Table of contents for 05-Nov-2020 in Chat

Brave Joanne was devastated when docs handed her a death sentence. She shares what happened to make her feel differently (p24). We’ve fallen head over heels for hero hound Emma Roo and we think you will too (p37). And we look at the story of how a bright young woman on the path to becoming a lawyer found herself the target of a huge criminal investigation by the FBI (p54). There’s loads more Chat faves to enjoy – like the great fashion (pl2) and a fab freebie on p29! Stay safe and well this week. During this worrying time, we wish all of our readers good health. We hope Chat offers some welcome distraction. If you’re staying in and don’t want to miss out on your copy, you can download…

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In February 2020, at South Africa’s Mmabatho High Court, Xander Bylsma was found guilty of two counts of murder. The sentence hearing was due to start on 18 May this year but was delayed due to coronavirus. It finally began in August and Bylsma was handed two life sentences. Speaking of Bylsma’s lack of remorse, Judge Hendricks said, ‘This could be a stumbling block of your realisation of what lifelong suffering you have inflicted on the victims’ families. The dreams of the murdered girls’ parents were shattered by someone who sees nothing wrong with what he did. The void of their children’s deaths will never be filled.’ The judge spoke of Bylsma’s lack of remorse He also spoke about the country’s genderbased violence and his hope it would one day…

Emily Barclay, 44, Bungay Seeing my Ironman rucksack in the cupboard, I still feel a real surge of pride. Back in October 2015, it was a constant reminder of the triathlon I’d been training for in Barcelona. Sadly, I’d never crossed the finish line, thanks to sickness. But it wasn’t going to stop me booking my place for the next year. But, just four months back into my training, my motivation plummeted. I just didn’t have the energy, was gaining weight and always felt like I was on edge. Stranger still, my periods had gone bonkers, too. Though I was using the contraceptive implant, they seemed to last for weeks. But I never put all these things together. It was only when I saw my GP that she suggested that…

OVER TO YOU Can you set a puzzle in this format? Send it, with a photo of yourself, to the address on p3 – there’s £20 for every one we use! This week’s puzzle was compiled by Debra Stapley, Dover, Kent ACROSS 1 Handle 2 Under 10 3 Frosts (cake, eg) 4 Exam DOWN 1 To craft wool 2 Lovely 3 Belongs to 4 Finest WIN 5 x £25 Puzzle 6 Your answer: CHAIN WORDS Which transition metal is a major constituent of the minerals safflorite and glaucodot? Get from Start to Finish, making words by joining two boxes together as you go, eg: EX + PEL, PEL +… you decide! When you reach Finish, two unused boxes join together to give you the prize answer. WIN £ 100 Puzzle 7…

ARROW WORD What was the name of Brotherhood of Man’s last UK No. 1 single, released in 1978? Solve the puzzle by following the arrows and writing in your answers. Then read down the letters in the shaded squares to find the prize answer. WIN £1,000 Puzzle 10 Your answer: SUDOKU To solve the puzzle, each 3 x 3 box, each row and each column must contain the numbers 1 to 9. Solve the puzzle and the numbers in the highlighted squares will give you the prize puzzle answer. WIN £60 Puzzle 11 Your answer: WORDSEARCH What colour links the winner of the 1983 Pulitzer Prize for Fiction and the winner of the Grammy for Best Album of Original Score for a Motion Picture at the 27th Annual Awards? The…

Shall I go to the wedding? Q My boyfriend works with one of his school ‘friends’. But I think he treats my partner really appallingly. When it comes to jobs, he doesn’t contact my partner and either does the job himself or gets someone else to do it. I really don’t like this guy, but he’s getting married and has invited us to the wedding. I’ve made it clear that I don’t like him and won’t be going, which upset my partner. I know it’s important to my boyfriend to be there, but I don’t want to go and ruin his night. What should I do? Ellie, 27 A Why would you ruin it? Maybe you feel that you can’t hold your tongue? Relationships are give and take, and sometimes…

Misha Rackliff, 27 Wrapping my arm around my friend, Jamie-Lynn, 29, I tried to comfort her. It was January 2020 and her beloved dog had just died. ‘I know what you need,’ I said, pulling out my phone. On Facebook, I found the Dalmatian Rescue Centre’s page. See, I adored dogs, especially Dalmatians. I had two of my own – Indy, 12, and Piper, two. I knew the best remedy for losing a pup was looking for another. Then, a Dalmatian called Emma Roo caught my eye. ‘Poor pup!’ I gasped. Her ears looked disfigured and she had no front paws. This poorly pup had obviously had a rough time. And as much as I was looking for Jamie-Lynn, Emma Roo was pulling on my own heartstrings. ‘She’ll need a…

