A GATHERING FORCE
WHEN I WAS A KID, I SPENT THE FIRST WEEK-end of August each year at a reunion for my mother’s side of the family, built around a golf tournament they created called the Schmitz Open. (Schmitz is my mom’s maiden name.) The tradition had started in 1978 in Chicago, then the family seat, as an excuse for my six uncles and two great-uncles, their cousins, various in-laws, and close friends to get together and mess around on the golf course. They even made T-shirts—yellow, with fuzzy letters that read schmitz open and an ironed-on cartoon of a guy whacking a ball. By the eighties, the reunion had drifted west, to the original family seat: the heartland of Iowa, where my mom’s brother Jim and his wife, Marla, lived. Uncle Jim and…