctors performed a blood-smear test on…

■ Mugging/assault on the streets If someone suspicious crosses over the road to your side, you should cross to where he came from. If he follows you again, get ready for a possible confrontation. ■ Kidnapping If someone suspicious looks at you and then focuses on your child, there’s a chance they’re considering kidnapping. It can happen so quickly – one person distracts you and then another snatches the child. They then quickly pass the child on to someone else, who passes them on to someone else, and so on until there’s no trail. Be alert and don’t easily engage with strangers who try to get your attention. Always hold onto your child’s hand in public places. ■ Car smash and grab Take care when someone talks to you at…

RAPE, sexual harassment and femicide continue to make daily headlines in our country. And with that comes a flurry of advice for women and girls on how to protect themselves from becoming the next victim. But with the perpetrators being overwhelmingly male, it’s equally important to consider how we can help shape the minds and actions of boys. We look at what experts say on how influencing boys more positively can impact on the men they will become. FROM BOYS TO MEN So many of us have said it when we’ve seen a boy pulling agirl’s braid or slugging their playmate: “Ag, boys will be boys!” But US sexuality educator Robin Wallace-Wright warns that the common saying creates an excuse for disrespectful behaviour. “It’s also disrespectful to many boys and…

1 How would you feel if you knew that you would be staying in the job you are doing now for the next five years? A Totally panic stricken. B Terribly depressed. C Absolutely delighted. 2 Would you be prepared to do your current job for less pay? A No, you barely make enough as it is. B Yes, you enjoy it so much. C Your job is so great you’d work for nothing. 3 What would your dream job be? A Anything other than. your present employment. B The one you have now. C One that allowed you to use your talents and skills. 4 It’s you and your partner’s anniversary and you have planned a very special evening. But your boss asks you to work overtime. What would…

The Triumphant Breed Foundation which aims to provide mentorship to young girls, recently celebrated their launch in Langa, Cape Town. Young girls and their parents and other family members attended in support. “Our aim is to support girls between ages 12 to 21,” says founder, Nandipha Tshona. “We work with the children, parents and schools to see where we can provide mentorship and guidance in empowering these young women. It's in our hearts to produce confident, courageous girls who know their identity and purpose in life – who will relentlessly pursue their dreams with no fear of failure. Girls who are go-getters and resilient leaders who will live their lives with integrity and accountability,” she says.…

Harassment is a real threat for women and whoever is involved in this atrocious action must stop. Most of these harassers are men. If you find yourself alone with a woman in a deserted parking garage, road, or park, especially at night, keep a respectful distance and do not approach her. Men must not assume all women are single, heterosexual or bisexual, or interested in male attention or in forming arelationship. Women are usually in public for a reason: to commute to school or work, to run errands or to exercise, not to meet harassers. Women deserve the same right to privacy in public that most men enjoy. ‘CHANGING HABITS IS HARD, BUT YOU CAN MOTIVATE YOURSELF’ Men are the problem here and they must stop harassing women. Understand that…

When one by one, a group of men – all new to the Western Cape – found each other, the decided to make more of their friendship. They are able to support each other financially and also understand the difficulties encountered as they share experiences of moving to a new part of South Africa. While they enjoy each other as friends, they also show that coming together can lead to great things. Now, their friendship has extended to their wives and their children. When the group arranged for children from an orphanage to be taken out for the day, their own children were invited to share in the experience. This way, they had a fun day out while also learning about the importance of doing what you can to make…

SHE thought she’d never make it, as one unsuccessful audition followed another. But now Mathabo Mothibe (26) plays Khensani in the SABC2 drama, Giyani: Land of Blood. It’s centered around the conflict between the Mudaus and Baloyis, who are fighting for their land in Risinga. BEHIND THE CHARACTER Mathabo is calm and composed and describes herself as “an old soul, who’s down to earth.” “Khensani and I have a lot in common,” she says. “Her love for family and putting her needs aside inspires me. But she can be too naïve and sacrifices herself to make others happy,” Mathabo tells us. Khensani moves to Risinga and falls in love with Musa (played by fellow Tshwane University of Technology graduate Wiseman Zitha). But under pressure from her family and to protect…

DR TUMI hosted the highly-anticipated Gathering of Worshippers concert at the Loftus Versfeld Stadium in Pretoria. The event formed part of the artist's fifth live DVD recording. The theme was Love on the Cross, inspired by Dr Tumi's latest 20-track double CD album. Those in attendance were treated to a great line-up of local and international artists and enjoyed worshipping along to their favourite gospel songs.…

STANDING tall and proud in a dapper grey suit, Emmanuel Gasa looked completely at home in the courtroom as he was formally admitted as an attorney of the high court. In fact, if you didn’t know better, you’d be forgiven for thinking the recently qualified Emmanuel was a veteran lawyer – but that’s mainly because at age 74 the Atteridgeville resident is about 50 years older than most newly admitted legal eagles. At an age when most of his peers would be happy to leave their working days behind them and rest on their laurels, Emmanuel has taken the plunge and embarked on a brand-new career, proving that you’re never too old to learn. “I was determined to complete this degree. I was not going to let things like my…

