Table of contents for September -October 2020 in Fairlady

You may already know that from this issue on, FAIRLADY will be published once every two months, as opposed to monthly. It’s very sad for us, for many reasons, but at the same time we do understand that it’s the right decision to make in this economic climate, not only because of what it costs to put the magazine together but also because of what it costs you, our beloved readers, to buy it. We’re mindful that we’re all living through seriously tough times, and if this allows us to navigate our way through them, then we’re all for whatever changes we have to make. Above all, we’re delighted still to be here, and we know we have you to thank for that. Putting this bumper book together (64 extra…

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Shelley Mokoena INTERIOR DESIGNER ‘I know style is meant to look effortless – but what most people don’t realise is how much effort you need to put into pulling off that look. My style is minimal with a bold effect.’ Crystal Birch MILLINER ‘My hats are non-binary and they don’t have an age limit. I don’t like the word “vintage”. Millinery is an old craft, but I do it with a contemporary take.’ Zipho Ntloko BRAND CONSULTANT & MAKEUP ARTIST ‘I like vintage pieces a lot. With sustainability being a big thing in fashion, I wear a lot of my parents’ things from the ’90s.’ Sharon Armstrong FASHION DIRECTOR OF SUNDAY TIMES LIFESTYLE, WANTED & SMAG; EDITOR OF THE EDIT & EDIT MAN ‘I have a wardrobe full of white…

GET GOING ON A GAME PLAN If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. It’s an age-old adage that rings true for all aspects of life. During this time of business unusual, it’s more important than ever to spend time developing a solid game plan. Now’s the opportunity to consider the future possibilities for your business, then actively pursue them. Here are some pointers on developing your game plan: 1. Define success: What does success mean to you? How do you measure success? Who do you celebrate success with? Think beyond the bottom line. From this, write down your overarching vision and goals. 2. Scenario plan: Use strategic scenario-planning techniques to imagine some of the most likely possibilities for your business. Then consider how you can bring about the…

AT just 30 years old, Margot Robbie is building quite an empire. The Australian-born actress has starred opposite countless Hollywood heavyweights, caught the attention of big names like Martin Scorsese and Quentin Tarantino and started a production company (at 24!). In 2019, Forbes ranked her as the eighth highest-paid actress in the world, while The Hollywood Reporter named her among the 100 most powerful people in entertainment. This year has seen her star in superhero film Birds of Prey and produce the thriller Promising Young Women starring Carey Mulligan. She is also in talks to star in a female-driven Pirates of the Caribbean – clearly Margot isn’t content with leaving certain genres to the boys. Her beginnings were pretty humble. Margot grew up on Australia’s Gold Coast and her parents…

1. Wean yourself off painkillers. If you suffer severe migraines, ask your doctor or pharmacist about triptans (tryptamine-based painkilling and anti-nausea drugs) such as Sumatriptan instead; ignore minor headaches. 2. Use non-medical methods to manage pain: good sleep, regular moderate exercise, progressive relaxation and mindful breathing, as well as addressing your life stressors, with counselling if necessary. 3. See a neurologist or pain management specialist to get to the root of your problem. ‘We detox pain patients with physiotherapy to help relax their muscles,’ says Dr Shaquir Salduker of the Durban Pain Clinic. ‘We also have a psychologist educate them on the nature of their pain and help them to reframe it using cognitive behavioural therapy.’ 4. Take whatever medication you are given exactly as directed. 5. If you need…

What books would we find on your bedside table right now? Less by Andrew Sean Greer, Daisy Jones & The Six by Taylor Jenkins Reid, and Dear Mrs Bird by AJ Pearce. Who is your favourite celebrity chef? Chef Katlego Mlambo of The Marabi Club in Maboneng Precinct. He was recently honoured with the 2019 Eat Out Nederburg Rising Star Award. He’s such a beautiful personality and his food is wonderfully vivacious and eclectic. I just adore him – I don’t think it will be long before he gets his own TV show and I can’t wait! What’s your go-to dish to make for dinner parties? I’m all about prepping ahead. So I would go with anything Ottolenghi-inspired, or a one-dish wonder you can serve with lashings of wine and…

