Table of contents for 2/19/2020 in Move!

TAKING INITIATIVE On Saturday 1 February, a friend of mine travelled from Ebony Park to Johannesburg CBD to buy secondhand clothes with the purpose of reselling them. The items cost her just less than R200. She went back home and started selling them at the local marketplace. By sunset, she’d made more than R500 as people flocked to her stall to buy what they considered to be very affordable garments. This means she recovered the money she spent and also made a substantial profit. ‘A R20 NOTE CAN TRANSFORM INTO A R50 NOTE IF INVESTED WISELY’ Very often young people sit around waiting for the government to create jobs, while there’s something they can do to empower themselves. I know start-up capital isn’t that easy to get, but any little…

IT’S hard enough for a man to find out his wife has cheated on him, but can you imagine if he finds out she betrayed him with his very own flesh and blood – his son? This is the reality for Qabanga on the much-loved show Uzalo, where the antics of his wife, Gabisile, and son, Khehla, have viewers on the edge of their seats. Of course, as fans know, Gabisile didn’t know that Khehla was the child of her husband. But she fell so hard for him that there was no turning back once she found out who he was . . . CRADLE SNATCHER Actress Baby Cele (47) knows what it’s like to play a character who’s dating a younger guy – she did the same as Katlego…

TO SAY life is going well for her is an understatement. She has a new man, a new makeup line, another new business venture and her health regime has her feeling like a new person. Lerato Kganyago is feeling so at peace she doesn’t even mind that her Mercedes-Benz had to be towed away after she knocked it against an unmarked pavement at a shopping mall. The DJ and former Miss Soweto is two weeks into a 21-day meat-free fast when we catch up with her. “I’m currently on day 15 and going strong,” she tells us. The fasting has been part of a spiritual and dietary journey, which has taught her patience, gratitude and discipline. “I’m hoping to stay off all meat and fish permanently but I will see…

ALL you need is love, the song goes, but ask any girl who struggles with her guy – love isn’t always simple. There are always problems and the number of suitable, available men seems to be getting less and less. Yet sometimes it all goes right – take student Matebogo Mokgatla (27). Matebogo had all but given up on dating when she came across a dating website – and, expecting nothing, found the love of her life. “I’d heard horror stories about how online love isn’t possible and almost everyone I knew agreed that you won’t find your true love on a dating app,” she tells Move!. Yet she set up an account, logged in and clicked on the first profile she saw – and that was it. “Imagine two…

20/20 VISION All Sipho’s friends wear spectacles and he feels like the odd one out. He tries to convince his mom that he needs a pair too so his worried mother takes him to the optometrist to have his eyes checked. Sipho is asked to read the bottom row of letters on the eye chart. He says, “All right, I can see the ‘O’ and the ‘P’ and the ‘T’ in the second-last line, but not the ‘N’ and the ‘Z’ in the last line.” GET YOUR OWN Every time the man next door heads towards Dumi’s house, Dumi knows the neighbour is coming to borrow something. “He won’t get away with it this time,” mutters Dumi to his wife as he sees the neighbour approach them. “Watch this.” “Er,…

Step 1 BRUSH Use a spoolie, also known as a brow brush, to brush brows in shape. The best way to brush is to work from the inside going outwards. Step 2 LOWER LINE Using an eyebrow pencil, or brush with powder or gel, make a line in short strokes at the bottom of the brow from the inner to outer corner. It doesn’t have to be on the actual brow but it must follow the outline you desire. Step 3 UPPER LINE Make another line on the upper part of the eyebrow, in the same direction as the lower line. This line should go over the arch of your brow and down to meet the lower line to form an outline. Step 4 FILL IN Starting from the outer…

Q ONGOING PAYMENTS In 2008, I took out a contract for a phone but defaulted on payment. I made payment arrangements and I paid it up. After some years they handed my details over to a debt-collection company and I continued paying. They’re still harassing me for payment. What do I do? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A If you had fully paid the debt, why did you start paying again once your account was handed over? By making payment you were admitting you were still in debt regarding the phone contract. Compile all the proof of your payments to show that you have fully settled the debt. If they keep on harassing you, you need to tell them to stop calling you. If they still believe you owe them, then they must…