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The film Molly’s Game was released in the UK in January 2018. Directed by Aaron Sorkin, Jessica Chastain plays Molly, Kevin Costner is her dad and Idris Elba her lawyer. But how much of the film is true? ‘For the most part, Sorkin made a movie that was very rooted in the truth,’ the real-life Molly says. ‘But I feel he cherry-picked the best moments and wove them all together in this incredible story.’ Speaking about meeting with Molly while making the film, Sorkin said, ‘Things were looking very bleak for her when we met, and yet she was poised and confident. ‘What I saw was an honest-to-God movie heroine found in a very unlikely place.’…

Hey Jude, When I was carrying you, I daydreamed about our first cuddle. But when you arrived in March 2018, all I got was a glimpse of you as the doctors whisked you away for life support. You’d been deprived of oxygen during birth and your heart wasn’t beating. ‘He’s not showing any brain activity,’ your dad James, then 35, and I were told. We just sat by your incubator, stroking your hand, begging you to fight. At 4 days old, you had an MRI scan. You’d developed sepsis, had multiple organ failure and brain damage. ‘It’s one of the worst cases we’ve seen,’ the specialist told us. You’d never breathe on your own. They wanted us to turn off your lifesupport machine. We were devastated. Taken into a private room,…

What song would British presenter and sportsman Ade Adepitan pick as his theme tune? To find out, solve the crossword then read down the shaded squares to find the four-word prize answer. ACROSS 11 Bruce _, Die Hard actor (6) 12 Eight-sided (9) 13 Quantity of paper (4) 14 Safe, benign (8) 15 Emblem (5) 16 Great unhappiness (6) 17 Gives money to (7) 18 Romantic correspondence (4,7) 20 Divide (5) 22 Lucky (9) 24 Remains of a tree trunk (5) 28 Popular sitcom set in New York, first broadcast in 1994 (7) 29 Opposite of failure (7) 32 Out of _, 1986 film starring Meryl Streep (6) 34 Fragrant (8) 36 Plant used in skincare (4,4) 37 Absolutely (6) 39 Museum display (7) 40 Petrified remains of prehistoric creatures…

Suzy Monty, 69, Truro Filing away a bundle of papers, I flopped down in the office chair and logged on to the net. As I aimlessly scrolled through socialmedia and news sites, something caught my eye. Photos of the actress Helen Mirren. On the beach, in a red bikini, she looked utterly fabulous in her 60s. It was 2008, I was 57 and it’d been decades since I’d posed for a camera. See, I may have been helping my husband John in his office now, but this was a world away from my previous career. I’d won my first fashion-show award at 10. ‘That’s what I want to do when I’m older,’ I’d professed from then on. In my 20s, I’d entered and won more beauty contests. By the time…

Joanne Addis, 55, Stockport Leaning out of the Jeep, I focused my camera and snapped away, as rhinos and elephants grazed on the plains ahead of us. ‘This is amazing!’ I beamed to my partner Volkan, then 47. It was October 2015 and we were on safari in South Africa. All part of my 50th birthday celebrations. And in some ways, the start of my new life, too. See, life hadn’t always been rosy. In 2001, I’d been through a tough divorce. I became a single parent to Josh, then 6, and Katie, 4. For years, money had been tight. And, though I’d daydream about fixing up the kitchen or jetting off to Australia, my pennies never went that far. But now, with both of the kids grown up, I…

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Joe Potter, Samaritans Policy Manager Q Why is it men are more at risk of suicide? A There are many psychological, social, cultural and economic factors that influence suicide risk. Relationship breakdown, unemployment and not having the same type of social network as most women have a role in increasing the risk for middle-aged men. We also know that men who are less well off and living in the most deprived areas are up to 10 times more likely to die by suicide than more well-off men from affluent areas. Q How have the numbers of male suicides changed in recent years? A Men aged 45-49 have remained at the highest risk of suicide for decades. A recent Samaritans study asked these men what they want from services when they…

Samantha Ockelford, 45, Halstead Sipping a glass of wine, I laughed as my friend Emma told another hilarious story. It was November 2013 and this was just what I needed. A proper girls’ night out. With two failed marriages behind me, I was single and by no means looking for love. I had all the love I needed with my three daughters. Bethany, then 15, Holly, 14, and Megan, 12, were my world. And, truthfully, it would take a very special bloke to add to the equation. So, when a man walked over to us in the wine bar, I immediately rolled my eyes. ‘Can I buy you ladies a drink?’ he smiled. ‘No thanks!’ I snapped, turning towards my friend. But even after we moved to a different wine…