I’M early. I have been up since 4am, having caught the red-eye flight from Cape Town to Joburg, boarded the Gautrain to Rosebank and then hopped into an Uber to the front gate of 15 11th Avenue, Randburg – which will be my place of new beginnings for the next eight days. The room I am in – once a garage that has been converted into a studio/flower haven – is an icy 16°C; flowers need to be kept cold. Since I’m smack-bang in the middle of a menopausal meltdown, the idea of working inside a fridge makes perfect sense! I’ve wanted to be a florist for the longest time, so when this flower-arranging course came along, I jumped at the opportunity. Funnily enough, something really does switch when your…

On any given day, someone somewhere is most likely leading an Artist’s Way group, gamely knocking back the exercises in The Artist’s Way book, the quasi-spiritual manual for ‘creative recovery’, as its author Julia Cameron puts it, that has been a lodestar for blocked writers and other artistic hopefuls for more than a quarter of a century. There have been Artist’s Way clusters in the Australian outback and the Panamanian jungle; in Brazil, Russia, the United Kingdom and Japan; and also, as a cursory scan of Artist’s Way Meetups reveals, in Des Moines, Iowa and Toronto. It has been taught in prisons and sober communities, at spiritual retreats and New Age centres, from Esalen to Sedona, from the Omega Institute to the Open Center, where Julia will appear in late…

When I was 25, I swapped nudes with my partner on a pretty regular basis. It felt safe. I trusted him. It was fun, flirty and exhilarating. Why did you leave your drink unattended? Why did you go for a run by yourself? What were you wearing? Why were you out so late? Were you drinking? Why did you stay with an abusive partner? Fast-forward a few months and our relationship had run its course. But it didn’t end there. A friend of his was scrolling through his phone, came across my nudes in his gallery and forwarded the photos to a WhatsApp group. And the rest is history. Soon, it felt like almost every person I knew had seen me at my most intimate and most exposed. I got…

Balance is important no matter what room it is, especially when it comes to colours. ‘If there is too much yin (blacks, whites, dark blues), you need to bring in warm colours (yellow, reds, orange) just to balance the yin and the yang,’ says Elaine. And always allow fresh air into your space. It sounds simple, but there are so many people who don’t open a window to let all this energy come in, especially in winter. ‘Otherwise, the energy just stagnates,’ explains Elaine. ‘You’ve got to have movement to allow this energy to filter through your home.’ Clutter is a symptom of bad energy. Sometimes it’s said that mess is an example of bad feng shui, but Andrew explains that it’s usually the bad feng shui that causes mess.…

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Virgo 23 AUG – 22 SEPT Make a date with your intuition and a glass of wine. An intriguing tug between you wanting to stay in your shell for longer than usual and a funny, vague feeling that ‘something big’ is rolling towards you at a rate of knots calls for a catch-up with your own sweet self. Sit quietly and write down what’s up. You’ll be floored. Libra 23 SEPT – 22 OCT Understanding comes slowly, like a clearing sky. Visualise this as you grapple to make sense of someone else, or a situation, that seems not only illogical, but insane. Perspective is a genuine thing: what you believe to be true might not be the case, and vice versa. Allow space and time for a dawning ‘aha’ moment.…

Shining Girl Lauren Beukes Lauren is a phenomenon anyway, but I especially love her this month for getting a FULL-PAGE glowing review in The New York Times for Afterland, her most recent book – by none other than Stephen King. I don’t think it gets much better than that. Oh yes, George R. R. Martin also called her a ‘major, major talent’. So there’s that, too. She’s a proper South African superstar. Possibly the Coolest Couple in the world Chang Wan-ji and Hsu Sho-er – both well into their 80s – own Wansho, a laundromat in Taiwan, and they pose together in outfits put together from clothes that customers have forgotten to collect. Styled by their grandson, Reef Chang, they manage to look incredibly hip and cool… and Chang Wan-Ji’s…

COMFORT READ Reading Love for Imperfect Things by ‘Twitter monk’ Haemin Sunim was my way of mourning the year that could’ve been. In March, I was supposed to have a huge party to celebrate my engagement. In June, I was supposed to explore Europe by train. And, in December, I planned to walk down the aisle in a church filled with more than a hundred of my closest friends and family. There’s no better time to pick up this book as an act of self-love. It helped me find the beauty and joy in things that are imperfect; things that go wrong. The artwork inside, by Lisk Feng, is beautiful and calming, and reminds me of the joy in simple pleasures. And Haemin’s kind words and assuring revelations will help…