Q I’M PREGNANT AND SCARED I’m 19 and I was dating a 23-year-old man. I’m pregnant with his child and I don’t know what to say to my family, especially since it seems he doesn’t love me anymore. SCARED, EMAIL A Now more than ever you need the support of those who love you. The only thing to tell your family is the truth about your pregnancy. It’s also important to be certain that your boyfriend doesn’t love you anymore because you can’t tell your family something you are not sure of. The sooner you find this out and talk to your family, the better. The prolonged stress is not good for you or your unborn child. Q IS HE REALLY INTO ME? I’m 29 and dating a 42-year-old married…

Q RECURRING STI I’m a 22-year-old woman. My boyfriend and I have been together for eight months. I have a history of STIs but I never mentioned this to him. We’ve been using protection since we started having sex, but recently I’ve been experiencing pains in my vagina. I consulted my doctor and he confirmed that I have an STI. How is this possible if we’ve been protecting ourselves and how do I tell my boyfriend? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A Big up to you for practising safe sex – please continue. It’s unusual to contract any form of infection while using condoms, unless you’ve had a condom break or unprotected oral sex that allowed sexual fluids to be transmitted. Another possibility is a recurring infection, which is common. Some infections lie…

PROVERBS 18:24 says, “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” A good friend should stick closer than a brother. An unfriendly friend on the other hand is not like that – they pretend to your brother but are enemies in disguise. Proverbs 27:6 teaches us, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but kisses of an enemy are deceitful.” My prayer is that all your unfriendly friends will disappear with this prayer: Blood of Jesus, separate from me all unprofitable friends, in the name of Jesus Christ. THE UNFRIENDLY FRIEND An unfriendly friend is a backstabber. They are friends of the world and try to drag you down with them. James 4:4 says, “You adulterous people, don’t…

WANTING SOMETHING SERIOUS I’m a 43-year-old man from the North West who loves church, gym and watching movies in my leisure time. I’m looking for a woman between the ages of 30 and 42, from any province, who’s ready for a serious relationship. She must attend church and love kids, whether she has kids or not. WhatsApp me on 079-920-9950 ■ I’m a 28-year-old HIVpositive guy looking for a serious relationship with a lady aged between 19 and 31, preferably with the same status. I’m in Gauteng. Call me on 079-953-5949 ■ I’m a 41-year-old lesbian looking for a serious love relationship with a lady, aged between 30 and 44, of any race who knows exactly what she wants. Call me on 082-591-0379 ■ I’m a 31-year-old HIVpositive lady with…

THERE are many people who don’t like to celebrate Valentine’s Day. You should love each other every day, they say. That is true, of course, even if you do celebrate this day of love. In this issue there are many examples of couples who show every day how much they love one another. There’s the new IFP president and his wife who make their marriage work despite the pressure of politics (page 20). Actress Baby Cele talks about how she and her husband make things work despite living in different cities (page 8). And we have some great advice on how to keep the romance alive in your marriage in our story on page 54. Until next week,…

LEAVING A LEGACY They have decided to slowly introduce their girl children to take part in the club. This is to ensure continuity of the Progress Women’s Club. They teach them, among other things, honesty, respect and openness between the members – some of the reasons they say have kept them together for all these years. Every December, they treat themselves to a day out for lunch or dinner. During this time, they do not discuss the club’s program. They use the time to reflect on the year’s personal challenges and offer each other advice. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to: move@media24.com…

‘SOON ENOUGH, VIEWERS WILL BE REALLY SURPRISED AND SHOCKED’ ONE look at her stunning, flowing weave, long glittering nails and form-fitting dress and you could easily think Khanya Mkangisa is playing herself in Muvhango. Mbali Mkhize, like the actress who plays her, is a head-turner and when she shows up at the Mukwevho Milling Company, she rubs her new female colleagues the wrong way. The presenter, actress and DJ talks to us about her new gig in the popular SABC2 series. MISS SASSY “Mbali Mkhize is an Instagramobsessed, fun-loving, It girl,” Khanya (31) says. “She is in the know and into all the latest trends.” The sassy Mbali shows up at Mukwevho Milling looking for a job as a personal assistant or receptionist, which she lands after her first interview.…