3 ways to… protect your bike from thieves The number of Brits taking up cycling has leapt up this year, but so have claims for bike thefts, according to Halifax Home Insurance. Here’s how to keep your two wheels safe. 1 Getting started ‘As soon as you buy a bike, contact your insurer to make sure you have the relevant cover in place; different insurance policies vary so it’s essential to check,’ advises Tim Downes, Senior Claims Manager, Halifax Home Insurance. ‘Take plenty of photos of your bike and make a note of the serial number and model. If it gets stolen this will make it easy to identify to the police and insurers,’ he adds. 2 Lock it up ‘Spend some time and money on finding the best bike…

Beauty writer Emma North shares her favourite eye make-up removers Nivea Double Effect Eye Make-Up Remover, £3.89, boots.com A staple product in every beauty editor’s bathroom, it’s cheap as chips and removes ¡ really stubborn make- up before you cleanse. Shake the bottle to mix the liquids and gently swipe across the eye to remove. La Roche-Posay Respectissime Waterproof Eye Make-Up Remover, £11, boots.com A perfect option for those with sensitive eyes. The formula gets rid of all traces of make-up, including waterproof mascara, without harsh rubbing, which can cause irritation and soreness. Soap & Glory Puffy Eye Attack Triple Action Jelly Eye Make-Up Remover, £5, lookfantastic.com The cooling, soothing jelly texture works well on hot, tired eyes, helping to reduce puffiness. If you’ve had a long day, close your…

Bethe Marchant, 25, Leeds Arriving at my boyfriend Stefan’s house, I peered up at the tiny black eye watching my every move. The CCTV camera over the front door swivelled round. It was May 2019 and Stefan, then 28, had installed the equipment before we’d got together. ‘They’ll put off burglars,’ he told me. And they did make me feel safer when I came to stay with him. That night, me and Stefan headed out for dinner. I felt so lucky to have him. We’d first met at a bar in September 2018. Kind, caring and polite, he was everything I was looking for in a partner. And with his fit physique towering over 6ft, he wasn’t harsh on the eye, either. I was always daydreaming about our future together.…

Alexzandria Wolliston, 25 As soon as the sonographer pushed the cold gel across my belly, I shivered. Then there was silence as the blurry picture formed on the screen. ‘Everything OK? Is there more than one?’ I joked. ‘I’m not supposed to tell you this until the doctor comes,’ she replied with a smile. ‘But yes, there are two babies!’ Bursting into giggles, I couldn’t believe it. I know I’d asked...but I wasn’t expecting that! It was June 2018 and I’d managed to fall unexpectedly pregnant. See, I already had one baby, Ar’mani, with my ex-partner Curtis. We were childhood sweethearts, but split up after Ar’mani was born in January 2017. We loved being parents to our little girl, but our relationship didn’t work. Still, we stayed living together for…

On 26 May 2018, a small cattle-farming community was shaken when two teenage girls were found dead. Sharnelle Hough, 17, and her cousin Marna Engelbrecht, 16, were loved by all who knew them. Now, their friends and family were left heartbroken. The girls attended Stella High School, in the North West territory of South Africa where, like many students, they lodged in a hostel on site. Both had promising futures ahead. But that May weekend, their lives were cut short. When the hostel’s matron entered the property, she’d found Sharnelle’s body hanging from the staircase. Horrified, the matron called the police. Then, further tragedy. Marna was lifeless in the bathroom, strangled by a bag strap. The girls had been the las left in the school lodgings and planned to return…

Q How long will you continue to model for? A I have no plans to wind down or to retire. I’m still in good condition, have my looks and my figure and, more importantly, the drive to carry on. I’ll continue to model for as long as I can and as long as there’s work out there for me. Q What’s the best thing about being a mature model? A It’s certainly been a huge confidence boost for me and I’m flattered to be asked to do as many shoots as I do. There’s a lot of people who think you become invisible after a certain age, but I want to show that this couldn’t be further from the truth and that age really is just a number. Q What’s…

Does my littl’un have an infection? Q My baby constantly has sticky eyes. My health visitor’s not worried, but surely something’s wrong? Paulette, Barnoldswick A Excess tears normally drain away through your tear duct, a narrow tube leading from the inner corner of your eye to the back of your nose. Around one in five babies are born with one or both tear ducts blocked, meaning tears can’t escape and form a sticky discharge. As long as the white of the eye isn’t red, there’s no infection, and treatment means using cooled, boiled water on cotton wool to wipe the eye clear, from the inside corner outwards. Massaging the tear duct three or four times a day might help clear it – gently stroke upwards where your baby’s nose joins…