Stefania Morland You make garments that people wear for big, important life moments. Can you describe the feeling of finding the right dress? You look in the mirror and it feels great. My customers just love wearing my clothes because they feel good. They love the natural fabrics; the feel of silk on the skin. Tell me about your charm necklace. I don’t wear lots of jewellery, except for the charms on my chain that I buy on my travels. I started 20 years ago. Sometimes, the chain breaks and I lose a few, but I don’t mind. I have a black kitty-cat, a Maltese cross from Malta, a lion from Florence, an ‘S’ for Stefania, a crab holding a sparkly shell, and an antique crystal ball, among others. The…

‘ The International Association for the Study of Pain defines abuse as taking more than eight to 12 painkillers in a month.’ When saleswoman and single mom Anne D found herself checking into Joburg’s Houghton House outpatient clinic at age 48 for an addiction problem, she couldn’t quite believe it. ‘It wasn’t like I was using cocaine, heroin, or even abusing alcohol,’ she says. But she was among a growing number of largely middle-aged, middle-class women who, while they wouldn’t dream of dabbling in hard drugs, have come to use over-the-counter (OTC) opiate painkillers in potentially lethal quantities. ‘It crept up on me,’ she says. Anne has fibromyalgia, which causes musculo-skeletal pain accompanied by problems with sleep, memory and mood as well as chronic fatigue syndrome. ‘I had tried different…

Flowers have been used for centuries to relay messages of love, loss, birth, death, forgiveness, friendship... the list goes on. In the Victorian era, a posy of flowers would have been made up very carefully to convey a young man’s feelings for a sweet gal down the road – in other words, a silent monologue. The red rose obviously portrays love, romance and passion. A yellow carnation could portray disdain if said girl down the road didn’t quite fancy her suitor. How the posy was handed over was also part of the message. Passed with the right hand meant ‘yes’ and passed with the left meant ‘no’ – the historical version of swiping left or right on Tinder, I suppose! Then there is the nosegay – also known as a…

You’ve said that Mark, your second husband, got you to turn The Artist’s Way into a book. But we also read somewhere that The Artist’s Way happened because Jon Voight didn’t return your phone call. Is that true? JC: Both things are true. I began writing Morning Pages when I was frustrated by John Voight. I wrote the rest of the book ‘at’ Mark. Besides Morning Pages and Artist’s Dates, you’ve also said that walking is key for unblocking your creativity. What is it about a walk that is so helpful? JC: Walking moves us out of our ordinary consciousness into an expanded sense of the world. Walking, we sense a benevolent Something that causes us feelings of optimism and hope. Tell me a bit about Nigel. Have you managed…

Filmmaking can be a bit like Broken Telephone: real life sparks an idea, it is passed from one writer to the next, the script is reworked, a director chops and changes it, actors add their creative flair, and editors ultimately decide what’s important and what’s not. The final product can be quite far removed from the original idea. The stakes are higher, though, when it comes to depicting mental health conditions. Movies and TV shows play an important part in our lives, says University of Cape Town Film and Television Studies lecturer Dr Alexia Smit. ‘All art forms deal with our inner world and represent how we’re feeling inside. But film does it in a special way because it can reproduce experience – we’re seeing things through someone’s eyes and…

Among other things, your book is a culinary adventure. Why is food such a central theme? You can’t write a book about Italians without food playing a major role. It is such a fundamental part of the Italian culture. Italians bond over eating – it’s what lifts their spirits. Italian children learn to make pasta watching their parents, and they eat pasta at almost every meal, as a main or a first course. Even the not-so-affluent can afford a great plate of pasta. When I first became involved with Emilio, my husband, I was amazed that he would start wondering early in the morning about what to eat for supper. He was always shopping for fresh ingredients, as they do in Italy, at the markets. He isn’t a professional cook,…

l Fragrances that smell like spring ‘Florals for spring… groundbreaking,’ quipped Runway editor Miranda Priestly in The Devil Wears Prada. You can roll your eyes, but honestly, if it ain’t broke don’t fix it! Lush florals and clean, fresh scents are synonymous with springtime. Fall in love with old favourites such as Chanel Chance and Flower by Kenzo, which feature fragrant flowery top notes anchored by more sensual, spicy scents such as musk and tonka bean. Or try something new: CK Everyone has a clean, citrusy unisex scent; and for the latest Louis Vuitton fragrance, Heures d’Absence, master perfumer Jacques Cavallier-Belletrud looked to the flowery fields of Grasse, France, for inspiration. Bvlgari Omnia Golden Citrine features notes of ylang-ylang and jasmine; Coach Dreams has gardenias and cactus flowers at its…