FOR years health experts have been warning it was just a matter of time before the world was hit by a global pandemic. And now, as a mysterious virus wreaks havoc in China, leaping continents at breakneck speed, many are wondering if that day has arrived. World health authorities are taking it seriously. After the first cases were reported in January, Chinese officials sprang into action. But with more than 600 deaths reported at the time of going to print and about 32 000 people infected, it’s clear authorities are battling. “You can’t board up a germ,” says Lawrence O Gostin, a director of the World Health Organisation Collaborating Centre on National and Global Health Law. “It will get out.” WHAT’S THIS NEW VIRUS? It’s officially known as 2019-nCoV but…

WHEN she was called to identify her mother’s body at the morgue, she thought that was the worst thing she’d ever go through. Nothing could be more terrible than knowing her mom was gang-raped and strangled to death. But then came the shocking news: two of her sisters were arrested in connection with their mother’s horrific death, and Bessie van der Merwe battled to believe her own flesh and blood could be involved. Now Bessie (30) is left to pick up the pieces. Her mom, Wanter Dlamini, was found on 6 January by passers-by on the side of the road near Barberton Abattoir. The pensioner had been raped and strangled and her eldest daughters, Mapum and Nonhlanhla Mthunywa, have been arrested and charged with murder. Bessie tells Move! she is…

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BROWNIE GOURMET SUNDAE MAKES 4 SUNDAES PREPARATION: 15 MIN, PLUS COOKING TIME FOR BROWNIES ■ store-bought brownie mix ■ 80g dark chocolate, melted ■ 1,5L ice cream TOPPINGS ■ caramel sweets ■ chocolate sticks ■ chocolate balls ■ rainbow sprinkles ■ ready-made chocolate sauce Keep four glass drinking jars handy. 1 Prepare the brownie mix according to the package instructions. Cool completely and cut into small squares. 2 Dip the rim of each jar in the melted chocolate and leave to harden. 3 Put a few brownie squares in each jar and equally divide half of the ice cream among the four jars. Repeat the layers and end with brownies on top. 4 Toppings Top each jar with the sweets, sprinkles and chocolate sauce. NEAPOLITAN TRIFLE SERVES 12-14 PREPARATION: 20…

HIS online music platform, SlikourOnLife, has made huge strides in popularity since its launch in 2017. So it’s no wonder Slikour, real name Siyabonga Metane, has now landed a coveted spot on primetime TV. Four of the online shows produced by the Skwatta Kamp rapper-turned-media mogul are set to also be broadcast on Channel O. Viewers will know SlikourOnLife caters for music fans through music, videos, artist interviews, exclusive downloads and event coverage. The idea for the TV airing is the brainchild of rapper Reason, Slikour says. “It was really suggested by Reason, he wanted to get his show on television so I reached out to the channel to gauge their interest and we got four [shows] instead of one.” WHAT TO EXPECT FROM THE TV SHOW The show will…

WE GO to classes to get fitter, negotiate our salaries to get richer, yet great sex is expected to just happen. By magic. Watching a Beyoncé video and hoping for that kind of confidence when naked is like a guy watching Magic Mike and hoping to be Channing Tatum – it’s good inspiration, but you’ve got to learn your own formula for confidence and desire. “Film and porn present sex as simple and effortlessly obtained, with everyone having vast quantities of orgasmic partnered sex. The rest of us wonder where we fit in if we are unpartnered or aren’t experiencing orgasms,” says Lauren Rosewarne, a gender researcher at the University of Melbourne. Her answer? “We need to become more committed to learning about our pleasure and abolish the idea that…