ANTI POLL TAX RIOT Forty five police officers were among 113 injured when an anti-poll tax rally erupted on the streets of London on 31 March 1990. A total of 340 people were arrested after cars were overturned and set alight and the police were attacked with bricks and cans. Tube stations and restaurants were forced to close for safety reasons. The protests, attended by around 70,000 people, were in response to the new Government levy. The demonstration had started peacefully, but turned violent into the evening. UNSOLVED SHOOTING Jack Royal, 57, was shot through the window of his Newcastle-upon- Tyne home as he watched TV on 19 March 1990. A man was tried for his murder, but acquitted. Another man was found guilty of the killing in 1993, but…

The Plain of Jars is a UNESCO World Heritage Site in which country? Solve the crossword, then read down the yellow squares. The yellow shaded squares will spell out the prize puzzle answer. ACROSS 1 Raises up (5) 4 Tree (3) 6 Jedi Master from Star Wars (4) 7 Eg, James Bond (3) DOWN 1 Former PM, David _ George (5) 2 Nourishes (5) 3 Uncle _, US symbol (3) 5 Single circuit of a track (3) WIN £50 Puzzle 13 Your answer: TO ENTER Turn to page 56 for details or visit comps.lifedeathprizes.com/puzzles…

FILL ME IN Which British Royal House was a branch of the House of Welf? Follow the arrows and write in your answers. Then read down the shaded squares to find the prize answer. WIN £100 Puzzle 14 Your answer: CIRCLE TIME What name was given to version 2.0 of Google’s Android operating system? Fit the words into the grid. Read down the letters in the shaded circles for the prize answer. 3 letters BOACARCOGEGGERAICEINKSACWOOYES 4 letters ARCHCRAGFASTGIRLOWLSTYPOYETI 5 letters ASSETCOCOAUSURP 6 letters ALUMNIASKINGBRIDGEFIASCORARELY SQUARE 8 letters HIGHWAYSHIGHWAYS WIN £100 Puzzle 15 Your answer: TO ENTER Turn to page 56 for details or visit comps.lifedeathprizes.com/puzzles…

Women car owners in the UK spend an average of £2,418 per year running and maintaining their car, compared to an average of £4,344 for men, according to a study by knowyourmoney.co.uk. This is a big difference of £1,926. The research also found that 19% of car owners have taken on debt to pay for a car service, repair or MOT in the past 12 months. Did you know? A third of Brits have used property websites to snoop on the home of someone they know, while 15% admit they’ve „ arranged a viewing, Direct Line Home Insurance found. TOP TIP Fed up with eBay fees. Try Gumtree, Facebook Marketplace or local Facebook selling pages.…

This Is Going to Hurt BBC2 Ben Whishaw stars in the drama based on the bestselling diary of a former junior doctor. He’ll play Adam, a hard-working medic on an NHS labour ward, who struggles with the crippling 97-hour working weeks, while also having to make life and death decisions. Impeachment BBC2 American Crime Story returns with another drama based on real events. This time, it goes back to the mid-90s as President Bill Clinton (Clive Owen) faces impeachment proceedings following an affair with intern Monica Lewinsky (Beanie Feldstein). Sarah Paulson also stars as whistleblower Linda Tripp. The Crown NETFLIX When The Crown makes its eagerly anticipated return to Netflix for a fourth series, don’t miss The Fall star Gillian Anderson as Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher, who leads Britain into…

Q What can I use to make my hair super shiny and healthy? Eileen McLean, 63, Edinburgh A To get gorgeously glossy hair, start by using shampoo and conditioner designed to give mirror-like shine. Lee Stafford Coco Loco Shine Shampoo and Conditioner, £6.99 each, superdrug.com, is formulated with agave extracts to nourish hair root-to-tip, leaving your locks gleaming. Support your hair from the inside out with a quality supplement. We love Vitabiotics Perfectil Plus Hair Extra Support, £19, vitabiotics.com. Before you style your hair, apply a blow-dry spray like Tresemmé Smooth & Shine Blow-Dry Mist, £5.49, boots.com, to protect those strands from heat damage, as well as locking in extra shine. Keep hair smooth by using a brush that minimises damage to the hair. Try Manta Brush in Pink, £25,…

When young skier Molly Bloom hit the branch of a pine tree on the slopes, competing for a place in the 2002 Olympics, it changed the course of her life. For years, the pretty 23-year-old had been pushed to succeed by her dad, who’d been her ski coach. But after the horrific accident, which damaged her back and meant she’d never ski professionally again, she took some time out to consider her options. With plans of eventually going to law school, the ambitious brunette from a small town in Colorado decided she’d first spend a year in Los Angeles. So in 2003 Molly, 24, went to LA with $1,700 (around £1,300) of savings she’d earned babysitting. She said she wanted to ‘be young for a while in warm weather’. But…

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