PEA AND ARTICHOKE RISOTTO SERVES 2 Cooking rice in the oven like this is not risotto in the strictest sense – although on the north-west coastal strip of Italy, the home of pesto, they do cook rice this way. • 45 g butter • 2 tbsp olive oil • 2 shallots, finely sliced • small sprig rosemary, leaves finely chopped • 200 g Arborio rice • 100 ml white wine or cider (optional) • 600 ml boiling vegetable stock • 120 g frozen peas, defrosted • 2 generous tbsp artichoke purée or 50 g artichokes in oil, drained and chopped • 30 g Parmesan cheese, grated • sea salt and black pepper 1. Preheat the oven to 180°C (160°C fan), gas mark 4, and put a roasting pan in to heat up. 2. Once the oven is hot, put 30g of…

The ideal temperature to store milk is about 2˚C to 3˚C. The longer it is exposed to warm air, the quicker it will start growing harmful bacteria. Milk should be kept in the coldest part of the fridge – at the very back on the lowest shelf. The worst spot is in the door. Store cottage cheese and other dairy products in cartons upside down as this prevents mould from forming. This storing trick also works with ice cream as it keeps ice crystals off.…

WINNING LETTER UNREALISTIC Seriously, FAIRLADY? That is the most representative photo you or your source agency could find to illustrate beauty tweakments [August 2020] and those who need or have them? I respect your publication immensely, but please assume we have some intelligence and do not use a filtered picture of a model who is 25 at best and has perfect skin and features. Rather illustrate your article with a picture of the types of issues that need ‘tweaking’, and the results of such procedures in various age groups. To my mind, the picture ranks up there with pictures of models in their 20s illustrating products for the 50-and-over age group, or swimsuit designs for women with very ample boobs illustrated by a model who is maybe a 32B cup…

After searching for almost a year, I finally found the perfect hair salon when I walked through the doors of Palladium Hair Company in the Cape Quarter Lifestyle Village. From that moment on, I knew this was where I would spend my Saturday mornings. I’m talking about killer blowouts, bubbly, insane head massages and staff members who feel like family. When my parents visited me in Cape Town, I took my mom there to get her hair done and I was so touched by the extra care they took with her. They even offered my dad a facial on the house, and he promptly fell asleep. My Saturday hair routine is one of the few things that keeps me sane, and I just want to say a big ‘thank you’…

• Someone who asks for money ‘Rule number one for online dating is to never send money to someone you’ve never met,’ Nadya says. Assume that everyone you meet online is not entirely who they say they are. Be awake to the range of possibilities, from someone simply airbrushing their life, to someone downright lying and fabricating a persona to attract their prey. Judy says she would ask to see a form of ID of people she met on a dating site before communicating any further, but that is not foolproof. You can use Google Images or TinEye to do a reverse image search – it should show you where else that image has been used. ‘There was an instance where someone’s profile photo had been used in more than…

• You use it even when there are no symptoms to alleviate. • You use more of it, more often or for longer than the recommended dosage. • The headaches for which you might be taking it keep recurring and get worse. • You visit multiple pharmacies to obtain large doses. • You become preoccupied with getting and taking it. • You experience the effects of overusing or mixing medications: light-headedness, fatigue, muscle weakness, slurred speech, lack of coordination, blurred vision, dizziness, palpitations, difficulty thinking clearly, constipation, gastro-intestinal discomfort, nausea. • You get withdrawal symptoms when you stop taking it: cravings for it; changes in mood, sleeping patterns or interests; irritability, anxiety or restlessness; sweating.…

‘I had an audition on Friday, but everything is self-taped now so you aren’t getting any kind of real-time feedback. And there’s no personal connection, which is an important part of what we do,’ says actress Kate Liquorish. I can imagine she makes quite an impression in person – she is gorgeous, and even over Zoom, her laugh is infectious; I just want to be her best friend. With Season 2 of hit Netflix spy series Queen Sono on the horizon, Kate has been getting battle-ready (if you watched the Season 1 finale, you’ll understand why) by doing combat and strength training, which will involve remote learning over Zoom. When she’s not training, she keeps herself busy with cooking demos, as well as working on scripts for future projects. ‘It…