AGRINETH NUPI NKADIMENG It’s normal to fall out of love when you have been dating a person for long, as you’re doing the same things every day and you know so much about each other by now. Talk to your partner and try new things together. LULEKA LULU MAMGCINA MTSILA Look at what made you guys fall out of love. Is it because you love someone else? Does he cheat or lie to you? Does he not love you the way he used to? But if you really love him and want to fix things, you should both go for counselling. RO MAMIDA Relationships are not easy and every couple goes through the phase you are going through right now. Take it as a test and involve God. Ask Him…

TO FANS, he’s best known for making music with the likes of Benjamin Dube, Chicco Twala, Donovan Knox and Joyous Celebration. To the congregation at Naioth Global Ministries in Gauteng, he’s Apostle Dube. Now, he’ll soon be known to a wider audience because he’s working hard to become an author – writing two books, one about his life lessons and the other about faith. FINDING INSPIRATION Langa Dube (48) says the idea of writing books has always been at the back of his mind and he finally put pen to paper at the beginning of the year. “I travel often and always see people reading at the airport, so I thought of writing books because I am an avid reader too. “In the book Rethinking Life, I write about the…

IT WAS all about love at the wedding of Ukhozi FM presenter Nonhlanhla “Mdonso” Ngcobo and Pastor Nathaniel “Nate” Pottier of Open Door Assembly. The lovebirds wed at the beautiful St Matthew’s Lutheran Church in Eshowe in KwaZulu-Natal before dancing the night away at the after-party, held at the Aloe Lifestyle Hotel. The umembeso was at the groom’s house in Sunningdale Park, and among the guests were gospel star Babo Ngcobo and maskandi star Ntencane.…

I MET him at a petrol station. He was supportive, sweet, understanding, protective and thoughtful. He was all of these things before he became abusive, before he hurt me in the worst possible way. Now, it’s been about three months since I lost our baby after he beat me badly. I didn’t know I was pregnant, I never had the chance to feel excited. I found out that I was expecting only after I was admitted to hospital due to the beating I got from him. He beat me because I caught him between the sheets with a friend. The beating was so bad I was in hospital for a few days. My ex-fiancé became an animal the day he paid lobola. According to him, he bought me that day…

YOUR OPINION ON FACEBOOK We asked which on-screen mother-daughter duo is your favourite. Move! readers have their say. Mangcobo and Nosipho from Uzalo. I love how they treat each other as best friends. They never lie to each other. They protect each other, and well . . . they’re crazy. DINEO THÈÉ GAL DINNY MaDlamini and Thandeka from Isibaya. It reminds me so much of the relationship I have with my mom. It’s beautiful. NOLLY GODIDE I love The Queen duo, but Uzalo takes the lead this time. MONICA MATHAPS Phumelele and Thandeka from Isibaya are proof that not all stepmothers are evil. She loves genuinely. MS-PARM SHEMBENI HLANYANE Celia and Rachel from Skeem Saam. SONNYBOUY MANYAMA Mangcobo and Nosipho from Uzalo. They have that thing. FAITH LAURAINE Kea and…

THE photo of her first day in Grade 1 shows six-year-old Alana Francis beaming. She couldn’t be happier to finally be at “big school”. She’s neat as a pin in her uniform and holds a board stating that she loves school and wants to be a doctor when she grows up. So it’s no wonder that the proud young girl from Constantia Kloof Primary School in Roodepoort won Move!’s first I’m a 1st Grader competition with her photo receiving the most votes – 7 412. “It was all smiles from the time we left until we picked her up,” mom Thamaray Francis says. “She even walked to her class ahead of us because she knew which class it was.” Alana enjoys extra-curricular activities, including swimming and math lessons, and is…

SHE’S only 20 years old but already Kamo Mphela is making her mark in a big way with her smooth voice and impressive dance moves. Fans know the amapiano artist as the voice on hit tracks Sandton by Kabza De Small & DJ Maphorisa, and Sukendleleni by Jobe London. But what you may not know is that she has plenty of other talents, including acting and dancing. Kamo started off her career hosting events. “I was an emcee,” she tells Move!. “I posted a video of me promoting an event for Jobe, and it went viral. “Artists, including rapper JR and his friends, started reaching out and everything went upward from there. Then Jobe asked me to feature on Sukendleleni.” MULTI-TALENTED The recording sessions with Jobe opened many doors for…