JOHANNESBURG Go to the city’s website (joburg.org.za). Click on the About the City link in the main menu and select Regions. Pick your region (from A-G). Once you make your selection you’ll be able to download a document with contact details for all the councillors in your region. CAPE TOWN The City of Cape Town has a link in the main menu of its website (capetown.gov.za) that allows you to search by suburb or councillor name. DURBAN Ward councillors are listed on the official website of the eThekwini Municipality (www.durban. gov.za), where there’s a link to download the full listing as well as contact details. OTHER PARTS OF SA Go to elections.org.za. Scroll to the bottom of the page and under the section called What’s Popular click on the Who…

GOGO’S GOT MAIL Gogo went out to her mailbox and looked in, closed the door and went back in the house. A few minutes later she went out and looked in the mailbox again, closed the door and went back in the house. She did this several times and her neighbour who was watching her said: “You must be expecting a very important letter today, the way you keep looking into your mailbox.” Gogo answered, “No, I’m working on that new computer Nandipha got me and it keeps telling me I have mail.” SIPHO AT SCHOOL Teacher If I give you two rabbits and two rabbits and another two rabbits, how many rabbits have you got? Sipho Seven! Teacher No, listen carefully again. If I give you two rabbits and…

These are especially good for dry, frizzy and damaged hair prone to breakage. If you can’t spoil yourself at a salon, here’s how to do it at home. ■ Put about 25-50ml hair oil in a cup and heat in the microwave for 15-30 seconds. The amount of oil you use depends on the length and thickness of your hair. For short hair, you need about 25ml, medium 40ml and 50ml or more for long hair. Thick hair requires about 15-20ml more for each length. ■ Apply the warm oil to dry or damp hair, making sure all the strands are coated. ■ Put a shower cap over your hair and wrap a heated towel – preferably a damp one so it can steam up the cap – over the…

‘MY CHILD WAS HIT WITH A BELT BY HER CRÈCHE TEACHER’ A social worker must first be approached. They can write a report regarding the child needing to be sent to rehab. Your aunt can then approach a court and obtain a court order. The social worker’s report must indicate that he’s a danger to himself and others. This report will serve as a supporting document in the court application. Q DEALING WITH A DRUG ADDICT My aunt has an 18-year-old child who is abusing drugs. He’s verbally abusive at home and sometimes throws things around and shouts at his parents. He’s also stolen from their guests and from some of the homes in the neighbourhood. Now the neighbours have told my aunt that if she doesn’t do something about…

‘I OFTEN THINK ABOUT HURTING OR EVEN KILLING MYSELF AND MY CHILDREN’ Q I WANT TO HARM MYSELF I’m 35 years old and I have three adorable boys who I love a lot. The problem is I often think about hurting or even killing myself and my children and I really don’t know what to do. Why do I have these thoughts and how can I get them to go away? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A Firstly, know that you are not alone. Many women, especially mothers, go through this and suffer in silence. Thank you for speaking up to prevent harming yourself and your children. It’s important that you get help immediately to get to the cause of your thoughts. There may be a number of reasons you have these thoughts.…

A DILDO is a good old-fashioned sex toy. It comes in a huge variety of shapes, sizes, colours, textures and materials. But they all have one thing in common – they’re shaped like a penis. Unlike avibrator, they are usually not motorised, so it’s all hands on deck! Here’s the lowdown on the different kinds so you can see which one will work best for you and your partner – or just you. THE REALISTIC DILDO These are made to resemble the real deal as much as possible. They are often made of silicone and come in an array of shapes and sizes and have lifelike features such as testicles, bulging veins and in some cases fake pubic hair. THE G-SPOT DILDO These dildos are curved with the aim of…

Male breast cancer isn’t common, Dr Sitna Mwanzi, aconsultant medical oncologist at the Aga Khan University Hospital in Nairobi, told the BBC. Across Africa, there are only about 170 000 cases a year and for every 100 breast cancer patients, only one is male. The precise cause is unknown but the risk of getting it can increase because of: ■ Genes and family history. Some men inherit mutated versions of the BRCA1 or BRCA2 genes from their parents and this increases the risk of breast cancer. ■ Conditions that can elevate levels of oestrogen in the body such as obesity and scarring of the liver, or cirrhosis. ■ Previous radiotherapy to the chest area. Men can help reduce their risks by: ■ Eating a balanced diet ■ Slimming down ■…

EVERY child comes into the world with dreams locked deep inside their hearts. These dreams are waiting to manifest like a flower that blooms. Every human is divinely created with potential, regardless of the circumstances they’re born into. PURSUING A DREAM The starting point in realising your dream is to perceive it. To perceive is to develop the why, the what, the where and the how of the dream. All you may see in the beginning is a glimpse. The finer details will unfold as you walk in faith, determination and boldness. In my book, The Dream, I say, “They perceived the dream regardless of whether they will be around to witness the long-term impact of the dream.” Dreamers who realise their God-given potential develop boldness and determination to overcome…

‘I JUST DIDN’T KNOW HOW TO BE A MOTHER’ I WAS 21 years old when I fell pregnant. Until then, my life was pretty easy and stress free. But from the moment I discovered I was pregnant, everything changed. It felt like a constant uphill battle. What didn’t help was that the father of the child wasn’t around to support me. ALL ON MY OWN There was no one to advise me during my pregnancy . I didn’t know what I should do, how to prepare to have a baby, how to be a mother. At the time, Istayed with my brother who only came home at the end of the month for a few days. He worked far from where we lived. My mother was in hospital with an…