Feel free to cut out these works of art, frame them, and hang them in your home! CATHERINE HOLTZHAUSEN Catherine is a collage artist and illustrator who works with mixed media to embody a humorous and nurturing approach to the world. Her work initially evolved from the offcuts of other artworks. Using the discarded bits, she then incorporates textures through watercolour painting, oil-based monotyping and collagraph printing. For the Birds ‘I created this artwork during lockdown level 5, when I was longing to break out of my confined space and get back into the wild, overgrown mountains. During this time, I returned to simple pleasures, doing hobbies just for the love of it. For the Birds was prompted by the idea of all the wildlife wondering where the humans had…

PEONIES bashfulness and compassion FREESIA sweetness, innocence and thoughtfulness DELPHINIUMS lightheartedness (from the Greek word for dolphin – how apt is that?) GARDENIAS purity LISIANTHUS gratitude, charm and an everlasting bond SNAPDRAGONS graciousness SWEET PEAS Like roses, the colour of the sweet peas will change the meaning – but they generally represent appreciation and departure. SUNFLOWERS warmth, adoration and dedicated love…

Writing doesn’t come easily to me. I used to envy colleagues who could sit down at their computer, open a blank page on Word, start tapping away and then hand in a completed article later that same day. No mess, no fuss. I’ve since realised that those people are in the minority. I’m a big ol’ cliché, really. I research endlessly. I ponder. I prepare. I agonise. I get distracted by emails. I wait for the muse to strike. And then, eventually, I churn it all out in one slightly panicked, feverish burst. It usually turns out okay, but, God, it’s draining. There is a lot of procrastination, a big chunk of self-doubt and a light dusting of self-loathing, narrated by the voice in my head. ‘What are you doing?…

Busted Bipolar disorder is characterised by episodes of extreme moods. The highs are known as mania or a manic episode, and they’re typically followed by the lows of a depressive episode. ‘Depending on which type of bipolar diagnosis you are describing, someone experiencing a manic episode may appear to have a lot of energy, little need for sleep, be extremely talkative and talk about grand plans that seem unrealistic,’ explains Bernice. ‘They may be more agitated than usual and may engage in behaviour that has painful long-term consequences, such as big spending sprees or engaging in sexual indiscretions. Following this extremely elevated mood state, the person may dip into a deep depression. Depending on the diagnosis, some people do not have insight into their behaviour while in a manic episode.…

WOMAN OF THE FUTURE SOCIAL ENTREPRENEUR RISING STAR WOMAN OF THE FUTURE To be eligible, you need to be 30 years of age or older and your business should have been open for at least 1000 days. These women have all made their mark in the health and wellness world with solutions to local challenges. WHO: Luella Naidoo COMPANY: Jezriel Craig Holdings FACEBOOK: Jezriel Craig Holdings After 10 years of work in the HIV field, Luella Naidoo’s son was diagnosed with cerebral palsy, and she found she couldn’t give him the care he needed and fulfil a demanding role. She had to find something flexible. ‘I noticed that many business graduates were without employment after graduating,’ Luella says. Using her background in the healthcare sector, she set up Jezriel Craig…

Makeup Revolution Roxi Roxxsaurus Ride or Die Palette, R250 If you’re looking for a budget-friendly warm-toned eye palette, this is a good buy. Of the 18 shades, most are warm (besides one random teal green) and it has a nice balance of matte and shimmer shades. I would suggest doing your eye makeup before your foundation, as there’s quite a bit of fallout, and while the mattes blend out easily with a brush, the shimmers are best applied with your fingertips. There are some good neutrals for an everyday look (Boo, Cookie and Cola) and beautifully pigmented shimmers for night: Cranberry and Shook (gold) were the standout shades, although Sunset, a mid-tone pink with a gold reflect, is beautiful too. A great palette for the price. – Liesl Dior Capture…

The Lightness BY EMILY TEMPLE One critic described The Lightness as the love child of Donna Tartt and Tana French, and that’s a pretty good description. Sixteen-year-old Olivia has run away to The Levitation Center, a remote retreat and the last place her father had been to before he disappeared. Her mother doesn’t bother looking for her, so she signs up for a kind of Buddhist boot camp mainly aimed at headstrong girls: ‘They were slick-finish girls, cat-eye girls, hot-blood girls. They were girls who revelled... girls who left marks. They were girls who snuck.’ Before long, Olivia falls in with Serena, Janet and Laurel, each troubled in their own way. And all of them start focusing their wild energy on Luke, the hipster gardener at the retreat:…

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