SHE’S no stranger to the lights, cameras and even all the action that comes with being a celebrity. Now rapper, actress and entrepreneur Boity Thulo is also adding reality TV star to her CV. In a glam event hosted at Rockets Bryanston in Johannesburg, Boity was joined by family and friends to celebrate the screening of her new reality TV show, Boity: Own Your Throne. Viewers can look forward to, among other things, a look inside the mansion of the Potchefstroomborn star. “But I restrict shooting to the lounge and in my kitchen. I’m not trying to show off my house, but I do want to give people a glimpse of my space,” she said in an interview with Move! a week before the screening. The event was also attended…

WHEN you’re newly married and your husband has another love that keeps him away from home for long stretches, it could be a recipe for disaster, tears and heartache. Thandeka Hlabisa (29), however, takes it all in her stride, and with a laugh. Her husband is Velenkosini Hlabisa (55), a former high-school teacher and principal who is now president of the Inkatha Freedom Party (IFP), and his job is his other love, she tells Move! with a laugh. The couple hadn’t been married long when Velenkosini was made president of the party last year. He is the first new leader in 44 years, succeeding Prince Mangosuthu Buthelezi, who founded the party in 1975. “Things got very hectic when he was elected president of the IFP because he was always away.…

1 Zahara recently announced she’ll be trying her hand at . . .? A Acting B Driving C Dancing D Farming 2 The platypus, a semi-aquatic egg-laying mammal, is native to which continent? A South America B Australia C Asia D Antarctica 3 What is the name of a seven-branched candleholder found in Jewish homes? A Meniscus B Menorah C Mynah D Minuet 4 The process of dialysis is used to treat . . .? A Kidney failure B Diabetes C Pneumonia D Stroke 5 Who wrote the famous horror novel Dracula? A Lord Byron B Mary Shelley C Jane Austen D Bram Stoker 6 On what type of surface is the game of curling played? A Astroturf B Grass C Ice D Wood 7 What is sodium chloride commonly…

CONDOMS have been around for some time. Initially, they were designed to prevent pregnancy. However, over time and with emerging sexual illnesses, they became multipurpose. Despite knowing their importance, each time the word condom is mentioned, many people frown on it and are reluctant to use this vital product. Men may resist their use for many reasons, including masochism, cultural preferences and erectile problems. But in these days of many sexually transmitted diseases, we all need to rise above such concerns. Some women say condoms cause a rash. My sister, there are many different condoms, and some are meant for addressing allergies. There are suitable condoms for everyone. ‘EACH TIME THE WORD CONDOM IS MENTIONED, PEOPLE FROWN’ In the light of the high prevalence of HIV, other STIs and unplanned…

PISCES 19 FEB – 20 MAR The sun moves into your sign, which means it is soon time to celebrate your birthday and start a new year. Whether you want to have a birthday bash or opt for a romantic escape with your lover, make the most of your special day. It’s also a good time to set clear intentions and formulate goals for the year ahead. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 10, 25, 21, 42, 51, 15 ARIES 21 MAR – 19 APR It’s a week to make your words count, as well as to count your words. You currently identify strongly with your mind, which makes for a time to voice your opinions and apply your mind for both written and verbal assignments. However, with Mercury’s current retrograde motion, misunderstandings…

“Caring for your mother has come with a challenge,” says Noxolo Khoza, a Johannesburg-based psychologist. “It is selfless of you to want to continue to support her despite her position. You may need to talk to your her to clarify the nature of her relationship with this man. “You support her because she needs it and someone else is taking that away. For all we know, she’s in a difficult position too. It appears that this situation could influence the dynamics of your relationship and it’s better to resolve it soon. In trying to amend things, you’ll need to be honest about your feelings but also share the kind intentions you have for your mother so it’s clear that you would like to keep supporting her. “She has to think…